Sapiens Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 I had it and I am calling it quits. Here is the gist of the drama. We are in line at the movies, girl in front of us smiles at me and I smile back. My girl starts fuming and I have no idea what the deal is. Five seconds later she storms off and looks back at me and saids come on. I follow her, even thought we are at the very front of the line and the line is huge. Anyways, once we get to my car she throws a serious temper tantrum, yelling how that bytch ruined her evening and what a total slvt she was.. blah, blah, blah... This is not the first time she has done this, there is always something to set her off. So I am done with her. My pals think I am nuts for dumping her since she is off the hook "hot." Whatever, I need peace and quiet in my life, no matter how hot this chick is. The thing is, I have always showed her attention and respect, I am with her because I love her and I do love her very much. But this insecurity crap is not for me and no matter how I word it she doesn't get that she is the only one in my eyes, my heart, and my soul. But you know what, I rather let her go than put up with another two years of this pathetic miserable jealousy. -------- ss...lol
Author Sapiens Posted May 31, 2006 Author Posted May 31, 2006 Why is it that women are so damn insecure?
johan Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Hey, man. Been there. Mine lasted three and a half years. There's no reasoning with one like that. Mine had a problem with forgiving me for stuff. Pretty much anything she wanted to be upset about. She loved me, but she just couldn't get over anything. Too bad. Like yours, she was actually quite a catch. But she pushed me over the edge with her anger, and I broke up with her. I'm sure she thinks she's better off now. She has no shortage of men around to fill her time.
Guest Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 You're right to let this girl go. By the sounds of it, she is not only insecure and has problems communicating, she is very immature. Anyone who throws a tantrum and expects the world to turn on a dime because she's upset has serious issues. As far as your friends are concerned - don't listen to them, they don't have to deal with her. Believe me, this is not someone you (or any other guy) could have a great relationship with. Maybe five or ten years down the road she'll be a more evolved woman, but for now leave on her own. She has to grow up. P.S. I would have let her go on her way while I went to see the movie I was planning on watching in the first place.
KillaPetehog Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 I had it and I am calling it quits. Here is the gist of the drama. We are in line at the movies, girl in front of us smiles at me and I smile back. My girl starts fuming and I have no idea what the deal is. Five seconds later she storms off and looks back at me and saids come on. I follow her, even thought we are at the very front of the line and the line is huge. Anyways, once we get to my car she throws a serious temper tantrum, yelling how that bytch ruined her evening and what a total slvt she was.. blah, blah, blah... This is not the first time she has done this, there is always something to set her off. So I am done with her. My pals think I am nuts for dumping her since she is off the hook "hot." Whatever, I need peace and quiet in my life, no matter how hot this chick is. The thing is, I have always showed her attention and respect, I am with her because I love her and I do love her very much. But this insecurity crap is not for me and no matter how I word it she doesn't get that she is the only one in my eyes, my heart, and my soul. But you know what, I rather let her go than put up with another two years of this pathetic miserable jealousy. -------- ss...lol Dude, you made the right choice, man. Looks and hot women aren't everything....if someone gives you attitude...you don't let anyone push you around. You can always get another girl who has a better personality than that. And who cares what your pals think...it's all about YOUR gut feeling. If you have a gut feeling that it's the wrong relationship..you know more than ANYBODY who and what is right and wrong for you. Don't worry, man. You did it before, you can do it again. Only this time, you'll get a girl that's more secure than that one.
-Sapiens Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Dude, you made the right choice, man. Looks and hot women aren't everything....if someone gives you attitude...you don't let anyone push you around. You can always get another girl who has a better personality than that. And who cares what your pals think...it's all about YOUR gut feeling. If you have a gut feeling that it's the wrong relationship..you know more than ANYBODY who and what is right and wrong for you. Don't worry, man. You did it before, you can do it again. Only this time, you'll get a girl that's more secure than that one. Thanks man! I needed that. Johan, thanks for the words! :up: Well, I told her it was over and she freaked out. She called all night and left over 100 messages crying and all hysterical. I told her not to come to my place and if she does, I would have security escort her out. She tried to coerce me to take her back, she done all kinds of personas to get me to listen to her an take her back, but I won't man. Then she tells me that she knows she is beautiful and that she can have any man she wants. I said "Great, have at it, I feel sorry for the poor sap that ends up with you," she called me an insensitive bastard. Oh, well, I can't believe I put up with her crap for so long. Anyways, I know I will be in pain soon enough from missing her, but I have a plan. I found a site with great advise for dealing with the missery of my breakup (http://www.sosuave.net) and I will be lookiing for the next Ms. Sapiens starting now. Again, thanks for your support men!
