ginatron Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 I usually don't get involved in forums, but I really needed help and this seemed like a good place to find it. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now .We went to and graduated from high school together. Over the summer, we began to flirt and we eventually got into a relationship together, all behind his girlfriend's back. I knew it was wrong, and so did he, but that's just how it happened. He broke up with her a month before he left for college (he goes to school in Chicago, and I stayed in Florida), and we decided to stay together even though he was away. After he left, he told me that he stopped talking to his ex-girlfriend. Turns out that he maintained a friendship with her for over 3 months before I finally found out. Naturally, this caused problems in our relationship. Eventually, he did give her the boot and told her he didn't want to be her friend. However, I've never truely forgiven him for what happened. I still bring it up, like it's a fresh wound. He's home for the summer, and we argue all of the time, and I think part of it is because I never got over what happened. I want to forgive him and forget what happened and enjoy being with him. I know he loves me as much as I love him, but I'm having a hard time just letting go and leaving it in the past. Please, if you can offer any advice as to how to just let go and forget I'd appreciate it.
tikigods Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 He cheated on his ex with you, and then lied to you about maintaining contact with her? This guy sounds like an immature guy who wants to have his cake and eat it to. You should find someone local, that isn't a cheater if you ask me.
Guest Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 I was in a situation very similar to yours. It's so hard, because I'm sure this guy has many good qualities and you only want to see those. But the truth is, if he has the inclination to engage in this behavior once, he's likely to do it again, especially if he hasn't learned his lesson. Once trust is broken, it's very hard to regain it. And you cannot have a solid relationship without trust.
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