Prettyinblack Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 SO what do you do when you and your ex start talking reconiliation, (his idea), and then things sort of peter out to sporadic contact,(weekly), as though you are just 'friends?' This is how it's transpired in the course of 2 months.........do you break all contact or still be their friend with the hope of reconciling?
francis Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 I found myself in exactly the same position. He told me that he didnt believe our break up was permanent, he told me that our connection could not be replaced by another. I waited a year. We would have stayed in contact for ever,if i hadnt stopped it. He was quite happy to keep me at arms length forever. Whenever i did push for the reconciliation to become concrete, he would insist that he needed more time to think stuff through. I just couldnt handle dangling on a piece of string any longer, being made to feel worthless. I strongly believe that if a person wants to be with you, they will be. Simple as that. I made excuses for an entire year. My advice, cut contact all together. At first I worried that it would send the wrong signals. Then I realised, that he knows how I feel. Ignoring his contact will show you the truth of the situation. If he disappears, he wasn't serious. If it shakes him into action, and solid, real action, then you know you did the right thing. I think as long as you feel that your intentions have been made clear to him, and he is still hesitant, you should move on immediately.
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