sexyLMC Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Right well yesturday morning the guy i was seing desided to tell me he didnt want to see me anymore.. i stayed strong and waited until i got home to cry and stuf, if the kind of person that many things doesnt bother me.. what is this breakin feeling all about..?? Anyway to try and forget about him i went to the pub with a few friends and guess who was in there.. it felt so weird after 1drink i left.. i feel so lost!!! i dont even know what the first step is.. how do u get over someone at the moment he is all i think about.. please help me!!!!!
Author sexyLMC Posted May 28, 2006 Author Posted May 28, 2006 what happened was..... sitting in the pub with a few friends, earlier on saturday i was with my best mate and he stole my phone and took a fe " weird " photos on it and saved one of himself as my wallpaper.. i didnt even look at my phone and just put it in my bag.. in the pub my "ex" took my phone to make a call and saw these photos i did explain totally.. BUT.. it was from like that second i knew we was going to break up. he read all my messages even though there was nothin on my phone he went through the lot.. Then he left the pub and rang me about 5mintues later to go and meet him.. i did then he just said he didnt think it was working out kinda thing.. I rang him this morning just to make sure he knew i wasnt lying about it all and he said were cool e.c.t but seemed really off with me..
kaytea Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Man, I feel for you, it sucks... But should your man really be going through your phone messages and such? I don't know.. maybe that's just me but I think he needs to respect your privacy. Another thing, it seems like he doesn't trust you enough to believe your story maybe? Or maybe he wants to... haveyou ever done anything to make him not trust you? It just sounds like there isn't enough trust in the realtionship.. and I know it seems innocent but you need to make sure your friends dont take any pictures that woudl make your man wonder... I know I've been in that situation before.. just be careful. Talk to him.. really let him know he can trust you, but to do that you have to start showing him he can trust you. But if he seems too far gone.. I guess sometimes you just have to move on you know? Let us know what happens. Be strong!
SoleMate Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Hmmmmmm...... First of all, it may help you to realize that your ex-bf has every right to break up with you, for a good reason, a bad reason, or even no reason at all. Second, the way you get over someone is NC (no contact) and distraction with other activities. There's a NC guide somewhere on LS, you can search for it. Third, I'll admit to being curious as to the content of the photos your friend took. Can you fill us in on that? And can you also mention whether there had been any problems with trust, jealousy, cheating etc. in the past between you and your bf? Last, I would definitely be more careful around this "best mate" in the future. How do you feel about him now, knowing that his actions contributed to your breakup? Is there any chance he wanted you to break up?
Solachica Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Why did you ex react tht way to the pic? Was there something going on between you and your friend before you and your ex were together? Why the mistrust?
Author sexyLMC Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 well.. i think he thinks i was going to cheat on him because he cheated on me new years eve he slept with this girl... i was so hurt but i feel as if i took him back because it soudns silly but it was as if he took away what makes me.. me.. When i did my portfolio i had a male photographer and he seemed really weird about that aswel.. i dont mind him going through my phone but i dont want to have to feel as if i cant speak to other people. i have texted him and i left an answer phone message sayin basically if he doesnt want to talk to me again then to tell me instead of ignoring me.. im havin such a bad day today with my feels e.c.t.. to be honest with you.. i wish i never met him now i feel so so so down!!!! i just want all this pain to go away ya know.. as for my best friend.. hes still my mate.. why would i feel any different towards him?? he was having a laugh.. maybe not a funny one to me or you but to him it was funny.. even though i havent spoken to him since..
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