steenerz Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 my bf doesn't think it's necessary to talk everyday...whereas i think it is! at least like, 5 mins before before bed, u know? Another communication issue...when one of us is on vacation (usually with our respected families, we are both only 20) he doesn't like to talk to me! If HE'S on vacation he'll say something like "i have to spend time with my family" or when i'm on vacation, he'll say "you need to go have fun with your friends..." ....maybe i'm just overthinking and FREAKING OUT (haha ok YES i am) BUT i kinda feel like he sometimes uses this as a vacation away from ME. Am I just asking too much?
eyeswideshut Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 yeah, you're probably freakin' out. I was like that too though. My ex really loved that about me though. I'd follow him around everywhere. Read "why men love bitches" I read the Rules back in the day, and got so good at it, that I ended up dumping my boyfriend, and men came a'flocking. It's all in the attitude baby. Cause I don't think I look any different.
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Yeah, you could dial it back a little. You want him to look forward to talking to you, and not feel obligated, hunted, or routine, like brushing teeth.
Author steenerz Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 so, it's possible that he still loves me? haha i'm jk. I know he loves me. I just wished he would WANT to talk to me everyday!
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Guys aren't like that. They don't have that need. If he did, he'd be one of those needy, clingy guys that you probably would get sick of real quick.
Annacabana Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I am sure that he can love you even if he a talkative person. I don't know how serious you two are but if you have plans to marry some day, you have to ask yourself if you will be fine with not talking to your spouse? Imagine long drives where you are the only one talking the whole time. I sometimes get jealous of my sister's and their husbands, they talk to each other all the time and never seem to run out of things to share.
Guest001 Posted May 31, 2006 Posted May 31, 2006 Well..... Having good communication helps your relationship ALOT, especially cutting back on arguing.. Some people arent real big talkers but there should be some type of communication between the both of you. Reguardless of anything, if you keep telling him that he needs to talk more then he wont ever consider it. It will be filed away as "shes nagging me again" and he'll end up hating the idea. If he gets into that mode then he'll start getting ticked everytime its said. Maybe possibly try not talking to him and he'll prob ask whats goingon and you could just say that you realize he doesnt like to talk and maybe youll do the same. Thats just a little suggestion. When things change a guy will take more notice and he'll start thinking more. As far as wanting to talk more, I would think your normal.
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