whichwayisup Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 My husband sits while he pee's. Does that make him gay? No. It's because he's too lazy to stand and also he can't stand that LOUD power piss sound when it hits the water! I have to admit it's nice to hear it from the other room...lol
RecordProducer Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 My husband sits while he pees. This is funny and cute!
Tony T Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 It's because he's too lazy to stand and also he can't stand that LOUD power piss sound when it hits the water! I have to admit it's nice to hear it from the other room...lol Kind of relaxing, like a water fall. If I were your husband, I wouldn't take you telling me I was too lazy sitting down!
LightningRod Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 My husband sits while he pee's. Does that make him gay? No. It's because he's too lazy to stand and also he can't stand that LOUD power piss sound when it hits the water! I have to admit it's nice to hear it from the other room...lol Would you feel that he was more manly if he pissed all over the seat and the floor? Personally I think you should give him a metal. I hate taking my kids to public washrooms. Guys can be real pigs sometimes.
Outcast Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 It's because he's too lazy to stand Ah c'mon WWIU - go ahead and brag. He likes the feeling of the cool water on willy
FaithyBabe Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 I thought my husband was gay. No interest in sex for more than 5 years. doesnt look at other women. does like porn tho. enjoys anal sex, tho I dont. Now after 12 years together. still no regular sex life = tho we do it, there is no real look in his eye for it. I still wonder if he is . Our marraige counsellor said he was over socialised.Meaning that he wants everything to LOOK perfect. WHO the Hell knows? Not me
Author KnowHowLoveFeels Posted June 26, 2006 Author Posted June 26, 2006 I thought my husband was gay. No interest in sex for more than 5 years. doesnt look at other women. does like porn tho. enjoys anal sex, tho I dont. Now after 12 years together. still no regular sex life = tho we do it, there is no real look in his eye for it. I still wonder if he is . Our marraige counsellor said he was over socialised.Meaning that he wants everything to LOOK perfect. WHO the Hell knows? Not me A husband who has no interest in sex for 5 years would baffle me. But the fact that he likes porn is a dead give away that he is NOT gay. Most porn show female genitalia mostly, and I don't think that gay men enjoy watching that. He probably just has a low sex drive. As for his need to have everything appearing perfect... I know what you mean! I have way too many friends who are like that. They will not admit that their marriages are in trouble, but I know that they are miserable in reality. Sorry to hear that your H is treating you so shabbily. I love sex, and if my H withdraws sex as a form of control - that would be absolutely the last straw for me!
RecordProducer Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 A husband who has no interest in sex for 5 years would baffle me. But the fact that he likes porn is a dead give away that he is NOT gay. Most porn show female genitalia mostly, and I don't think that gay men enjoy watching that. They show men screwing women and they show a lot of men's genitalia also! Besides, we don't know what kind of porn he watches when he is alone! I think he just likes to see the guys giving those bitches what they deserve... up the ass! Or maybe he is gay that likes to be bad and watch straight sex.
Guest Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I donno. My husband also looses his erection at the thought of sex with me so that was also big indicator. He'd come out of the shower all hard but see me then it goes down. Realistically, I think I have fallen out of love with him and he is no longer in love with me so that is probably part of everything. Lately he has been trying to be loving and kind (probably to save our marriage), but I think its fake. There are no sparks between us and I miss that. Guest.
Outcast Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 My husband also looses his erection at the thought of sex with me so that was also big indicator. He'd come out of the shower all hard but see me then it goes down. That would be a big indicator that there's trouble in the marriage, not that he's gay. Why not go to a therapist with him? If he's trying to change, it may not be too late for you two.
Guest Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I've asked him for councelling many times but he wont go - says they are more screwed up then us. He does acknowledge that we have problems between us and says he wants to work on them - but that erection thing says it all doesn't it? I think he's afraid of being alone or going through another horrible divorce. I told him I would never do to him what his first wife did in the hopes that he would jump at the exit but it didn't work. I've come to the point that it's ok that he doesn't love me and wish he would come to that too so we both could move on. In the mean time we have lousy sex then later on when I'm alone, I masturbate to fantasies of a man who actually wants me. Not someone with great technique, just someone who has desire for me that's all I want or need to feel loved. Because of this I have seriously been considering an affair. Perhaps just an emotional affair for now but definately I am now looking at other men and wish my husband would find someone else too. My biggest concern at this point is not hurting a third party. I don't want to use anyone that would haunt me for sure. Guest.
