Yikes!!!

[babydoll_mimi]

Be prepared, this might be a lengthy post, but it's well worth the reading if you haven't had your share of drama for the day. So my MM calls me when I was in the middle of my nap and says, "I've got something that'll wake you up, and it might be the start of a really rough week for the both of us." I asked him what was up...well his W works at a bank here in town. He says that he was at her work, picking up their daughter, and in walked MY DAD. The W deals w/ loans against home equity, refinancing, etc...she's the home mortgage person there. Anyway, my family has all met MM before and while I admitted that he has children, I told them he was divorced. This was while he was separated, since I met him when he was already out of the house and going through divorce proceedings. I explained in my other posts that recently he moved back in to avoid losing custody,etc,etc. Since he's been living there again (about one month), I haven't seen much of him and he hasn't been to my house or around my family at all. However, they still don't know the truth. While my mom may be suspecting something , I told them all that he and I are not mad, we're still "friends", but I just might not be seeing that much of him for a while. Back to the story-- MM notices my dad, tries talking on the cell phone, grabs his daughter, and leaves w/out my dad noticing. He calls and tells me b/c she happened to not be working in her usual office today, but if my parents do any business w/ her, then eventually, they'll have to meet in HER office, w/ pics of MM and the kids!!! He said that he's giving me heads up b/c aside from causing trouble for him, he didn't want for my parents to feel disrespected b/c they don't know the situation, and all of a sudden here's pics of their daughter's "friend" and his W that he's supposed to be divorced from. I should note that from the beginning, he wanted to either avoid meeting my family until he was officially D'd, or tell them the truth that he's only separated. I was the one w/ the brilliant idea to simplify the situation and just say he was already D'd. Anyway, I called my mom, asked if it was my Dad there, and she said yes. She knows that MM's "ex-wife" works at this bank, and I just said that the woman dad spoke to is *bob's* ex wife, and I wouldn't want them dealing w/her b/c she will have access to all their info, etc. A lightbulb went off in mom's head and she was like "oh, is he back w/ her?" I didn't have the guts ot say the truth, so I said no. She seemed to buy it and said that they're only opening a checking acct, they have no business w/ her anyway, but it was a promotional thing and she lured my dad in there (MM had already told me today was a big promotional event there). So, my mom also said that it's better that she knows this for the future b/c if W ever finds out about me, she'll have all acces sto their info,etc... I think in mom speak, she was basically letting me know by reading between the lines that she knows i'm seeing him and she knows he's still married. So then MM calls me back and was like "You're right...I can laugh a little. There's all this adrenaline running through me right now, what would w/ do without all this excitement and drama?" lol... Just thought I'd share the rollercoaster of a time I had in the past hour.

[memphissouthernbelle]

I am so sorry that your family is in the middle of your situation. My family is also involved in mine. Actually, my mother had to deal with MM's W a few weeks ago when she came unexpected to my five year old daughter's party. Hopefully your family will realize that it is not your fault that your MM is having trouble getting his affairs in order. It is tough when the MM is a part of your life. Mine isn't really hidden to anyone but his wife. Scarey! Good luck!

[babydoll_mimi]

every once in a while, as rotten as this sounds, I just love the fact that we have to be sneaky. And then, 95% of the time, I hate having to sneak around, does anyone else feel the same way? It's such a rush, and I know that's disgusting to hear for you BS out there, but it's the truth. Also, I've always been a very level headed person who doesn't let herself fall for guys, but I know that he is the one... I love him. I love him w/ his three kids, I love him if he keeps doing well in business/financially, and I love him if he loses everything has to live in a tiny apartment... I'm just so frustrated. I wish I were done w/ school and he were finally divorced. I guess only time will tell if I'm the most naive girl on the planet, or if for once, this means i can trust my heart...