sazzya1987 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 For the first time in our relationship I have seen him and spoke to him while he was drunk, I did not like it at all! It really upset me and I don't know why. He told me he has only got drunk once when we were not dating there for would never do it again but last night he was so drunk that it upset me and I feel disapointed. I know everyone gets drunk now and then so I don't know why I feel the way I do. has anyone else felt the same or is this feeling normal?
Solachica Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 You ever gotten drunk before? Wht is it tht you don't like when he was drunk? His attitude towards you? To other people?
Author sazzya1987 Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 You ever gotten drunk before? Wht is it tht you don't like when he was drunk? His attitude towards you? To other people? I've never got drunk before. I think what bothered me was that he knew he had enough to drink but he's friends just kept pushing him to have more, like he doesnt have the guts to say no. Plus also I worried about him because he told me he almost got his mobile phone stolen twice. The lack of knowing where he is and what his doing when his drunk worries me and upsets me. He could get way worse drunk in future and could hurt himself. I don't mind him going out and having fun with his mates even if it does involve drinking beer, I'm happy he is having fun! But when he gets himself so hammered and being driven home by a just as drunk friend... I don't know, it just worried me a bit which is why I feel sad about the whole thing.
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 If he doesn't drink often or at all, the alcohol is going to hit him pretty hard when he does drink, and he won't have any experience to know how much is too much...otherwise known as a lightweight. By having more experiences drinking, he'll have a better understanding of how alcohol affects his body and what his tolerance level is and what he can't and cannot handle. If I were you, I wouldn't bitch about him drinking. He'll think you're trying to control him and he'll just get pissed off and start feeling pussy-whipped if he can't go out and have fun with his friends. You can, however, talk to him about more responsible drinking. The drinking and driving thing is a much bigger problem, as I see it. Not only is that dangerous for him and his equally drunk friend, but they are putting other innocent people at risk while they are on the road. This is something you really need to sit him down and talk to him about, because he could ruin his life by getting into an accident and killing some little family that got in the way of your friends stupidity. You might want to offer to pay for a cab if he's ever in that situation, or tell him to call you so you can come pick him up. Better yet, they can take turns being designated driver, so one of them at least stays sober enough to drive.
Author sazzya1987 Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 Thanks norajane thats really great advice! I don't mind him going out hanging with his friends, I'm happy that he does that and has fun. I didn't nag or yell at him for being drunk it just upset and shocked me a little to hear he was drunk.
Solachica Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 He shud learn his limits and not have his friends push him. Tell him your fears abt his over indulging and abt him getting into a car with a person who has also been drinking.
bumbaclot Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I've never got drunk before. I think what bothered me was that he knew he had enough to drink but he's friends just kept pushing him to have more, like he doesnt have the guts to say no. When you are drunk you don't usually so "no" It's mostly "give me more"!
RecordProducer Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I think you just feel sick of the picture you saw - him being drunk like a cistern. That's okay and very understandable. All you need to do is tell him the truth - that seeing him drunk made you feel disappointed. You expect from your man to be a hero, to be alert and bright and strong at any time; you don't want to see a gagging creature, disabled by the alcohol he put inside him, and not being aware of what's going on around him. Let him know that he can't take alcohol well and shouldn't drink. Plus you're worried about his health and life beside the fact that he makes a fool out of himself. Alcohol makes people sound and act like retardoes. It's an intellectual depressant. Of course, that's not very charming an image.
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