leeroy1985 Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 Me and my girlfriend have been together for over a year now and we're still going strong.... well until last night! We went out together last night and she met some of her friends, mine didnt turn up I dont mind as i can have a laugh with my gf. But heres the thing thats bothering me.... This lad started working with her about 4 month ago and for the last couple of week she never shuts up about him, shes always telling me how sweet he is and how funny he is and what a laugh she has with him, im fine with her having lad mates but bragging about him?!?! Anyway, a couple of days ago i took her for something to eat as she said she was skint. Later that day she gets a phone call to go out and shes goes out. To cut a long story short she lied about having no money, had me buy her something to eat and spent all her money on getting pissed! Basically she lied to me. Back to the original story..... Last night this lad who she talks about turns up, now baring in mind that until he turns up she just sat there all night and when i asked her to dance she declined, she decides to go for a "girly" dance which mean i cant go, im not a girl. But when i get bored and go to dance with her, shes bopping away with this lad shes always talking about. To top things off she was supposed to be coming to mine for some loving but not long after this guy turns up she decides she doesnt want to stop at mine as she dont feel too well but then stops at her "mates" as far as i know because when i went to the taxi rank she had already booked me a taxi. So.... she lied to me about money, what else is she going to lie about? And.... she went for a "girly" dance but ended up dancing with this lad, she never stoips talking about him and to say that she wanted me to come out she seemed awfully quick to get rid of me! Am i just the biggest paranoid fool ever or is there something more to this? Im not sure but its driving me crazy, shes not going to admit anything if there is something going on so what do i do?
Kittiecat Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 I think it would be a good idea to confront her about it. The lying and talking up the other guy, dancing with him and leaving WITHOUT YOU sets off alarm bells. At the very least she's got a lot of questions to answer. Good luck.
tanbark813 Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 I don't know if anything is going on right now between your girl and this guy but there might be. The dancing thing is definitely disrespectful though. I would be mad about that if I were you. When she started dancing with that guy you should have gone and danced with some random girl.
TheTallOne Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 I am going to go on a hunch here... But I think this relationship has ended. I'd suggest you take the upper hand, and dump her before she dumps you. She is obviously disrespecting you, and you've lost trust of her. Trust me, this isn't going to get better. Get out quick.
Vertex Posted June 4, 2006 Posted June 4, 2006 So let me get this straight. You take her for some food and she says she's broke and later goes out and gets pissed -- are you certain that friends didn't buy things for her? How do you know she lied about money? The dance thing upsets me. She just sat there declining dances with you until this new guy showed up? AND she booked you a taxi out of there? Definite red flags. People in good relationships don't blow the other person off like that. You have entirely justified and reasonable concerns so I would not classify you as paranoid at all! You should definitely talk with her about this and ask what the deal was. Don't accuse her of cheating unless an argument lends credence to it or there is other substantial evidence (if a girl isn't cheating and you insist that she is, it will cause a lot more problems), but just inquire about that night itself and why she was so disrespectful.
Sevenmack Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 From where I sit, all I can see is that she's not showing you any respect and she seems to already be engaged in an affair with this new man. At this point, you can talk to her all you want, but it isn't worth it. If she's trying to hide the affair -- and she's doing a poor job of it -- then she won't fess up anyway. If she admits to it, she's just telling you the obvious. Even if there is no affair, her treatment of you is just plain shabby: Declines to dance with you; sends you off so she can have fun without you in her presence; chats up another man incessantly. You should have given her a sharp talking-to long before the night of her being a b---h. It's too late now. Dump her. Hard. And don't let this kind of situation happen to you again.
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