Guest Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 This is gonna be long and I apologize I just don't know what to do anymore... OK so 7 years ago I met what I thought was the "perfect" guy, we started dating quickly and I knew he was "the one"...I soon became pregnant and we married when our daughter was nine months old... We both worked for a cellular company at their call center and he was a floor trainer...he met a girl there and had a physical affair with her... he left me for a week said he was gonna stay with a guy he worked with...within 5 days he called and said he wanted to come home to be with me and our daughter...I got up early one day and checked his cell phone and found a message from this other girl saying that she loved him and missed him...I accused him of the affair then...I honestly had no idea until then that anything was going on...he denied it said she was just a friend and that she was going through a rough time with her boyfriend..so I got the "balls" and messaged her telling her to please stop and leave my husband alone...then the real story came out...she told me that it was her that he had stayed with that week and that they had had sex several times in the last few months...she also said that when he told her he was going home it was cause of our daughter not because of me...which he STILL denies that.... so fast forward 4 years we are married I think we are pretty much happy but we do have a few issues...he is working for a new company and meets yet another "friend" I notice that he starts hididng his cellphone...so I start saying stuff about this "friendship"...well a couple months ago I asked him to take me to the doctor one day cause it was a holiday..he said no he had to work and couldnt get the day off (he also told me this IN FRONT of my parents) so I try calling him 16-20 times that day with NO answer from his phone...So I call him at work...they are CLOSED for the holiday...I call his "friend" to see if she knows what he is up to that day knowing that they talk all the time...she too is not home she is out shopping...he mom and I start talking cause we are both curious about how much my husband and her daughter are talking...so the mom calls her daughter and within 10 minutes of her calling....my husband FINALLY returns my call...funny huh...so he tells me he is in town springfield shopping and that he will be home a lil later...(springfield is north of us) well a couple hours go by and Im cooling off and my phone rings...its the girls mom...she asks what kind of vehicle we have and what the plates are on it...so I tell her...she's like that car is parked at a hotel parking lot in Carlinville...(which is south of us) he still swears to this day that they werent together..yet wont tell me where he was...So months go by and we are argueing more and more about things and I keep bringing up this friend telling him I dont trust the friendship that Im not comfortable with it...so a couple weeks ago I get a call out of the blue from the "friends" mom...she has written her mom a letter letting her know that my husband and her have talked about dating and getting together after he divorces me....so she gives me a copy of the letter and I read it and confront him with it...he says he didnt write it and that he has not said he's divorcing me and he has NEVER talked about dating her....I then start to recieve copies of emails this "friend" is sending her family about my husband and her telling them things about how they want to be together and talk about thier future together..so I left.... We had been fighting alot with the first few days I left cause he was mad at me for taking our daughter...so I set up a meeting with him on Sunday...I go up to the house and we have a WONDERFUL talk...he tells me that he still loves me and that if he had any feelings for this "friend" and wanted me out of his life he would tell me..said that if he just wanted me out of his life why wouldnt he lie and say that he did love this "friend" so I would walk out the door and leave him alone...but he said he wasnt gonna do that cause he would be lying to me...So Monday night comes and he drops our daughter back off with me...but forgets her toy..says he's gonna go home and finish watching a movie...it becomes her bedtime and I notice not stuffed animal for her to sleep with..so I go up to the house...he's not home..so I go to a place that I know him and the "friend" meet at often to "talk"...sure enough he is out there...I look in our vehicle to see if the animal is in there..it isnt but his cellphone is and its unlocked...I see a message from her to him stating I love you!!!...I went off tore his shirt off him called him everyname in the book... So this weekend I find out he told her that he does still tell me he loves me but he told her its all a mind game to try and get our daughter...I also found out that she told her aunt that YES she is in love with my husband...I also found out that he is supposedly filing divorce paperwork to get out of our marriage.. I figure he doesnt even want to try and work it out at this point in time...but I still do...and I dont know why..I know that if I do go back..he will just continue with what he has been doing if not with this "friend" he'll find another to do it with...so how do I tell my heart to give up on this man..that he is NEVER gonna be faithful to me...to just let him be...deal with him for our daughter and only for our daughter and move on...heal me and find someone else that WILL love me and treat me the way I should be treated???
AMBERINVEGAS Posted June 11, 2006 Posted June 11, 2006 GET OUT YOUR ARE BEING PLAYED...LOOK AT MY POSTING IT'S THE SAME. Girl caught messaging him (she's married with a child". I message her and she gives me THE DETAILED INFORMATION...that only three people would know...my boyfriend of five years, me and the girl AT HIS WORK WHOM JUST MOVED INTO HIS DEPARTMENT. She calls me horrible names, says I can't please him and thats my fault he goes to her. So even though I have several text messages, plus her detailed info about their sex..he will go to his grave DENY DENY DENY DENY DENY...it's like being on cheaters..and they have him and his face, they play it back to him and he says' "thats not me"...same thing..well "she is having problems so i wanted to help her"., ok tell her to see a marrige counslor. But he told HER about our sex life....because he feels he is entitled to have it EVERYSINGLE DAY..and even demands it...I'm like get out of my face. 3 times a week even 4 if good. So he tells this girl that and she is more than willing to well, make up for my lack of the daily routine. Now, this has just happened. started April 24. he left at 7:30 pm said he was going to his sisters. The beer he bought and cooler and SLEEPING BAG was bought at 9pm right next to where the girl works. I called and text messaged him from 8 until 3am till he walked through the door. You get that feeling inside something is wrong..go with it. sure enough, I pulled the cell phone records, he called her at 2am and talked to her for over 35 mins. I said..ok...what and why would you be talking to her at that time of night? his reply? I don't remember, I was drunk. Oh but you drove home and could have killed someone..but you found your way home. Believe it..he is cheating. get out.