Author Sapiens Posted May 31, 2006 Author Posted May 31, 2006 Dude, you made the right choice, man. Looks and hot women aren't everything....if someone gives you attitude...you don't let anyone push you around. You can always get another girl who has a better personality than that. And who cares what your pals think...it's all about YOUR gut feeling. If you have a gut feeling that it's the wrong relationship..you know more than ANYBODY who and what is right and wrong for you. Don't worry, man. You did it before, you can do it again. Only this time, you'll get a girl that's more secure than that one. Thanks man! I needed that. Johan, thanks for the words! :up: Well, I told her it was over and she freaked out. She called all night and left over 100 messages crying and all hysterical. I told her not to come to my place and if she does, I would have security escort her out. She tried to coerce me to take her back, she's done all kinds of personas to get me to listen to her an take her back, but I won't man. Then she tells me that she knows she is beautiful and that she can have any man she wants. I said "Great, have at it, I feel sorry for the poor sap that ends up with you," she called me an insensitive bastard. Oh well, I can't believe I put up with her crap for so long. Anyways, I know I will be in pain soon enough from missing her, but I have a plan. I found a site with great advise for dealing with the missery of my breakup (www.sosuave.net) and I will be lookiing for the next Ms. Sapiens starting now. Again, thanks for your support men!
gfto Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Good call, Sapiens. You get a gold star! Her attitude won't change. You have wisely recognized that looks are not all of the equation. Most men are so focused on her good looks and afraid of losing her that they'll put up with this kind of stuff. Not you. Nice work! And, the reason she freaked when you got rid of her is that you are probably the first man who has ever dumped her! She is used to doing the dumping. Every other guy she has dated put up with her crap until she finally got bored with it and dumped him. And, your reply to her "I can have any man I want" comment, was brilliant!
Author Sapiens Posted May 31, 2006 Author Posted May 31, 2006 Ok this is really graphic and if you have a queasy stomach do not read on. My ex sends her best friend to talk to me. I like all hospitable people let her friend come on over to my house. Let’s call her Jennie. Well, when she comes in I asked her what’s up. Jennie then proceeds to tell me how my ex loves me so much and how unreasonable I am by breaking up with her. I offer Jennie a drink and tell her to make herself comfortable. I tell Jennie that I am fed up with this silly relationship and that I won’t continue it. I tell her how my ex always finds a way to sabotage our great moments and memories, for example when we were in Cancun and were having an awesome time and it seem perfect, she started to freak-out how the waitress was smiling and attentive towards me. Same thing happened when we were in Canada skiing, she got pissed because some girls were asking me for tips on skiing, then she accused me of having betrayed her with them. SO, NO! I won’t take her back to live a life where she always finds a way to sabotage our great moments with her petty insecurities. It’s OVER. Then I sit on my couch with my wine on hand, I proceed to place the wine on the center table and sit back and relax. Jennie sits next to me with her knees touching mine. I leaned back and continue to hear Jennie’s comments how my ex and I are meant to be together. Who cares, then I felt the unthinkable, I got a major hard-on and Jennie was looking at my crotch and could tell I was erected. She looked at me and smiled; I undid my jeans button and unzipped my pants. I looked at her with a blank expression. She cleared her throat. I said “Go ahead.” She blushed and proceeded to take out Mr. Pete and held him in her hand. I said, “Suck him.” She looked at me with this look of excitement/ uncertainty and then tilted her head just a bit, brushed her hair aside and then began to please me. I felt the hot moist lips on Mr. Pete with great pleasure; I closed my eyes and let her have her way with me. For a moment there she was about to gag, but didn’t. I then ejaculated and told her “swallow it.” Once I was finished I got up, cleaned up and took out a new tooth brush from my supplies pantry, gave it to her and told her to brush her teeth. So you know, I didn’t feel any remorse, I just felt relief from all the anger from being accuse of cheating for two years when I didn’t cheat. Plus I had this weird sense of power over Jennie as she seems to take pleasure in pleasing me.
Guest Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 i think you wanted to do her friend. That's why you dumped her.
Author Sapiens Posted June 2, 2006 Author Posted June 2, 2006 i think you wanted to do her friend. That's why you dumped her. You are wrong. I will not deny that I think Jennie is hot, but I would never have done anything with her while being with my Ex. It's the constant accusation of cheating that has me so angry. It is like she wanted me to cheat to prove to herself something. It doesn't matter any how. I feel free, I feel that I don't have to walk on egg shells anymore. I will never get into a relationship where I am afraid to walk away just because the girl is hot. She has been calling and leaving all kinds of messages telling me how she is reminiscing about how we met and the good times we had. I recall that, I also recall how she would sabotage all those memories with her stupid insecurity and ruined my memories. I hope she heals and overcomes her problems, but I will not put myself thru that ever again.
