almostthere Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Child Support Question -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- My bf and I are writing up an agreement between his ex and him for back child support that is due. We are concerned since he doesnt go through the state and pays her directly that some time later in life she may claim she never received any money from him. My bf has kept no records but this will clear it up if she agrees to sign it. Our question is this... We give her a money order weekly. we keep the yellow copy. but this doesnt have her signature on it. is this enough to protect us? i want to start sending personal checks because I get the check back with my statement. I thought that would be better. Should we have her sign a receipt?
quankanne Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 any particular reason why he's not working through the state offices to deal with child support? As cold and impersonal as it appears, it's often the best deal for both mom and dad, because there is a paper trail monitored and mediated by the government, so there's no opportunity for "he said-she said" when it comes to payment. Sort of like having a checking account at a local bank – there's physical proof of payment. if not through the state offices, then he needs to at least see what other legal alternatives he's got for a payment system so that he can offer proof of payment when the question is raised. if you continue to do it on your own, endorse checks or money orders to her, with specific notation on that paper "child support payment" (at the bottom of the MO or on the check's memo line). It's not the best way, but at least it creates a true paper trail that cannot easily be denied. I know there are companies that sell legal kits people can fill out themselves when they're writing a will – maybe someone's done something along the lines of a child support system? Do an online search, maybe something will come up that can help you.
Author almostthere Posted May 31, 2006 Author Posted May 31, 2006 Thanks for the tip. They dont want to go through court. I dont know why and I dont want to get involved in their divorce. He only wants to do money orders. I dont know why. He says he doesnt want her to have my address if i were to write her out a check. He is not on my account yet because they have an outstanding balance at a bank. but i have his money in there. This is how I think it should go... For the back child support we should write out a seperate check stating in the memo that this is for back child support. For the current child support write out a check stating this is for current child support for week of .... whatever. Then both should be mailed out on every Friday. This sounds good right? until we find out more info. Right now its a money order with the payments combined. he hands it to her when he sees her to get the kids. but lately he has a lot of overtime he has to do at work and doesnt see them on scheduled days every week. seems too disorganized to me.
tinktronik Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Money orders are fine.I've been to court after paying with money orders to have the ex claim I wasn't paying . In order to cash the money order it has to go into the recievers bank account , so , yes , there is a trail that can be proven in court.
Cecelius Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 I think its wise for him to avoid going through any court agencies, since that would be a big monkey on his back for all time. Just keep the copies and perhaps copy the stamped letters, or send them registered mail.
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