radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 I have to agree with alphamale when he says that women have the final say as to the type of man they will be with and how long the relationship lasts. Men have no say in the matter. For guys it's unfortunately a matter of playing the waiting game before the right woman comes along. My theory is that the right woman will come along when a man stops pursuing women completely & plays the waiting game. While he plays the waiting game he works on self improvement-- working out in the gym, diving into hobbies, working overtime, hanging out with friends of both genders, taking a class, etc. Now some of the women might say that a guy can decline a woman's offer for dates. I agree but here's the thing. If a woman is really into you then she will be irresistable. If I'm able to resist women then that means they are not really into me. I have declined offers from 2 women to date me. There was a reason that I declined. If they were really into me then I would not have a reason to decline them and I therefore could not resist. They may act like it on the outside. But a man will not be able to resist a woman that is truly into him. The thought won't even enter his mind. So men I advise you to stop pursing women altogether. Let them come to you. Fate has dictated that women have the final say in these matters. Fate cannot work for you if you are still pursuing. If you declined a woman's offer then there's a reason fate allowed you to do so.
norajane Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 How exactly is a woman supposed to become totally into you if she's just met you and asked you out cause she'd like to get to kow you? Isn't dating the way people get to know each other?
whichwayisup Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 women have the final say as to the type of man they will be with and how long the relationship lasts. If the man loves the woman he's with and treats her well - With respect, with love and with passion - That woman is more than likely NOT going to end the relationship. You also don't know those women well enough to make such a quick decision that they're not worthy of getting to know. Take a chance, see what happens. If you don't, YOU are the one who could lose out on a good experience. Isn't dating the way people get to know each other? Exactly!
Lights Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 My theory is that the right woman will come along when a man stops pursuing women completely & plays the waiting game. While he plays the waiting game he works on self improvement-- working out in the gym, diving into hobbies, working overtime, hanging out with friends of both genders, taking a class, etc. Self-improvement is one of the worthiest things one can do. Do it anyways, and do it for your own purposes. Do not expect to impress anyone else or to expect it to bring some magic "right" people to cross your path. It's even possible that in some cases the exact opposite might happen--your hobby/self-improvement technique/hangout zone near your existing friends/whatever might put you around dangerous or undesirable people. Just use your time as you see fit regardless of who's around. No one can live your life for you, whether you're seeing someone or not. So men I advise you to stop pursing women altogether. Let them come to you. Care to tell how this is done? I'm very much interested in learning. I've been chronically seeing half my dating life consigned to nonexistence from the start due to this not happening. How exactly is a woman supposed to become totally into you if she's just met you and asked you out cause she'd like to get to kow you? Isn't dating the way people get to know each other? Amen, sistah!
crazy_grl Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 But a man will not be able to resist a woman that is truly into him. The thought won't even enter his mind. I'm calling BS on this one. Can I see your sources and studies on this?? Interesting theory you've got, and it could lead to a lot of self-improvement and growth, but I think you're wrong. How's a woman going to get to know you if you don't bother to ask her out. The fact is that a lot of women just don't ask guys out.
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 Then if she doesn't ask him out she's not interested. My point is that women have the final say in whether they just want a friendship or an exclusive romantic relationship.
Agent M Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 How is it that a woman who is really into you will prove irresistable? There are men I've been really into who have been able to resist me. Also, I personally love to be pursued. It makes me feel great.
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 How is it that a woman who is really into you will prove irresistable? There are men I've been really into who have been able to resist me. Also, I personally love to be pursued. It makes me feel great. Then you were not into those men enough to woo them back to you. If you are really into him then you would seduce him.
Author radiation7740 Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 Please....tell me more!! Tell you what? I can't tell you how to seduce a man. That's something only other women can teach you. Just as a woman cannot teach me how to be a man. That's something I learn from male mentors. Therefore no man should seek a woman's advice on how to fix his relationship with his gf. A woman should not go to a man for advice on fixing her relationship with her bf. No man can teach a woman how to be seductive.
Agent M Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 Tell you what? I can't tell you how to seduce a man. That's something only other women can teach you. Just as a woman cannot teach me how to be a man. That's something I learn from male mentors. Therefore no man should seek a woman's advice on how to fix his relationship with his gf. A woman should not go to a man for advice on fixing her relationship with her bf. No man can teach a woman how to be seductive. Oh give me a break. It sounds more like you can't explain what you mean. I've read lots of threads where men have given great advice to women, and vice versa. I personally date men who have minds of their own and they decide how they feel, one way or the other. It has nothing to do with me waving a magic, "seductive" wand and having everything just work out.
runner Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 to me this topic is all about male insecurity. i prefer to believe that both men and women can and will reject whomever for whatever reason they wish. its certainly been true in the world i live in. and for a guy to advise another guy to quit chasin women, well thats just pathetic lol
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