SHortyAnGel Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 Hey, Has any MM left the M & went to the OW & it turned out to be a happy ending??? or does it always not work out???...
TravelingMan Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 I sure would like to hear some outcomes. Please anyone.
lovernotafighter Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 karis had a good outcome..but yanno as long as I've been here (which isn't that long) she is the only one I know of. so many seem so promising, and then they end all the same..it sucks. mine as well. my MM was the one who kept pushing the envelope on me he wanted to leave his W,but after I called him to the mat he folded instantly. now we are in NC like most of us here.
Jessie61 Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 One of my best friends left his W (together for a total of 11 years - married for 2) for his "OW". They are still together almost 10 years later. They have a child together which his children from the M adore. ExW met someone else and she is happy now. Everyone's getting on well. Mind you, this is the ONLY "happy ending" that I know of from my own personal experience....
Guest Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Statistics I have read: the chance of an A turning into a successful committed, exclusive relationship is less than 1%. Less than 1% of MW leave the W to start a relationship with their affair partner. In one survey, less than 1% of men left their wives to be with the OW, even though 53% SAID they would leave. Men who do leave usually take action to dissolve their marriage in the first year of the A--if nothing happens by then, it's a very good bet that they will never leave the W. Sometimes the men leave their wives but still do not commit to the OW. I went into deep shock and despair when I found my MM was online seeking and involved with additional sexual relationships with men AND women--he couldn't even keep one woman happy. PUKE. To put it mildly. Less than 5% of relationships that start as affairs last even for a short time. The men either return to their spouses, or the affair partners break apart under the strain of mutual distrust, guilt, family pressures, parenting/step-parenting issues, or resentment. Also some interesting stats and perspectives can be found in the books _This Affair is Over!_ and _How to Break Your Addiction to a Person_. These books are excellent in giving perspective and guidelines to figure out whether the relationship is going anywhere. Anywhere good, that is! Stay strong . . .
stillafool Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 As a matter of fact my brother and his new (2 yrs.) wife were both married to other people and it took 10 years but they are now married and his 2 boys and her 2 boys all get along great. They seem very happy and just bought a beautiful new home. Also I know of another woman who left her H for another man and now she and the other man are married and had a son. She has her son also from her previous marriage. So i guess in some cases it does work out, but not without a lot of pain I suppose.
eyeswideshut Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 My friend C was dating a MM who had two young children. They were together for about 2 years, and he was unhappy at home and totally in love with her. She wasn't really expecting anything from this relationship, she was dating him possibly because she wasn't looking for commitment at the time. He left his wife for her, and they've been together for 8 years. She broke up with him this year, because he didn't want children. My other friend N is a MM who met his wife while drunk and got her pregnant. He ended up coming to Canada and married her for his visa. Nothing romantic at all. Then they had three other children. All by the age of 28. Around the age of 30, he met "the love of his life" and went through a depression because it lasted three years and he was torn between leaving his wife and children and this woman. So he told the woman (whose Italian family would have disowned her for being with a MM) that if he were to leave, he would be a poor man. That he had four children to support, and he wouldn't be able to spoil her with gifts and stuff. She ended up realizing this and broke it off with him. He was heartbroken. Now, he's 38, he stills sees her "as friends" once a year. I met her recently. He tells me that personality-wise, he is much better with his wife. and that he is so glad he didn't hook up with this other girl, because she is "a princess" and she's not easy to live with. His wife, on the other hand, is extremely easy to live with, they are best friends, and she is very admirable, he learnt to love the comfort of home I guess. Both of these friends, say that according to MY story, I will end up with my MM, and to not lose hope. C says he's hesitating because he's lost too much this year, (job, brother,) and he needs to get strong again before dealing with a divorce. N says he won't be able to put up with the pretense much longer, since they've only been married 2 years, he never wanted to marry her, and they have no children, and he already announced to both families that they would be separating. I have two best friends who tell me to be patient. It's not really helping me move on. Sorry to blab like this....
LittleMiss Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Well, I first came to Loveshack because of my problems being the other woman. You can go back and look at my posts from the past. I am happy to say that I am no longer the OW. He left his wife moved in with me and now they are divorced and we are still together. His kids just started coming over on the weekends and we have such a fun time together. His ex is okay now with him being with me and having the kiddos at my house. It was really really hard at first. There was a lot of sneeking around. Especially since we work at the same place and my boss is his ex-wife's dad. Now, everyone knows about us and they don't care anymore. I feel so much better now, and I'm lucky because it doesn't always work out like this for all OW. We all know how hard it can be. If you have any more questions for me just ask and I'll be happy to answer.
eyeswideshut Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Little miss, I am going right now to check out your posts. I'm hoping to find some answers to my questions. But quickly, did you ever play the NC card??
LittleMiss Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 LOL yeah we did no contact for like an hour and then he called saying he couldn't do it and we ended up spending the night together.
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