MarieD Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Hello I have been dating this great guy for over 3 months now. Everything is going great. I need advice on something. First let me start by saying that my sex drive is not very high. My new boyfriends isn't high either cause he just started his own business & its always on his mind. My relationship is based on love, not sex. The sex is fine, I have no complaints about sex. However, I am one of those women that can't climax during just regular sex. My boyfriend is very anal & clean person. He doesn't like to give oral, but he will. I take a very long time, so when he does do it, i don't climax I only climaxed 1 time in 3 months during sex, he was in just the right position.. I need alternatives. Any advice??
norajane Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 There's nothing wrong with you helping in the process. Rub your clit during penetration, or use a small vibrator during. Show him exactly what you do to bring yourself to orgasm, and take his hand in yours and show him how and where to touch you. Try all kinds of different positions to see which ones work best for you. Keep in mind that a majority of women never orgasm from penetration alone. They need their clits stimulated in order to get off. There's nothing wrong with that; it's perfectly normal. You just need to work with it so that you get more clit stim during sex. Communication is the best way to get to satisfying sex life. Tell him when he's doing something that feels really good, and give him a little direction if he's not quite getting the right spots. It takes a lot of time and practice for couples to get the orgasms right. But hey, practicing is the fun part.
Author MarieD Posted June 2, 2006 Author Posted June 2, 2006 nora yes practicing is the fun part! hahah yeah my friend told me about a flat vibrator that she uses. I'll have to look into that hahah. I'm glad that i'm normal hahah It also stinks cause his mother lives with him, ever since his father passed away, he takes care of her, which is so nice of him. so we don't have sex often. We either have to go to a hotel or have a quicky. But i guess u can't always have it perfect right!
norajane Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Do some research on this site for vibrators - there's a great Education section where you can read about the different types and how to select one for yourself. I've linked you to the first page of the "smaller vibes" section, but there are LOTS to choose from, so spend some time on the site...preferably with your boyfriend. It's a lot of fun to choose one together. http://www.mypleasure.com/store/Clitoral-Vibrators-and-Small-Vibes/index.asp
Author MarieD Posted June 2, 2006 Author Posted June 2, 2006 hahah thanks nora i'll have to check that sight out later can't do it now at work hahah
Sleeps w/Butterflies Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Hi Marie, You are not alone. I would suggest you focus on your clit during penetration. You can even visit an adult store and purchase one of those gummy vibrating strap on vibrators which stays right on your clit during intercourse. Works wonders for me Good Luck!
Walk Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 I made my bf buy me a vibrator. Nothing fancy or big. Just a small one with no frills. I get so embarressed about that stuff, but I can't come with just penetration. He was happy to oblige. You're definitely in good company in this.
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