Mjfru Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Well the story is pretty long. But I'll explain briefly. . . . A couple weeks ago I met this girl at the college I used to go to. I met her through one of my best friends and that friend told me that she thinks I'm really cute and really hot, and since it's been 2 years since I've been with a girl, I got pretty excited. Also this girl is gorgeous as well. Anyway we were hanging out for the two days we had, and to make things short we ended up hooking up the night before she had to leave. It was great, but the thing is that I'm really sensitive, and all of a sudden I wanted her more than just for sex. I stayed with her the entire day helping her pack and whatever, and we acted like a couple the entire day and I was loving it. I explained how I would love for us to be a real couple, but she told me that she's afraid of relationships, because she doesn't want to get hurt. I could understand that, but I continued to push at it anyway. Well here's some more context. She's an asian girl who lives over in Singapore lol. But she'll be back in the States in June (the 15th I believe), and she'll probably go back to that college again in the fall. Now see I go to a new college now, but I only live like 20 minutes from my old college (that she'll be at), so I could still go see her like every weekend. Anyway she does really like me and she kept telling me that she's going to really miss me. She is at home now, and we were talking to each other a lot online, and we plan on seeing each other a lot over the summer to get to know each other better and possibly become a couple. But there's another issue going on now. She has a guy who she met online visiting her from Sweden for like 3 weeks (he leaves the day she leaves). I mean we aren't a couple so I shouldn't care if they mess around, and I really don't, but she is a very flirtatious girl and I'm starting to feel like a relationship with her might hurt me. Well really what I'm getting at is that we're going to see each other in the summer a bunch, and hopefully that will clerify for us whether or not we should be a couple. The point is that she really likes me and misses me, and I feel the same about her . . . Well my real question is that I haven't talked to her online for around 4 days now because she has that guy there. She hasn't really talked to me either, and well I'm going to try not to talk to her for as long as possible, to hopefully give her some space and it might make her miss me more. Is this a good idea?
Solachica Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 You guys aren't a couple yet so don't start to get all possessive over her. She initially told you tht she desn't want a relationship becos she's afraid of getting hurt so if and when you two start spending more time together when she returns tht may still be an issue.
Author Mjfru Posted May 28, 2006 Author Posted May 28, 2006 yeah I know that that will be an issue, but what I really need info on is should I not talk to her for a couple weeks, and give her some space?
Solachica Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Yea give her some space. Let she enjoy her time with her visiting friend...maybe during tht time she may contact you.
Author Mjfru Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 alright well thanks for the information we have contacted each other, talked on AIM here and there since she left (around 2 weeks ago). So that's good, but I'm really going to try to lay off as much as possible, to just let things settle, when I see her again then I'll start working on a relationship again . . . . provided she seems to still want to try to get into one.
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