CityGirl88 Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 The last couple of guys that I've dated started out pretty nice, but it doesn't take long (week or so) until they start talking dirty to me. Like what kind of sexual things they want to do to me, how they plan to take off my clothes when we have sex, licking my body, sucking my toes, and even more detailed things, etc. etc. I have not had sex with either guy yet. I did not say anything to provoke this either. Why do guys start this? I don't know how to handle it. Is this normal or should I be offended? I try to change the subject and talk about other things and ask them questions about their jobs, their life or whatever, but just it always comes back to the dirty talk. They say they can't wait to get me into bed and they are turned on just by telling me and thinking about it. What should I say or do. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 I'm sorry to laugh, but that's hilarious! On the first few dates? Well, I guess you don't have to wonder whether they're attracted to you! They clearly haven't mastered the art of conversation or seduction. Honestly, it sounds like they're talking to you as though they are cyber-sex chatting with a woman online. Isn't that how those chats go? Those guys just don't know any better, I think. You might want to expand your social circle if this is the only kind of guy you're meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
kitkat826 Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 Time to move on. You can't change their behavior or attitudes towards women. If you keep finding yourself with these same type of men, however, I would start to analyze really what you're doing to attract them. Normal men in normal situations don't just burt out that stuff without being provoked. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 2, 2006 Share Posted June 2, 2006 You have to be very clear in your boundries. RIGHT from square one. Either you have a neon sign on your forehead that attracts men like that, or you may be giving off an energy to them that pick up on. I'm not saying you're asking for it - But something you're doing subconsciously is making them say that stuff to you. Just be guarded and don't have inappropriate flirty sexual conversations AT ALL. Not even joking around with them. If you do that, some guys think that's a free-for-all and they can't handle it - Then they turn into the fools that you're dating now. Link to post Share on other sites
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