amandine Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Hello, need advice. So, about 6 months ago, I made a drastic move to a new state. I was a midland girl, and now I'm on the East coast for the first time in my life. I didn't have any friends out here when I moved, straight from college, but I did have family. Of course I got excited when I met this girl in the back room of a club I visited one night. She was so upset about something I could feel it for myself. It was her boyfriend, let's call him X. I didn't know her, but we talked for a while, and I noticed she was a fan of a band I like (she had the lanyard). She then told me she wasn't just a fan, but also part of the road crew. She'd been with them for 7 years. I was impressed and told her she had alot on the ball. She and I talked for hours, and long story short, I gave her my number to call if she needed anything else. It's funny, but that night I almost hoped she wouldn't call me. I don't know why. I'm a fairly social person, but I like my privacy and I guess maybe my gut told me I didn't need to extend my circle of friends? Fast forward months ahead, and she's calling, constantly wanting me to drive down so we can go to lunch. I tell her I'm broke. She insists. Yadda yadda. But I always drive so it's almost even. I like her lots, she is fun. Eventually we go to her office party, everyone is getting drunk and having a good time, and she's no different. As she had a bad run in with X a while ago, she wants to start dating again and gets excited that a new guy is asking her out. Fast forward to tonight. She has been weird for about 2 weeks. I figure, she's out, the band is touring, so it made sense. But no. Not only has she quit the band, she's gotten back with X. She then proceeds to tell me everything I ever did wrong to her, from spending her money to f***ing up and getting drunk at her office party (big words for a girl who was there wearing a "Dirty Dicks" shirt and short skirt). Mind you, as I said, we had a great time at the party, and did nothing different than normal. She had no problem. No mention of any of this bugging her until now. I couldn't believe it. She proceeds to tell me how everyone else thinks I am dirt too, but regardless they want me around. Now. SHOULD I DUMP HER? I really don't need her in my life now. She's convinced herself I only befriended her to hang out with the band she no longer works for (her words, "I didn't have to talk to you at the club that night" -- well fine, I didn't either) Our mutual friends have talked to me normally since before the two weeks of weirdness turned her mind around, and every time I mentioned my talking to them, her immediate question is "What did he/she say?!" (I take it as, "What did they tell you about what I told them about you?" :\) And she's with dumbass X whom was the reason she was crying and we met in the first place!!!! I think I know the answer, but would value input. Love all 'Mandine
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