magichands Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Then she tells me that she knows she is beautiful and that she can have any man she wants. I said "Great, have at it, I feel sorry for the poor sap that ends up with you," she called me an insensitive bastard. I can see how she has provoked you, to some extent, but I really don't see the need for all the anger. Is there something to be said for being the bigger "person," and wishing her the best?? Do you really think that little of her? Feeling free is one thing, and anger is another. I wish you the best of luck, though. You know, with finding someone more "compatible" - whatever that means.
Author Sapiens Posted July 7, 2006 Author Posted July 7, 2006 Hey Ladies and Gents! Life is good! Droped my laptop and broke it at the airport in Stuttgart! Now I have to use this damn internet cafes for the moment. Will answer you guys next week. Cheers, -Sapiens
Jas Posted July 7, 2006 Posted July 7, 2006 But you know what, I rather let her go than put up with another two years of this pathetic miserable jealousy. Like J. Carsey, I also suspected this guy's story was total BS, so I checked out his blog that he so conveniently linked us to in his signature. There, you'll find no mention of any girlfriend or breakup. He stated that he didn't want "another two years of jealousy" yet after scanning just the past year of his blog, all I found were dialogs and sexual incounters with women who have no names, but ratings to indicate how hot they are. HB8.5 = hot babe score 8.5. This guy is a grand specimen of egomaniacal womanizing pond scum and it appears he has a "bootcamp" where he trains others to practice his ways. Sapien? Ha...he's pure primate as far as I'm concerned. Oh, and perhaps a clever marketer/spammer trying to find new recruits.
Author Sapiens Posted July 10, 2006 Author Posted July 10, 2006 I hate jet-lag! My eyes feel like they are rubbing againt sand paper. Well, I am back home and their is some drama to attend to. My Ex. seems to be in the Hospital after trying to commit suicide. Dude, I should be writing this for the soap box. Anyways, I have to sort this out and see how I will deal with it since many people are pissed-off at me for going away and not showing any "sensible humanity." Flame away.... -Sapiens
Author Sapiens Posted July 12, 2006 Author Posted July 12, 2006 Ok, the suicide drama and theatrics story. I went out for coffee with a client and while at the café I saw a friend of mine that is dating one of Jennie’s friends. Anyways, I talked to him and said what’s up and I asked what he had heard about my Ex-. He told me that Jennie and my Ex had a fight because there was a rumor that I and Jennie had something going on. He told me his girl had visited my Ex- and that she was held in “suicide watch” because anyone that overdoses on sleeping pills or is suspected of trying to commit suicide must be held and evaluated a psychiatrist before being released; it’s state law. I was out of the country when all this happened, but one of the security guards at my building told me that my Ex- had shown up and made a scene. I am surprised at this, since my Ex- knew I was going to be in Germany. So I have decided to lay low and avoid any contact with her. I will let you know what happens. You know, I suspect that Jennie may have told someone what happened between us… I know; I do feel bad at my lapse in proper judgment. -Sapiens
hyakku Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 Well first, I'm finding this hard to believe, but whatever, I'll assume this is real. Second, though I condone anything goes when you're not in a relationship, why would you add that unneccessary drama to your life by getting head from her friend? Third, you obviously aren't taking the advice on SS. Because SS teaches men to be real men, following their desires, and not backing down from confrontation but handling it. Read Pook's Be a man posts and any of BBB's post up there, and the other Pook post up there. His be a man really help inspire my own personal change and added to my LS post of today (though I couldn't go back and reference it, so it was based on my experiences and not his post, which I was kind of disappointed I couldn't like to, but at the same time I think it was good for me to be able to define my own version of a man rather than just spitting pook's s***, but i'm getting off topic). Anyway, instead of just running like a pansy, how about you meet up with the woman, let her know why you broke up, and try to reconcile the problem, rather than run from it. And if you are in your 30's, then I can understand her a bit more, even though she is psycho, you are getting on in age, and she probably thought she was about to settle down. At least let her know why that way for her next relationship she can grow, and maybe you can actually use your balls insead of running from your problems and trying to get laid like a 9th grade boy.
