MadlyInLove01 Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Hi, my bf and I have been dating for 7 months. Recently he's becoming very needy and want my care all the time, but I'm not the kind of person that knows how to show care. Besides, whenever I show care in my way he complains that it's the wrong way. So, I just want to know how do you show care for someone you love? Thanks.
Yamaha Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 I perfer actions. Words are nice but when someone shows me they care by actions it makes me want to show the same care. If he is really needy that could be a turn off. He may be clingy and this will spell trouble down the road because he will become selfish. A well rounded person enjoys their lover but doesn't want to put them in a cage. Guys like food and sex. Feed him and be his friend. Listen to him and give your opinions. There are two of you so don't lose yourself but enjoy the fact that you care and respect another human being.
Love Hurts Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Needy is added pressure. A loving relationship should'nt be to much work. Love is practically effortless. Love does not see faults. Love does not accuse. Love does not hurt. Love does not make a list of your mistakes. I think your boy friend loves himself.......... no doubt. He has expectations and you are trying. Yes, working harder to please him. This is a warning sign of events to come,,,,,,,,,,,, he will grow more needy and you will not be able to perform on Q. Your best will not be good enough......... I am afraid he sees a mommy in you......... you are not his equal.... He is superior........... you are something he acquired ... now you must do what he expects............ There are many of those guys out there.. Sad............... they have a loving heart beside them....... and can't see it.... How do you show him you care? He knows you do, that's why he wants more ..... More control of you............. you are in his training camp and do not realize it.... One day at a time..... you will loose sight of your goals and desires in life. Until you find yourself investing all of you, into his needs and desires. That is where he wants to take you.................... it is a gentle slow brainwashing technique................... You can't the chains.................. but his goal is to enslave you..... Look at your relationship with new vission, from the outside in. Do not bend so much for this man.................... back off......... Do more things that you desire to do. Good luck
Guest Posted June 3, 2006 Posted June 3, 2006 He may not be "needy" - perhaps he just wants a little attention. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm not really a caring person either, so when my boyfriend wants attention and love and affection, I emulate him. I do the same things he does to show me he cares, with a little twist. If he's doing it for/to you, chances are he won't mind being on the receiving end. Send him surprise emails with cute messages. Give him a call at work just to let him know you miss him and can't wait to see him later. When you know he has an insanely busy day, show up at the office with lunch (that he can eat comfortably and quickly). Find poems online that relate to you, and email them randomly. Initiate things that you normally wouldn't. For example, if he usually plans all the dates, you can arrange something... like a date for the whole day. Breakfast, movies, park, dinner, time alone at home. Include things that he likes, like for the movie, if he likes action, get tickets to that type of movie. If he really likes peaches, slice some up and put them on the plate with the breakfast. There are lots of little things that you can do, but its always better when it is personalized.
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