Outcast Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 but that erection thing says it all doesn't it? No it doesn't! Why would you think so?
whichwayisup Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 In the mean time we have lousy sex then later on when I'm alone, I masturbate to fantasies of a man who actually wants me. Not someone with great technique, just someone who has desire for me that's all I want or need to feel loved. Tell him you DO this then. Pour your heart out and open up to you. All your feelings, thoughts and fears. Even tell him you're questioning his sexuality! SO what if it pisses him off - He's not doing ANYTHING to make things better, especially by refusing to go to counselling. He's probably scared and knows that means change... Many people, both men and women, find it easier to stick with what they know and get used to life as it is...Any sort of change requires effort... People also fall out of love, so maybe this is what is happening in your marriage.
Author KnowHowLoveFeels Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 I've asked him for councelling many times but he wont go - says they are more screwed up then us. He does acknowledge that we have problems between us and says he wants to work on them - but that erection thing says it all doesn't it? I think he's afraid of being alone or going through another horrible divorce. I told him I would never do to him what his first wife did in the hopes that he would jump at the exit but it didn't work. I've come to the point that it's ok that he doesn't love me and wish he would come to that too so we both could move on. Ok, this sounds like passive agressiveness on YOUR part. Why can't you be the one to initiate divorce if your marriage is so bad? Also, if he doesn't want to go to counseling with you, then go by yourself! Men are never going to initiate divorce... unless you are putting him in the ruins! I a gree with OUTCAST: him losing his erection doesn't mean taht he's gay. It means that he's not sexually interested in YOU. Your marriage is in alot of trouble - that requires more work than just ignoring the problems. You both need to communicate and really put an effort into making a change. Because of this I have seriously been considering an affair. Perhaps just an emotional affair for now but definately I am now looking at other men and wish my husband would find someone else too. My biggest concern at this point is not hurting a third party. I don't want to use anyone that would haunt me for sure. Guest. An extramarital affair will not help your crumbling marriage. It will only bring you more emotional pain... and I talk from experience. Falling in love with someone other than your husband is the most tormenting thing for a wife to go through. It is not something you would plan on, of course. But as the marriage worsen, you will find yourself falling in love with the other man. And the other man... who knows, perhaps, he's only considered you as a 'friend' and nothing more.
FaithyBabe Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 A husband who has no interest in sex for 5 years would baffle me. But the fact that he likes porn is a dead give away that he is NOT gay. Most porn show female genitalia mostly, and I don't think that gay men enjoy watching that. He probably just has a low sex drive. As for his need to have everything appearing perfect... I know what you mean! I have way too many friends who are like that. They will not admit that their marriages are in trouble, but I know that they are miserable in reality. Sorry to hear that your H is treating you so shabbily. I love sex, and if my H withdraws sex as a form of control - that would be absolutely the last straw for me! It seems like the last straw and i am trying to detach but I feel his anger at this and he is a very soft kinda fella. so the aggression is unusual. I think his perception of the whole thing is distorted too, he says i have rejected him when in reality he has withheld sex to punish me , claiming tiredness or whatever.
Fun2BMe Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I went out with a guy a few days ago who said his brother is married with children but is gay. I asked how he knew, he said when they were in high school he'd catch him having sex with other boys every once in a while, including in their pool. I wonder if the wife has any idea. Also I dated someone who I asked if he was gay in the beginning. Aside from his meticulous grooming, he was extra neat, sensitive, artistic and the whole stereotype but he denied it. Then we would watch porn of only anal sex and he was obsessed with always having anal with me so to this day I don't know. I mean why wouldn't he just be with a guy. I remember he got very mad at me when I commented on how nice a penis was in the porn we were watching yet it was supposed to be ok for him to comment onl the girls. He couldn't get over one comment I had made and so we eventually broke up over it. Talk about double standards.
FaithyBabe Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 I went out with a guy a few days ago who said his brother is married with children but is gay. I asked how he knew, he said when they were in high school he'd catch him having sex with other boys every once in a while, including in their pool. I wonder if the wife has any idea. Also I dated someone who I asked if he was gay in the beginning. Aside from his meticulous grooming, he was extra neat, sensitive, artistic and the whole stereotype but he denied it. Then we would watch porn of only anal sex and he was obsessed with always having anal with me so to this day I don't know. I mean why wouldn't he just be with a guy. I remember he got very mad at me when I commented on how nice a penis was in the porn we were watching yet it was supposed to be ok for him to comment onl the girls. He couldn't get over one comment I had made and so we eventually broke up over it. Talk about double standards. Awwwwww its not u honey , sometimes they just cant hack it
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