Nc Support!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Confused, Again]

I need help, support, whatever you want to call it. Things I posted before, about how he makes me feel, laugh, tingly, happy, HAPPY, yet, last week due to different circumstances, he stopped contact with me, no explanation, no nothing.

 

A little history. Three weeks ago, he confessed his love for me, two weeks ago, we kissed, everyday we have contacted each other one way or another, and talked, until Friday. Then all contact was cut. That is how far it ever went. I know the family very well. I would know if she knew. Both of us are married, both of us know it is wrong.

 

Anyway, I am stubborn, I don't want to seem like I give a two sh*ts, but I do. I have done well until tonight, I want to talk to him, I want to know why he just stopped.

 

There is a lot more here, but I just can't go into it. I thought we were just alike, we have known each other for eight years, never crossed that line until two weeks ago. I don't know that I want to cross another line, I just want to know why. But I know as well as I know my own name, if I text him and he responds, it will be just like it was last week. Or worse, if he doesn't, then that will make it worse. I know that you guys talk about NC and what worked for you, any thoughts?

 

Anyone go through this? I don't want to pursue this relationship, I really don't, and we will always have some sort of relationship, no matter what, (not by choice) any thoughts? I am just afraid of me being weak. I don't like to be weak. *sigh*

[movinon05]

Perhaps he's backing off because he feels bad that he crossed the first line with you by telling you how he feels. Perhaps he is conflicted now about this can of worms that he has opened. Perhaps he's giving it second and third thoughts.

 

If neither of you plan on leaving your spouses anytime soon, and you are going to have to see him eventually for whatever circumstance, it really is best to try to let this go. If you call, it will keep up. You say you don't want this. Then stay NC and prepare what you will say for the next call or talk.

[RealityCheck]

I need help, support, whatever you want to call it. Things I posted before, about how he makes me feel, laugh, tingly, happy, HAPPY, yet, last week due to different circumstances, he stopped contact with me, no explanation, no nothing.

 

A little history. Three weeks ago, he confessed his love for me, two weeks ago, we kissed, everyday we have contacted each other one way or another, and talked, until Friday. Then all contact was cut. That is how far it ever went. I know the family very well. I would know if she knew. Both of us are married, both of us know it is wrong.

 

Anyway, I am stubborn, I don't want to seem like I give a two sh*ts, but I do. I have done well until tonight, I want to talk to him, I want to know why he just stopped.

 

There is a lot more here, but I just can't go into it. I thought we were just alike, we have known each other for eight years, never crossed that line until two weeks ago. I don't know that I want to cross another line, I just want to know why. But I know as well as I know my own name, if I text him and he responds, it will be just like it was last week. Or worse, if he doesn't, then that will make it worse. I know that you guys talk about NC and what worked for you, any thoughts?

 

Anyone go through this? I don't want to pursue this relationship, I really don't, and we will always have some sort of relationship, no matter what, (not by choice) any thoughts? I am just afraid of me being weak. I don't like to be weak. *sigh*

 

In my case, my MM went NC because he simply could not handle the turmoil of his deep feelings for me and wanting to fix his marriage.

 

He said he didn't know if he was "coming or going".

 

I certainly could see how this may happen, when the mind is fighting heart matters. He does not love his wife and is wanting to stay and fix the marriage for "practicle" reasons. He is struggling. I don't feel sorry for him because he got himself into the mess, but it is a reality of what he is feeling.

[Confused Again]

Perhaps he's backing off because he feels bad that he crossed the first line with you by telling you how he feels. Perhaps he is conflicted now about this can of worms that he has opened. Perhaps he's giving it second and third thoughts.

 

If neither of you plan on leaving your spouses anytime soon, and you are going to have to see him eventually for whatever circumstance, it really is best to try to let this go. If you call, it will keep up. You say you don't want this. Then stay NC and prepare what you will say for the next call or talk.

 

I gave in and called him, but I feel better about the situation, better about leaving, better about not calling anymore, gave me some sort of clarity. While the W doesn't know about me, she does know about another one, one I didn't know about, that he denied. Which is fine. But seriously, if it was love like he claimed, this wouldn't happen. It was going to be about sex, luckily, I didn't cross that line. I am waiting for everything to blow up in his face and him to expect me to be there, but I can't be, I won't be, he will have to find someone else, he will have to find someone that wants to have this type of relationship with him, that person is not me. So, while I am upset that I got weak and I called, I am glad that I did. It gave me the resolution that I wanted, that I needed. Being I know what is going on now, I won't have the urge to call, at least I hope I don't. I won't need to feel the need to talk to him, I just hope that I can stay NC, well, until our families meet up again that is. But between him and I, I will try to stay NC.