doesHeLikeMe Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 I am 28, met this guy who is 9 yrs older than me. He invited me out for a drink, and then asked me to come back to his place. I did not intend to, but I had to drive him back because he had too many drinks. I did not anticipate sleeping with him on the first date, but we ended up having sex that night. I must say, it was the most incredible experience I've ever had in my whole life! We ended up having sex / making love 7 times throughout the night (yep I counted it). He invited me over again, another 2 nights over the next week. We had an amazing time when we were together. Here's the sad part... exactly 1 week after since we slept together, he's going overseas for 2 month holiday (he planned this for over a year, I understand). He's only just left yesterday. I like him alot, and I think he probably likes me too. I think that because of the little things he did, cooking dinner, taking care of my bike etc... and yes, there are times I wonder to myself whether it was only sex to him. I am now afraid and worried that he will meet someone while travelling and will end up sleeping with them. Before he left, I asked if he could let me know if he happens to meet someone else. I asked if he will call me, he said he will. I think I'm gonna go crazy just missing him and not knowing what he's up to while travelling. I guess I feel insecure because I've only known him for one week. I know too well that I have to deal with it best as I could. I know I have to keep myself busy and distract myself with other things. But knowing all that doesn't really help how I'm feeling right now... What should I do to get myself out of this misery? Do you think he will try to keep in touch with me while travelling if he still likes me? What clues should I take as to whether he likes me or not? Please help!!!
sophie68 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Just move on with your life while he is gone..... Dat eother people and forgte him for now....
Solachica Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 How long have you two known each other? You two aren't dating or in a relationship so there's nothing keeping him back from hooking up with someone while on Vacation. While he's on Vacation you continue with your life...
AriaIncognito Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 I agree with the other posters. You've known him a week. You're not in a committed relationship. Neither of you owes anything to the other just because you had sex. Sad, but true. Unless you guys talked and said you were exclusive, the chance is there to meet others. Hell, the chance is still there even when we are "exclusive" but you have to then trust in how your partner feels about you. Anyway, I agree with the others. Go out. Meet people. Even date if you want. It doesn't mean you're gonna fall in love with them. Maybe it'll even keep you realizing how much you like this other guy, once he's back. Jennifer
Author doesHeLikeMe Posted May 29, 2006 Author Posted May 29, 2006 Thank you all for replying. ariawoman, you are right saying "sad but true". I am really sad that the situation is such, because I like him quite a lot. I think I will take your advice and will force myself to meet some people... just to keep my mind occupied for the next 2 months. Then will see how things turn out once he's back.
sweethoneybee Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I, too, have this problem, except we've known each other for almost 5 months and we've never had sex because he is out of the country. He keeps saying that he loves me and that he will be back for me. But I too have insecurities that keep getting in the way. I email him every day and we talk whenever time allows which is not very often. It's hard to keep my mind off of him and our relationship. I believe that he is sincere about his feelings, but then, the doubts creep in every now and then. But everyone is right in saying that you should go on and do other things and see other people. In your case there was no "mutual commitment" made, so you should not worry about what he's thinking or feeling. If he has deeper feelings for you, he will let you know, I'm sure. Especially if you have made your feelings known to him. If he does not "come back" to you, don't see it as a loss. Accept it, remember it, and move on.
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