laRubiaBonita Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 this was sent to me by a guy friend, and written by a guy.... i think it quite true. IF A MAN WANTS YOU *If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. *If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. *Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. *Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. *Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. *Slower is better. *Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. *If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. *Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. *Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. *The only person you can control in a relationship is you. *Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. *He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? *Always have your own set of friends separate from his. *Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. *If something bothers you, speak up. *Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. *You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. *Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. *Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. *Never let a man define who you are. *Never borrow someone else's man. *If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. *A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. *All men are NOT dogs. *You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. *You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. *You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. *Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. *Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him--he takes it for granted. *Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. *Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Outcast Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 *Always have your own set of friends separate from his. No reason why your friends can't become a friend of his. *Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. Well there's 'a man' and then there's 'your partner'. At some point you need to trust more than this - love requires trust. *Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. More important? How? You should admire him - and he should admire you. This sounds as though the writer suggests otherwise.
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