Seanl33 Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 hi my name is sean me and my girlfriend recently broke up we had been goin out 5 days short of 8 months i have been in relationships before but have never auctully began to love someone i mean she was my world i would wake up every morning happy as can be we did everything together and then things got messed up we driftef apart and one day she just ended it saying she wanted to just be friends i was in like a shock and to this day i have not been the same person i mean its hard to sleep and basicaly do anything withought thinking of her it hurts so much i mean she still calls and everything but it hurts to talk to her i mean what do i say she is now involved with someone else but tells me how much she misses me i mean i have seeked counsiling and tried to forget about her i dont know what to do any more i am so depressed its not like me i went from a hey how u doin!!! to a hey, i have lost most of my friends i mean she still calls is this like a sign she literaly admited she and her bf were goin to break up this summer i mean when we do talk i dont say much and am still nice but inside its like the cartoon on tv of my hart in 2 pieces please someone tell me someone tell me something i h8 feeling this way
RealBroken Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 I wish I had learnt this earlier........ take this advice. I wish i had before it was too late. She is in control..... You need to take control....... She can see that u are there for her if she wants you back. She's still GOT BOTH worlds. Next time SHE contacts you, tell her that because you two are not in a relationship anymore, you don't want to be in contact with her. Then cease ALL contact...... I mean ALL. Dont break it. This is when she will MISS YOU ..... if she's going too. All of a sudden you are saying I'm moving on. Don't tell her its because you cant handle it. Just tell her its because you want to move on. She will wonder after months , weeks or days.... she will wonder what you are up too, wat ur doin, how youre feelin. If she's gonna change her mind, she's gotta do it. The only way is if she misses you. She wont enough.... if youre in contact. Trust me on this!!!! read articles on the net and on this forum..... its the only way if there is chance of gettin her back....... otherwise it will be the beginning of you moving on without her. If she says she misses you, theres a chance. She thinks you will wait til summer for her to break up..... act like your not. This is in your hands now man. trust me and follow what ive said. I would give my back teeth to have learnt this earlier with my breakup and not made the mistakes i did. If you say u miss her or love her or try to change her mind she'll pull away further garaunteed. She has to make a decision now,...... force the issue. Dont be there for her. let us know how you go. It will take some will power to not contact her but may just be worth it. Good luck
Guest Posted June 2, 2006 Posted June 2, 2006 Yeah man, just do no contact and move on with your life. I was just recently in your shoe's. My four and a half year relationship ending when she bailed (theres a lot more to that story, but I won't bore you with all that). At first, I just kept trying to be her friend and all it did was make me miserable. So, and I know this is hard, but you need to stop dealing with her. All you are doing is causing yourself more and more pain. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her---either toss it out or place it into some form of storage, and begin doing things that you like to do. Hang out with friends and family, but try not to drive them nuts about your EX-girlfriend. She's gone. Sorry. It sucks at first, but you will get through it and become a better person.
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