Guest Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 What does falling out of love feel like? My relationship is cooling from the initial passion stage... we've been together for eleven months. I still find him attractive, feel a sort of affection toward him, and enjoy spending time with him, but it feels more like it did when we were friends. He kisses me less often, and when he does, it doesn't set my heart to pounding like it once did -- I almost have to concentrate to get worked up about it. Sometimes when he wants to get intimate, I am not in the mood, and vice versa, and this never used to happen. It feels like most of the thrill and excitement is lost, and I can't bring it back all alone. I am always the one to call him and set up plans -- it just seems like a lot of our enthusiasm is gone. We still behave curteously, and I still care about him... is it still love? Is love, after a time, just sort of a friendship with a little bit of a simmer? I know it can't stay in the romantic, passionate stage forever, but this is almost boring. I think of him, and feel only a faint fondness where once his face was burned in my mind. I hug him, and smile for a second, and then we just talk. We used to go alone everywhere, and now we just as often take friends -- even for his birthday. Is it all I am supposed to expect in a long term relationship? Or is something missing? Can't long term love be passionate, too? It seems like the passion that once came so easily is just a memory, or an effort to scrape temporarily back into existance. I don't want to end it if this is all that is going to happen in any of my relationships (the cycle would only repeat itself) but somehow I think there is supposed to be more... Am I wrong?
Guest001 Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 First off every situation is different. Most of my realationship last 2 years + depending on the situation. All of those the relationships has deminshed in one way or another. Why do you think people cheat? Passion.. Excitment.. Best thing to do is talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel or maybe tell him your friend is having this trouble and wanted to get his opinion on it. Either way youll find out what his fame of mind is on the subject. As far as you know he might be feeling the same way and worried about saying something to you. If he hears that your feeling this way he might try to pep it up a bit. This is just a suggestion, but it sounds like something needs to be done if you r not happy.
willduggan Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 this thread is actually kind of helpful to myself as well. im in a similar situation where ive been with a woman for 2 and 3/4ths years and im kind of feeling the same way. like its not as exciting as it should be or that the passion is gone. this is my first long term relationship and it has me worried that im not in it for the right reasons or.....something. any married folk out there have any comments on your opinion of long term relationships?
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