QuietGuy Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Hello. I will try to make this short and to the point. I doscovered my wife (37 years old) was having an online affair with another man for 2 months. They would dirty chat and perform mutual self-gratification. It's been a month to the day since I discovered and I have gone through many emotional days, both highs and lows. Guess I'm on a low today. I understand my part in this whole thing. We had drifted apart and had been cordial to each other, sex 4 or 5 times a year, etc. No sparks and no real meaningful long walks in the rain... I am over the sex part. I am 100% sure of that. My wife is an honest person, might sound funny, but i believe that. I see it in her eyes, feel it in her warmth and can tell by her actions. My problem is this: she continues to chat via online gaming with the guy. She says it is nothing, she just likes to play backgammon and he is always there so they just play. I am even in the room at times and we carry on discussions while she is engaged with him. They play quite a bit, but like I said, i do not believe there is anything funny going on. My question: Should I feel this disrespected? I want more than anything in the world to get over all of this. She knows of my dislike regarding the hole "still just friends pklaying backgammon" thing, but insists she is doing nothing wrong and it is just her outlet from hard work (RN working nights - hard work for sure). Please give opinions, I really need to hear them. QG
Whitt Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Do you want to work on your marriage? Have you guys tries going to a therapist. Perhaps even looking up ways to be spark romance in your relationship might work. Maybe she just needs to feel wanted.
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