Author Sapiens Posted July 12, 2006 Author Posted July 12, 2006 Well first, I'm finding this hard to believe, but whatever, I'll assume this is real. Second, though I condone anything goes when you're not in a relationship, why would you add that unneccessary drama to your life by getting head from her friend? Third, you obviously aren't taking the advice on SS. Because SS teaches men to be real men, following their desires, and not backing down from confrontation but handling it. Read Pook's Be a man posts and any of BBB's post up there, and the other Pook post up there. His be a man really help inspire my own personal change and added to my LS post of today (though I couldn't go back and reference it, so it was based on my experiences and not his post, which I was kind of disappointed I couldn't like to, but at the same time I think it was good for me to be able to define my own version of a man rather than just spitting pook's s***, but i'm getting off topic). Anyway, instead of just running like a pansy, how about you meet up with the woman, let her know why you broke up, and try to reconcile the problem, rather than run from it. And if you are in your 30's, then I can understand her a bit more, even though she is psycho, you are getting on in age, and she probably thought she was about to settle down. At least let her know why that way for her next relationship she can grow, and maybe you can actually use your balls insead of running from your problems and trying to get laid like a 9th grade boy. Why thank you Hyakku, I will do just like you say. Although I did break up with her face to face and told her WHY I chose to end the relationship. -Sapiens
crazy_grl Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Nice story. I'm just glad you found a place to practice your creative writing skills.
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Nice story. I'm just glad you found a place to practice your creative writing skills. LOL, I need all the practice I can get. You know, you don't have to read it if you don't like it. However, I would appreciate your advice. Cheers, -Sapiens
crazy_grl Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 You know, you don't have to read it if you don't like it. I never said I didn't like it. It's interesting. I just think you're making most of it up, grossly exaggerating at the least. At first I thought you were testing out your "dear penthouse" submission before you sent it in, but since you've kept going, I guess you're looking for more than that, so here's some more input to add to your writing assignment. Your gf had insecurities, but you smiling at and chatting up other women while she was around probably fed into them and made them grow. She sounds immature and insecure, but you don't seem to be doing a lot better on the maturity front than she is. A mature man respects his gf enough to not flirt with other girls in front of her if he knows it bothers her. If you want to be able to smile at other girls and talk with them with your gf right there, then find a girl who has absolutely no problem with it and isn't threatened by it. This suicide could be a major stunt or it could be genuine. If you care about her, go talk to her. Be kind and civil, but make it it absolutely clear that you won't get back with her. You said you love her and don't want to hurt her, yet you said this to her, " I feel sorry for the poor sap that ends up with you." I can't think of anything much s***tier to say to a person. Don't make her feel like she's a horrible person. That's totally unfair. You're the one who let this behavior go on for so long just because you thought she was "hot". Don't blame her for treating you this way when you let her. Edit: Actually, after I thougt a bit, maybe you shouldn't go see her. Wait until her or one of her friends contacts you, because there's a chance that she'll have started to get over it all and you contacting her might set her back.
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 yet you said this to her, " I feel sorry for the poor sap that ends up with you." I can't think of anything much s***tier to say to a person. You know, I said that in rhetorical fashion, as a come back... whatever. Thanks for your words anyhow. -Sapiens
crazy_grl Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 You know, I said that in rhetorical fashion, as a come back... whatever. Oh, I forgot. If you say something as a comeback it doesn't feelings of the person you said it to. My bad...
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Oh, I forgot. If you say something as a comeback it doesn't feelings of the person you said it to. My bad... ?? Oh, please.. come on. Give me some slack. What would you have me do, tell her I am sorry and that some other poor bastard will have an easy time with her? -Sapiens
hyakku Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Actually I withdraw that, I do believe you, I read up a little on SS, still man, I would think that you would try to be a bit more manly for all of your experience. By the way I'm still reading that GH thing, but if you really charged him 5k thats ridiculous, he could have went to a MM thing and saved more money.
crazy_grl Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 You could have just said "Ok." Or wished her well even. I realize she was probably being b*tchy when she said it, and she probably still would have gotten mad no matter what, because she didn't get the desired reaction out of you, but you didn't have to join her on that level and get insulting. Things that you say when you're upset still hurt a person.
