MichaelIsTaken90 Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 My girlfriend of 8 months right now saw her ex from 4th or 5th grade. He wasnt to far from her apartment building. But anyways when my girlfriend walks by with her friends, her ex says HELLO and then my girlfriend says and waves Hi to him. The he calls her mi amor. It means my love in spanish if u dont kno. But anyways this really bothers me cause i don't like her having contact with him. I mean im not trying to stop her from having friends but u gotta understand her ex is not wat he seems. He use to go up behind my girlfriend in 4th or 5th grade and pretend he was f****** her and he use to do all kinds of perverted things to her. But she didnt know what was going on then cuz she was still a little bit to little to comprehend wat he was really doing. But anyways this really bothers me. And another thing he called my girlfriend his love. So that really got me pissed off. What should i do guys. I already explained how i feel about this to her and i asked her not to say hi or anything to him AT ALL! Then she says to me its not a big deal. Well to me it is. She even said if an ex of mine says hi to me I'm not suppose to say hi back or talk to them at all. And u know wat i actually listen to her and respect her feelings. But obviously she doesnt repsect mine. Can anyone please help me with this problem. PLEASE tell me what to do I dont want this problem to ruin my fun day with her at the mall tommorow.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Michael, I know you prolly hate to hear this, but you guys are so young!! You are just starting out in the dating game and your emotions are raw and you can't possibly understand what it takes to make a relationship healthy and make it last!! Isn't your gf like 15? When I was 15, I had no clue what was right or wrong. I didn't know how to respect others feelings. You wanna know why? Cuz I was 15!!! Want some advice? Just calm down, tell her how you feel. IF she can't respect how you feel, then hunny, there just isn't much you can do. You can't make someoen treat you the way you want them to. Dating is a 2-way street all the way. IF she can't respect you, then maybe you should think about finding someone that your more compatible with. That is just the way it is. Even when you grow up, its still the same thing!!
Brittanyjean06 Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 The age does matter, but regardless of age..you are presently in this and are presently feeling this in the moment. I had a relationship when I was 14 Up until I was 17, now what they are saying is very true, your so young...and you are starting out in the process of a relationship. Now 5th and 4rth grade? psh an awful amount of time has certianly passed by for her to not have any exisisting feelings for him. She is with you. But if she doesn't respect you than you have to show her why you feel this way. Random advice- Your so young, and so pure have fun at this age. Because a relationship at this age with feelings, can be very damaging at your age.. I am very youn also I am 18, and I am glad I went through this at a young age, we all do sometimes..but don't let this get in the way of you having a good time in highschool, there is so much more to come and see
scrybe74 Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 You REALLY need to chill out. Your young so you need to break this now. you can't/shouldn't control people. Your gf will and should do whatever she wants to do and she should feel secure enough in her and the relationship to not let it get to you. And if you can't get over it then find a girl who won't ever speak to anyone (good luck) but I'm sure you'll find yourself alone. Here's another tip...women don't find that kinda behavior the LEAST bit attractive......at least not the ones you'd probably like to be with.
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