greaser14 Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 My buddy and i both live in Texas. He started dating a mutual friend in our hometown in Michigan. After a 6 month LDR he got her to move in with him down here. They lived together for about 5 months and to both of their admittance weren't getting along. She decided to move out and end the relationship. Although he said he was completely miserable, he didn't take the break up well and pretty much hates her guts. Its been about a half a year and my buddy is kind of seeing another girl. Me and his ex still hang out and have a strong chemistry but obviously aren't taking it any further despite both our wishes. This is sappy but I honestly feel something towards her that i have never felt towards girls that i was actually dating. (i.e. I go to bars and don't even look in other girl's directions) Here's the kicker. Myself and the ex are probably gonna end up back in our hometown while my friend remains in Texas. Does this change the unwritten rule since it won't directly effect him? If so, how do you go about telling him? Do I tell him I have feelings for her even if we don't take the next step?
ronnieromance Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 Forbidden fruit, man. While their may be legitimate chemistry, I'm sure it's being intensified by the "friend factor". It makes meetings a little more clandestine and sex a little naughtier...Right? You're going to have to make this decision on your own. What you need to consider is which is more important; your friendship, or the potential relationship. Not to say your friendship will definately be at stake, but there is a good chance. You know him better than I do. But I was in a similar situation when my ex-girl and I broke up. She started dating another guy and I bumped into one of her AQUAINTENCES (not even a "ya we hang out on the weekend" friend) on the WebDate chatrooms. Well we started hanging out on an informal basis and some non-binding sex ensued. Well, the ex caught wind and, despite the fact that she had been geeting regualr dick from another source for like a month, she came in with, what I call retroactive cock-blocking. You may be in for something similar. You may want to ease into and let him figure it out for himself, rather than telling him. That way, at least as he figures it out he'll be more likely to process the information an feelings in a productive manner, rather than feeling like he got a bomb dropped on him. -R-
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