rossi Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 This is gonna be long and I apologize I just don't know what to do anymore... OK so 7 years ago I met what I thought was the "perfect" guy, we started dating quickly and I knew he was "the one"...I soon became pregnant and we married when our daughter was nine months old... We both worked for a cellular company at their call center and he was a floor trainer...he met a girl there and had a physical affair with her... he left me for a week said he was gonna stay with a guy he worked with...within 5 days he called and said he wanted to come home to be with me and our daughter...I got up early one day and checked his cell phone and found a message from this other girl saying that she loved him and missed him...I accused him of the affair then...I honestly had no idea until then that anything was going on...he denied it said she was just a friend and that she was going through a rough time with her boyfriend..so I got the "balls" and messaged her telling her to please stop and leave my husband alone...then the real story came out...she told me that it was her that he had stayed with that week and that they had had sex several times in the last few months...she also said that when he told her he was going home it was cause of our daughter not because of me...which he STILL denies that.... so fast forward 4 years we are married I think we are pretty much happy but we do have a few issues...he is working for a new company and meets yet another "friend" I notice that he starts hididng his cellphone...so I start saying stuff about this "friendship"...well a couple months ago I asked him to take me to the doctor one day cause it was a holiday..he said no he had to work and couldnt get the day off (he also told me this IN FRONT of my parents) so I try calling him 16-20 times that day with NO answer from his phone...So I call him at work...they are CLOSED for the holiday...I call his "friend" to see if she knows what he is up to that day knowing that they talk all the time...she too is not home she is out shopping...he mom and I start talking cause we are both curious about how much my husband and her daughter are talking...so the mom calls her daughter and within 10 minutes of her calling....my husband FINALLY returns my call...funny huh...so he tells me he is in town springfield shopping and that he will be home a lil later...(springfield is north of us) well a couple hours go by and Im cooling off and my phone rings...its the girls mom...she asks what kind of vehicle we have and what the plates are on it...so I tell her...she's like that car is parked at a hotel parking lot in Carlinville...(which is south of us) he still swears to this day that they werent together..yet wont tell me where he was...So months go by and we are argueing more and more about things and I keep bringing up this friend telling him I dont trust the friendship that Im not comfortable with it...so a couple weeks ago I get a call out of the blue from the "friends" mom...she has written her mom a letter letting her know that my husband and her have talked about dating and getting together after he divorces me....so she gives me a copy of the letter and I read it and confront him with it...he says he didnt write it and that he has not said he's divorcing me and he has NEVER talked about dating her....I then start to recieve copies of emails this "friend" is sending her family about my husband and her telling them things about how they want to be together and talk about thier future together..so I left.... We had been fighting alot with the first few days I left cause he was mad at me for taking our daughter...so I set up a meeting with him on Sunday...I go up to the house and we have a WONDERFUL talk...he tells me that he still loves me and that if he had any feelings for this "friend" and wanted me out of his life he would tell me..said that if he just wanted me out of his life why wouldnt he lie and say that he did love this "friend" so I would walk out the door and leave him alone...but he said he wasnt gonna do that cause he would be lying to me...So Monday night comes and he drops our daughter back off with me...but forgets her toy..says he's gonna go home and finish watching a movie...it becomes her bedtime and I notice not stuffed animal for her to sleep with..so I go up to the house...he's not home..so I go to a place that I know him and the "friend" meet at often to "talk"...sure enough he is out there...I look in our vehicle to see if the animal is in there..it isnt but his cellphone is and its unlocked...I see a message from her to him stating I love you!!!...I went off tore his shirt off him called him everyname in the book... So this weekend I find out he told her that he does still tell me he loves me but he told her its all a mind game to try and get our daughter...I also found out that she told her aunt that YES she is in love with my husband...I also found out that he is supposedly filing divorce paperwork to get out of our marriage.. I figure he doesnt even want to try and work it out at this point in time...but I still do...and I dont know why..I know that if I do go back..he will just continue with what he has been doing if not with this "friend" he'll find another to do it with...so how do I tell my heart to give up on this man..that he is NEVER gonna be faithful to me...to just let him be...deal with him for our daughter and only for our daughter and move on...heal me and find someone else that WILL love me and treat me the way I should be treated??? I DON"T GET YOU, DO YOU NEED MORE PROOF? THIS MAN IS A SERIAL CHEATER. WHAT ARE WATING TO LEAVE HIM! HE'S LYING TO YOU. HE IS A CAKE MAN.
joeyr812 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I picked up a little detail in your note that might help you see it in a different light. I've got a little girl....she needs her stuffed animal to sleep. My daughter is more important than ANYTHING in the world to me, just as every little girl should be to her dad. If she needed her animal, I'd do anything to get it to her. I can't think of anything being more important. So....he didn't just let you down...he let her down too. My point is...your daughter sees all this. She sees him hurt you and lie to you, she sees how you react. It has to end. I know you want it to work, but how can you be assured that it will end? If you don't have the strength to do it for you, do it for your daughter. Then, take half his s***.
Hurting_4_Him Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 just so you all know I posted this...now...please read my new post...cause Im SOOOO over his lying cheating mindgame playing a$$...he is not worth my time, or his daughters time either!
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