BlueMorningIris Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 I got a chill down my spine. I am afraid that I am doing this to my bf.
Author Sapiens Posted June 5, 2006 Author Posted June 5, 2006 She stopped calling, but I got this huge card that says she is sorry. Also she writes that she will stop bothering me if I speak to her one last time and tell her what she did wrong. I don't want to speak to her, and I have told her numerous times it is her actions due to her insecurity that led to this breakup. Should I reply in a letter or just ignore her? What do you guys think. I was thinking of just ignoring her and moving on. -Sapiens
Sleeps w/Butterflies Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 You might as well just ignore the letter and move on. You received a sexual favor from her friend who was supposed to be the mediator in this situation (clearly not a real friend to her). I am surprised she would send a girlfriend to you being how insecure you claim she is.
Author Sapiens Posted June 5, 2006 Author Posted June 5, 2006 You might as well just ignore the letter and move on. Thanks for the reply, yes, I was just thinking of doing this even though she has sent me emails asking for a simple answer. You received a sexual favor from her friend who was supposed to be the mediator in this situation (clearly not a real friend to her). I am surprised she would send a girlfriend to you being how insecure you claim she is. LOL, well she always seemed to tell Jennie everything about us or better said, everything about me. Anyhow, this is over. Besides, what Jennie did was the point of no return and I am ok with the decision. -Sapiens
Author Sapiens Posted June 5, 2006 Author Posted June 5, 2006 I got a chill down my spine. I am afraid that I am doing this to my bf. What is it that you are doing, accusing him of cheating without reason out of insecurity? -Sapiens
Guest Posted June 5, 2006 Posted June 5, 2006 she needs closure. write her that u don't love her anymore. dont' forget to tell her that her friend is not her friend, she needs to know. -Bella-
Author Sapiens Posted June 6, 2006 Author Posted June 6, 2006 she needs closure. write her that u don't love her anymore. dont' forget to tell her that her friend is not her friend, she needs to know. -Bella- What?? Are you nuts? I want to get rid of her in a painless manner to her and to me. I don't want her going all psycho on me and others. The stuff that happened after, she doesn't need to know. I derive no pleasure from hurting her. -Sapiens
Sleeps w/Butterflies Posted June 6, 2006 Posted June 6, 2006 Answering her will only give her false hope. She may have written the letter as a way to open up the lines of communication between the two of you.
Author Sapiens Posted June 8, 2006 Author Posted June 8, 2006 Answering her will only give her false hope. She may have written the letter as a way to open up the lines of communication between the two of you. Well it seems she got the clue, she stopped calling or emailing. Hopefully I won't hear from her for the time being. Now, on to dating--->! -Sapiens
Author Sapiens Posted June 11, 2006 Author Posted June 11, 2006 I wonder? I have never had this happen to me before, but as I was leaving the office I found my car with all the tires flat. I had security check the tape but the camera that films my spot didn't do a good job to recognize the perp. I have a gut feeling it has something to do with my Ex, but I have no proof. Anyhow, I have a date for Saturday night. There is this HB (hot babe) that I frequently see at when I have lunch on our local strip, yesterday I saw her and asked her out. She readily agreed and we will head out to Broadway tonight. I'll let you know how it goes. -Sapiens
Author Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Well, I picked up the HB and took her to see Jersey Boys. We had a light meal after the show and went dancing to the Copa on West 34th. I had a blast and although Kerri can’t dance Salsa I led her through some paces. She got a bit much to drink and we ended up in a nice NYC hotel. Nothing happened you sick pervs. We got home on Sunday and she told me that she has never has done anything like that before (yeah right). I told her I was going to give her a call later in the week. [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]-Sapiens[/sIZE][/FONT]
kitten chick Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I was reading through the thread and thinking that this guy is such a dirtbag. Now I get to the end and come to find out that you're from NY. Figures I'm adding this one to my evidence book.
Author Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 I was reading through the thread and thinking that this guy is such a dirtbag. Now I get to the end and come to find out that you're from NY. Figures I'm adding this one to my evidence book. Actually I am from Jersey, but who's tracking.. Why all the hostility? I am a lovable type of guy babe. Anywho, I think your evidence book is a bit stale, why don't you come out and play.... LOL. -Sapiens
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