lovestruck234 Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 I'm sure there's plenty of people who have been on here and are guilty for "stretching the truth" at some stage. Although I am not sure whether I believe you or not, I guess if this has really happened, here's my 2 cents... You have come across (to me) as a bit of a man whore with a pretty large ego. No offence. Your ex DID sound like a nag to you, but I think it was out of line for you to have her best friend suck your d**k. Although she consented, it was still silly of you. She does also sound like one of those girls who doesn't realise how good she's got it till it's gone and it hits her. That would explain her behaviour. She lied to you about her pregnancy, and is now in suicide watch. Yes, she needs serious help. But you need to stop being so insensitve. Didn't you notice the pattern of girls you have hooked up with so far? They usually lay it out straight away that they're not going to hold their breath for you and they don't expect a phone call. You come across to them as a player and nothing more... Although you may like to live this lifestyle, you aren't going to get much respect from lots of girls, no matter how vulnerable they may seem. Some girls aren't looking much further than a good time, which is apparent in alot of your situations, but ALL girls are looking for a guy with a bit of decent courtesy. You don't have many manners at all. You are fairly rude. I'm just telling you my opinion, you asked for advice, so here it is. Although you ex will most likely get the impression that you are interested in her if you call her, and use that against you, it would be POLITE of you to give her a call, or even if you are not able to talk to her since she's in this suicide place, talk to someone who is monitoring her. Find out how she's going. That seems decent and fair enough, right? She may just lay off as well with what looks a little like "attention seeking" if you do call her when she is able to talk and explain to her straight out why you broke up with her. No shades of grey. IN plain back and white. Tell her there's nothing else to it and that the word OVER means OVER. I just read over my thread and it doesn't really make much sense, but I hope you do take it into consideration. Oh, and work on those MANNERS boy! Didn't your mum teach you ANYTHING??? All the best!
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Oh, and work on those MANNERS boy! Didn't your mum teach you ANYTHING??? All the best! Ouch! (Sapiens looks up charm schools on the yellow pages), LOL. -Sapiens
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 You could have just said "Ok." Or wished her well even. I realize she was probably being b*tchy when she said it, and she probably still would have gotten mad no matter what, because she didn't get the desired reaction out of you, but you didn't have to join her on that level and get insulting. Things that you say when you're upset still hurt a person. I got your point. The things is, it seems to me that women can say s*** and don't have to worry about the consequences; while a man is hung out to dry. What gives? -Sapiens
crazy_grl Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 I got your point. The things is, it seems to me that women can say s*** and don't have to worry about the consequences; while a man is hung out to dry. What gives? Nobody's excused her behavior. Like I said, she seems really immature. You're "hung out to dry" because you're the one here asking for advice. No point in telling you how screwed up her behavior is, because you can't change it. You can only change your own. If she were here, I'd tell her just how childish I think it is to say at that point that she's so hot she can get any guy she wants. I'd also tell her that it's not the way to get what she wants, which is to make a guy jealous enough that he'll take her back because he can't stand the thought of her with another man.
Chinook Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Can you post a picture of yourself...? Just so I know who you are if I ever bump into you yes...?
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Aw...why'd you remove your blog link Sape? I didn't do it, the mods did, it violates some rule.. whocares! -Sapiens
Author Sapiens Posted July 13, 2006 Author Posted July 13, 2006 Can you post a picture of yourself...? Just so I know who you are if I ever bump into you yes...? No, I would not want to deprive myself of your experience...LOL -Sapiens
hyakku Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Hey man, actually I wanted to come back and say that I didn't meant o offend with my other post, its your life you do how you like man. But really, if this woman is that crazy, do her some type of help and at least try to give her some closure man. As much as it isn't your fault, do you really want a dead woman on your conscience? Anyway bro, again, my bad for just hopping into your reality and trying to change your life, thats not my place. Still man good luck, dont' let your life get f***ed up by some psycho woman, it really would do more good to talk it out.
basscatcher Posted July 13, 2006 Posted July 13, 2006 Ahh this thread is a hoot... I too have had this kind of soap opera drama happen in it only the female version. I've said before and I'll share it again. My girlfriends say they live vicariously through me because so much stuff has happened to me on short notice. Some of it as crazy as what sapiens is sharing here. Maybe even worse. Not everyone has laid back lives. some of us really have lots happening.
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