mrniceguyclimber Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Hi everyone , thanks for reading my post . Ok , I was in a one year serious relationship . All was fine . We were happy and talking of marriage and kids in the future . It was a very serious relationship . She started working long hours and was totally stressed , more than usual . I told her to take time to rest and for 3 weeks we only saw each other once . We usually spent 6 days a week together . She is happy that I am being supportive . After the 3rd week , she says she wants to break up , needs time to relax from stress . I do nc . She calls 10 times and sends numerous emails . She wants to get back together . We talk 3 hours . OK , FINE . i call the next day , she is happy . ONE HOUR LATER , she calls to say she is not ready to jump back into the relationship . I was surprised . She gave no reason . I kept emailing , but occasionally , hardly called . then sporadic . Now she says she does not love me . She says she needs time to be alone . She starts dating a guy for 3 weeks . i did nc . I called to see How she was . She ignored my calls . AFTER A COUPLE OF DAYS CALLED TO SAY MET GUY DATING 3 WEEKS IS SERIOUS . WANTS TO BREAK UP WITH ME . CAN i get her to come back to me as my girlfriend ? or should I just forget and move on . I love her with my whole heart . She never said REASON FOR BREAK UP .sHE SAID SHE WAS STRESSED AT JOB , WHY ARE WE BREAKING UP ? I do not understand . I am hurting . love her . thanks for answering , mrniceguyclimber
Super89Rex Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Unfortunately, you cannot "MAKE" anyone be your girlfriend. This was obviously a choice she had made, and it sounds as if the stress was just an excuse to break up with you when the real reason was she had met someone new. I know man, it hurts big time; Ive been hurt and leaft for someone else before, what you need to do is leave her be; dont call her, dont contact her, do N.C and whatever you DO , please DO NOT let her know that you are upset about it; just act like everything is fine. Don't make any attempt to beg, plead, bargain or convince her why she should come back because it doesn't work - trust me. I know its hard, but you need to try and focus on other things like yourself. Why are you breaking up? Honestly from what it sounds like, it sounds like she simply is confused; doesnt know what she wants, fed you a lie so she could pursue a relationship on the side while knowing you will wait for her to return. Act strong, and believe it or not; NOT trying is the best way to get her back, show her you are a strong confident man who doesn't need her and this will help your chances more than anything..
ronnieromance Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Rex, you have a rotory? OP, I think she may have had a lot of stress rolled up in her about the relationship and was using work to try to diffuse it. When she took time off and away, it sounds like she was able to sort through it. But, yeah, I think you should forget about her. If you feel like you want to meet some women get on a dating website, or some chatrooms. It'll be essentially low impact, impersonal (if you want it to be) and low stress. Webdate is a great place to start. -R-
KillaPetehog Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Now she says she does not love me . She says she needs time to be alone . She starts dating a guy for 3 weeks . i did nc . I called to see How she was . She ignored my calls . AFTER A COUPLE OF DAYS CALLED TO SAY MET GUY DATING 3 WEEKS IS SERIOUS . WANTS TO BREAK UP WITH ME . CAN i get her to come back to me as my girlfriend ? or should I just forget and move on . I love her with my whole heart . She never said REASON FOR BREAK UP .sHE SAID SHE WAS STRESSED AT JOB , WHY ARE WE BREAKING UP ? I do not understand . I am hurting . love her . thanks for answering , mrniceguyclimber This is all I needed to read. Move on. ONce a girl loses interest, it's very hard to get it back. First of all, she's dating another guy..and she's been doing it for 3 weeks...and it's a serious one. What are you doing waiting? Don't be a bytch. Move on. That bytch wasn't worth your time to begin with. In 3 weeks, she's in a serious relationship with some other dude. Are you going to waste your f***ing time for a bytch like this? That's a girl with no integrity. . Don't waste your time. It makes no sense. Move on. Don't be a chump. There's a lot of other women out there.
Author mrniceguyclimber Posted June 1, 2006 Author Posted June 1, 2006 HI IT'S ME , MRNICEGUYCLIMBER , I AM SO HAPPY TO HEAR FROM ALL OF YOU . IT SHOWS ME THAT THERE ARE OTHERS OUT THERE WHO UNDERSTAND ME . MOST PEOPLE ARE JUST TELLING ME TO FORGET HER . HOW CAN I FORGET A ONE YEAR INTENSE HAPPY , LOVING RELATIONSHIP THAT WAS GOING TOWARDS ENGAGEMENT . I DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW MY GIRLFRIEND SAYS SHE DOES NOT LOVE ME IN A DAY . SHE WAS TOTALLY LOVING AND WARM AND BOOM SAYS I DO NT LOVE YOU , LET ME GO . THEN AFTER A WEEK AFTER I DID NC WANTED ME BACK ONLY TO REJECT ME AGAIN BY SAYING SHE DID NOT WANT TO DO IT , SHE WAS NOT READY . THEN SAID IT'S OVER . NEVER TALKED ABOUT FIXING THINGS OR GETTING A REASON . IT HAS BEEN 2 MONTHS NOW . MY LAST CALL I HAD NOT HEARD FROM HER , USUALLY AFTER A WEEK , 2 THIS TIME 3 I WOULD CALL , SHE WOULD CALL BACK . THIS TIME THERE WAS SILENCE . I WAS CONCERNED THAT SHE WAS ILL . I CALLED AND EMAILED. SHE CALLED BACK SAYING SHE IS WITH THIS GUY 3 WEEKS AND HE IS TAKING VERY GOOD CARE OF HER . SHE TOLD ME I AM NOT HER BOYFRIEND AND I SHOULD NOT WORRY ABOUT HER AND I SHOULD LET HER GO AND SHE SAID THAT THEY ARE IN A VER VERY SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP NOW . NOW I FIGURED I WILL JUST NOT CONTACT HER . BUT I DID ANSWER HER CALL BY EMAIL TELLING HER I WAS CONCERNED BECAUSE I DID NOT HEAR FROM HER AND I WISHED BEST OF LUCK WITH HER NEW MAN . I DID NOT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY . IT HURTS SO MUCH . THANKS FOR ALL YOUR ANSWERS IT HELPS . PLEASE GIVE ME MORE THOUGHTS ON THIS . thanks to you all . I appreciate the thoughgts and viewpoints . It really helps . I feel BROKEN I FEEL the PAIN of the heartbreak and loss of this great girlfriend . . MRNICEGUYCLIMBER
SmittenSexyKitten Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 I know it is not what you wanted to hear...but you need to accept the advice already given. It will not change becuase you want it too.
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