alostdj Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 I'm not big on internet forums but I figure it may be a good way to get a broader spectrum of advice then people I know irl... SO, I am with a woman who I am quickly falling in love with and she has been living with me for about 6 months now... When we first began getting involved, I made a decision to wait on sex and take it slow because my sexual dissatisfaction was a major issue in my last relationship. To be more specific, the rapid decline of what was once a great sex life wore me down and I had to end the relationship for fear of losing my mind, lol. So, I wanted to try a different approach and make sure that everything minus the sex was great first. Well, the problem now is that my current love is reluctant to start heating things up... I am not really into sex outside of a relationship, one night stands and random women lost their appeal for me many years ago... but in the context of a relationship sexual intimacy is very VERY important to me... Things have been degrading to the point that she really doesnt even fool around with me anymore, I suspect for fear that I will try and take things to another level... As a result I am starting to neglect her needs as I feel mine are being neglected and both of us are becoming increasingly unhappy as time goes by. There may be some underlying issues which are preventing her from accepting my sexual advances... but if so she is unwilling to talk about it with me and it seems like her whole attitude is almost like "Well, sex wasnt an issue before so why is it one now." It seems my strategy has completely backfired!! I could go on and on but I'll leave it there, any advice on the current situation or possible alternate approaches to finding a woman I can spend the rest of my life with... I have been ready and looking for a serious commitment forever but based on my track record it seems like i have to make a choice between a woman who can/will satisfy my sexual/intimacy needs and a woman who is actually somewhat sane... is there such a thing as a woman who likes sex AND is more then just a pretty face?? I am starting to really wonder... and am almost about to give up hope.
Author alostdj Posted June 3, 2006 Author Posted June 3, 2006 no replies at all, bummer so much for getting advice lol
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