radiation7740 Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I'm taking a survey to see how many women find it a turn off when a man apologizes. Are there certain situations where it's acceptable for a man to apologize? Why or why not?
phyrespryte Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Depends. For the most part I don't find it a turn-off. Unless it's insincere, or they're apologizing for something when they didn't do anything wrong in the first place.
Dagny Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I actually respect a man more when he is brave enough to admit he is wrong, or that he does not know something. Not only men but women too. So many hide behind a facade of bravado.
Tim'sAngel Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I think apologizing can be a sign of maturity, which is indeed a turn on, to me at least. Of course there is always the exception which phyrespryte mentioned. I like the idea a man can get past his manliness for a minute to break down and say "hey you know what, I was wrong, and I'm truely sorry"
norajane Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 A sincere apology for harm done is always welcome. Why would that be a turn off? It's a turn off if someone hurts you and then can't bring themselves to apologize for doing so.
Tim'sAngel Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 A sincere apology for harm done is always welcome. Why would that be a turn off? It's a turn off if someone hurts you and then can't bring themselves to apologize for doing so. Amen sista!!
spider Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 i'm no woman but -if a MAN intentionaly did something and he is sorry for doing it, and apologizes to the one he loves, it's a good thing. -if a INSECURE SECOND CLASS MALE appologizes for something that was out of his controle - they are gone before you can say "i just don't feel the same way any more (how many times have you used that one ladies.)"
catgirl1927 Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 No. A man should never apologize, especially when he's wrong. You should tell the woman that if it appears you have made a mistake, it's her fault for being such a stupid whore bitch. It's probably not a bad idea to slap her around a little, too, so she knows her place. :lmao:
KillaPetehog Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I think it looks really bad when you apologize for something that you didn't do...and apologize too much..it repels women BUT.. if it's your fault and you did make a mistake...just say that you'll fix it..that you'll change it...that you'll make things better...that you'll never do it again..but don't apologize....it's already implied when you offer to tell her that you'll fix the problem. Most guys do this: angry girl: blah blah blah guy: Oh I"m sorry. Forgive me. What guys should do. angry girl: blah blah blah guy: I'll fix it. I'll change it! It won't happen again. (notice he didn't apologize) I used to apologize for everything and that REPELLED WOMEN. Now I just don't apologize, I just offer to fix the problem, to not let it happen again...that's not necessarily apologizing...but it gets your point across and women RESPECT that more. Because ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS.
Guest Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I almost always find it to be a turn on when a man apologizes...especially since I find it so hard to do myself...its a real turn on. :-) If you're talking about people apologizing when they didn't really do anything wrong...well thats a self esteem issue. Obviously I want my man to have self confidence in the same way that I want everyone around me to have self-confidence.
kitkat826 Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I almost always find it to be a turn on when a man apologizes...especially since I find it so hard to do myself...its a real turn on. :-) If you're talking about people apologizing when they didn't really do anything wrong...well thats a self esteem issue. Obviously I want my man to have self confidence...in the same way that I want everyone around me to have self-confidence.
ronnieromance Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Appl...Appolo guys...Apple...s***. What is this, of which you speak? -R-
Tim'sAngel Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 No. A man should never apologize, especially when he's wrong. You should tell the woman that if it appears you have made a mistake, it's her fault for being such a stupid whore bitch. It's probably not a bad idea to slap her around a little, too, so she knows her place. :lmao: cat is funny
Pyro Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 No. A man should never apologize, especially when he's wrong. You should tell the woman that if it appears you have made a mistake, it's her fault for being such a stupid whore bitch. It's probably not a bad idea to slap her around a little, too, so she knows her place. :lmao: x10.
Tim'sAngel Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Thank you very much. I'll be here all week... *Give cat a standing ovation*
kitten chick Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I'll let you know if it ever happens. Seriously though, I second Ms KitKat's post. Very well said. I haven't heard too many apologies from men even when they should have been apologizing but the times that I have heard an apology it has definitely served to pacify me.
alphamale Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 a real man will apologize when he thinks he should. he never apologizes when he thinks he should not.
Art_Critic Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I have always been the type of guy that admits my errors and when I step over the line and hurt someone I apoligize.. I always have and always will own up and never walk away from my responsibilities.. Although I will say though that I can't remember an apology ever not falling on deaf ears.. It seems the women that I have hurt never can forgive me..
alphamale Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 It seems the women that I have hurt never can forgive me.. damn bitches
TheSwordfish Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 An apology is what most woman want. If you apologize for something you've done wrong, and it is sincere most women melt. Why? Because a sincere apologie shows maturity, someone that is secure enough to admit his mistake. being sorry fotr soemthing you've done wrong, isn't a bad thing. In many crap chickflicks its an integral part. An apology is something completely different then begging or being desparate.
Pyro Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 a real man will apologize when he thinks he should. he never apologizes when he thinks he should not. A real man should not not just think, but know when he has to and must apologize.
Vertex Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Dude this isn't supposed to be a head game. If you f***ed up at something, you apologize. Don't "do it more" because a girl finds it a turn on, and don't "do it less" because it might make you seem less secure. Do it when you should -- when something rests on your shoulders.
KillaPetehog Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Dude this isn't supposed to be a head game. If you f***ed up at something, you apologize. Don't "do it more" because a girl finds it a turn on, and don't "do it less" because it might make you seem less secure. Do it when you should -- when something rests on your shoulders. BRAVO! That's right! I agree, man.
Author radiation7740 Posted May 31, 2006 Author Posted May 31, 2006 I never apologize when I know I haven't done anything wrong. When I have done wrong whether it's to a gf or anybody else for that matter I do my best to make restitution & not to let it happen again but I do NOT apologize. I don't even say "I'll fix it". I just see what needs to be fixed and get right on it as soon as possible. As a man I can tell you that it turns me off when a woman apologizes to me. When a woman apologizes to me it falls on deaf ears. Apology does not take care of the problem. Restitution wherever possible does.
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