SHortyAnGel Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 In need of some help!..... MM decided to call me yesterday... after me not having my phone w/ me for the past 5 days of NC & decided that i was strong enough to handle me having my phone on me & me not calling him w/ the million of questions that is floating around my head.... the eddiot decided to call me...."private number" I tried so hard to be a cow to him... BUy saying that okay you got what you want, i have nothing to offer you know... why are you calling? he started to say sorry & that he was really buzy & stressed @ work ( which i know coz i used to work there)... BUT i just took it as an excuse.... My silence caused a reaction & he started goong on about how i am not understanding him... OH MAN! i was about to combust!...i just stayed quite why do i need him to explain? i didnt ask!....when did he ever understood me?... last time i questioned him about that he said that it was hard for him too... & that i am not understanding him... I KNOW ITS HARD!... duh!!.... But what does he expect me to do?... he said that whenever he gets the chance he calls me & sees me... i just stayed quite... i just cant be bothered having the SAME argument again... he said he was gonna call today in the afternoon... WIll See aye?! how do i make an impact?...& get things to go my way for once? ( i dont want to be selfish)... i just dont know what to do... Please help!...
movinon05 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Wait a minute. A few questions... Can you tell me exactly what your situation is? Did you make an agreement for NC? Has he said he's leaving his W? I tried to look back to your story, but you have many posts. I know he has a young son. What does he want from you? What does he want you to understand? That he is hurting too? That he wants you to stick by him for (fill in the reason)? Just a short update please.
scarletletter Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 If you truly want to get rid of him, then don't accept his phone calls. If it says private number, don't answer. You might even consider changing your number if you are really serious about it. I think you played him well by not reacting too much. That will bother him more than anything. I'm glad you didn't act like a blubbering idiot and tell him how much you miss him, like I probably would have done. I am so weak. Stay strong and true to yourself.
Author SHortyAnGel Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 Wait a minute. A few questions... Can you tell me exactly what your situation is? Did you make an agreement for NC? Has he said he's leaving his W? I tried to look back to your story, but you have many posts. I know he has a young son. What does he want from you? What does he want you to understand? That he is hurting too? That he wants you to stick by him for (fill in the reason)? Just a short update please. Situation being that i have been in the A for the past 2 years. we used to work together before we got caught by the W & i got promoted & moved... 5 Months later he finds me ( i have changed mY number) & we start talking again... i asked him why he is back & he said that he is not sure & all he knows is that he missess me... to my dismay the A continues.... we are now having little arguments cause he is stressed @ work as he was juse recently promoted.. i understand that... i am just not the type to get easily stressed over something so minor... thats were the personality clashes....apparently he feels that i dont understand that there is ANOTHER distraction for his time & thoughts. We have never really discussed where we stand or if there is even a furture... but all i know that he is questioning me if my family would accept him & his kid.. i said yes.. MM is scared that if he does do anything it wouldnt work out b/w us..... i just looked @ him & said thats risk rite? it was not discussed any further... What i think he wants me to understand is that he is buzy & stressed & i should be supportive & understanding... how i can i?... thats why W is there right?... is really my concern that he cant talk to her abt his issues?.... i would have loved to be in the little pow wow talks in the bedroom abt the day & any issues... but i am not... i am alone in my bed. NC? - no agreement.... i dont know if i am strong enough to tell him its over... i still need to find the strength.... is this the only way?
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