a-j Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 Hi sorry to post asking for help on my first post but reading through some other posts i hope one of you guys can give me a bit of advice on what to do as you all seem to know the right answers! im afraid its a long one, and ill probs start repeating myself! So right iv know a girl for about half a year and we are good friends (well were but im confused!) I feel so much for and can even go as far as saying i love her i am that sure! I just havent been able to ask her out, i keep wanting to its just im scared of getting the response i dont want because i feel i wouldnt be able to even bare looking at her without being able to have her, and the problem lies here because i cannot just let go if she says we are no more than friends as we are in the same class and it would be really awkward. I dont know why i cant bring myself to ask, i think its a combination of as i said above but i think i also have little self confidence, i see myself as unnatractive and i used to be a little overweight and hated myself. The most annoying bit is i went in psycho gym phase and i have to tell myself im not overweight! Im actually like really toned and muscley but when i see myself i still see myself overweight when i am clearly not! its wierd i cant really describe it, and i know im not unattractive because i get attention from other people but i just sort of cant get my head round it! But also im unsure where i stand with this girl, we go through times of being always together then we kind of get a bit distant and then close again etc! Its taken me a while but iv finally realised that she must have feelings for me because when were together were really close and when we sit together we sit really close and not like how you would sit with an opposite sex friend, i know that means not a lot but thats just an example Iv kind of also been putting off asking her recently because im 17 and i have been trying to get driving so i can get to her more easilly and go out together as we live not conveniently close together. My parents split up recently and Ive just been a bit messed up and havent really spoken to her a lot recently and iv been ignoring her a bit (not on purpose!) She has since sort of got with someone else to which i didnt handle too well and just decided to blank her, but i couldnt hold it up and ended up going for dinner with her and still speaking and texting her! Is just i cant get my head round it as she still show feelings for me and im wondering wether she started seeing him to make me jealous for ignoring her a bit (she doesnt know whats been going on at home so wouldnt know why i was a bit off) I love her so much and dont want to loose her, i keep crying which is totally unlike me and its taken me a lot to admite it to a load of people i dont know! I just dont understand what to do like when im talking on msn i she sometimes goes overboard on the kisses when she says bye and its not just like the friendly xxx at the end , last night i got 'bye xxxxxxxx' which strikes me a little odd when shes meant to be seeing someone Iv dedided i need to tell her how i feel but now i need to know, do you think this wise? and what would be the best way to go about it?
Guest Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 Definitely tell her. Just let her know that you value the friendship you share, and do not want to lose it... even so, you need to be honest with her, and want her to listen to you and understand you. Tell her that you do not want to disrespect her relationship with this other guy, but this is something that you wanted to tell her for a long time, and you had some family issues that diverted your attention. Then tell her how you feel. Listen to her response, and understand her... see things from her stand point... then take things from there. Good luck!
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