Guest Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 I've been bashed enough so let's not go that direction. Here's the deal: I'm "the other man". summarized: I've been involved with this married woman for 2 1/2 years. 1 year ago she became pregnant, the child is mine and we know it for a fact by dna however her husband doesn't know. It's killing me, although she didn't want to stop the affair I have ended it totally while trying to maintain a friendship with her and that's not working because she continues to try to be physical with me. The problem is that I'm able to see the child regularly and have become very attached and I cannot let that go. I have to see her and interact with her. What in the hell should I do ? She has let her selfishness shine through by refusing to take any responsibility for both our actions and tells me that if I challenge paternity in court or tell anyone that she will move off and I'll never get to see my child again. She also refuses to divorce.
scarletletter Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Wow..that is tough. I would suggest getting a very good attorney and going for the partial custody thing. She, by law, cannot take the child away from it's natural parent when he has partial custody or that could be considered kidnapping. You have rights as a parent and I would suggest that if you have no feelings for her and she is not going to be with you, I would do everything that I could to see my child on a regular basis. Will this ruin her marriage? I would think so....depending on her husband, I guess. You do have parental rights and I would find out for sure what they are in your state or country. Good luck to you.
Bad_Monkey25 Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 WHAT!!! That's your kid, and I COMMEND you for wanting to be in it's life...my advice, F*CK her, not literally, tell her the ONLY person's life you want to be in is that child's life. Seriously, Get some legal advice on the whole "moving off" thing and what you can do about the child, because I'm SURE she can't just up and take off with him/her. She should be ashamed of herself for passing YOUR child off as her H's...I got one word for ya, Karma. That child is gonna grow up and find out the truth and hate her for it. But yeah, legal advice is the way to go...good luck!
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