MichaelIsTaken90 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Hello Im michael im 16 years old. I got a 15 year old gf. But since everything has been ok lately my gf's mom now lets me come to their house for like 6 or 7 hours every friday or so to spend time with my gf. We have fun and talk about things but everytime i come we always start doing sexual things. It kind of my fault cuz as a boy u know we get very horny. But anyways when i mean sexual i mean we don't have sex because were still virgins but we like touch certain places on eachother and do stuff to them if u know what i mean. And my gf asked me once the other day if im using her. I tell her this is not true because Im not that type of guy and i love her. Cuz if i was really using her i would of asked her to have sex with me already. I been with her for almost 8 months and trust me i DONT want to lose her just cuz she feeling bad about this or is getting the wrong idea that im just like every other guy out there which im not. But the problem is my hornyness takes over my mind and i kind of forget the real reason why im at her house and that is to have some nice inocent bf and gf fun. Is there any way to control my horny mind so i can stop this before it gets out hand please help me Link to post Share on other sites
Bogun Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 can these posts get any dumber? Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 can these posts get any dumber? Give him a break, he is only 16. What did you expect? Michael, you and your gf are very young. Be very careful what goes on between you 2 because some things aren't meant to be done until your bodys are mature enough to handle it. Maybe you guys should make a rule. Only stay in rooms where there is other people. Don't get off alone, then you won't have the chance to do anything you will regret later. If you don't want your gf to feel bad, then you guys should cool it for awhile until you are old enough to make wise decisions. Is there an adult around that you can talk to and trust like a father, mother, uncle, teacher? Maybe if you can confide in a mature adult they can give you a little insight on how to control yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Solachica Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 Find other stuff to do besides making out. You woun't be able to put a complete stop to being horny but you can keep yourself occupied in other ways and like Tim'sAngel said... don't stay in rooms alone together. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 I don't think it's truly possible for a 16 yr old boy to stop feelings of sexual arousal. All you can do is manage those feelings and control how they may be expressed. Definitely just stay out of any private situations. And maybe spend less time 1:1. Do more group things like bowling, where you can have lots of fun, but minimal opportunities to get out of control. And also...perhaps self-gratification before you go over to your gf's house? Wouldn't that help ease the intensity a bit? Link to post Share on other sites
TrigunKenshin Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 i am so sick and tired of self-gratification, Hey dude, the best advice I can give you is that you'll always gonna be horny. Unlike you, I've never had the chance to date a girl or get a g/f do those kind of stuff you're doing with your g/f. And I've been horny for 8 years now. YOu gotta stay strong, and don't screw it up. If she says yes, she's ready go for it. YOu can't get rid of horniness but you can befriend it so that it doesn't get to you. Link to post Share on other sites
radiation7740 Posted May 27, 2006 Share Posted May 27, 2006 I don't recommend self gratification because it can get addicting. If you must get involved with self gratification keep it at a minimum. Otherwise when you are older and mature you won't enjoy sex as much because you've gotten used to masturbation for years. It is addicting. That's what happened to me. I started masturbating as a way to satisfy my sexual desires as a teenager because nobody wanted to go out with me. Now here I am 25 years old & I've been with 4 women who have been willing to have sex with me but none of them made me orgsam. In most cases I also fell asleep during sex. It got to the point where it felt more like a chore to have sex with my gf at the time so I just cut it off completely. I haven't had sex in 3.5 years but like you I've done sexual things like touching. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MichaelIsTaken90 Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 but me and my gf do have people in the same room with me and her but we always seem to get under a blanket in the dark and do it anyways without people seeing it. I hate getting horny now for some reason. For some reason now i cant get touching her private part thing out of my head. And it keeps bothering me. And guess wat im going to her house again next friday so i want to make sure this stuff doesnt happen again. And on the phone today i made her a promise from my heart that i wouldnt ever do that again for now no more. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 And on the phone today i made her a promise from my heart that i wouldnt ever do that again for now no more. Come Friday night your fingers will be doing most of the talking, and Mr. Johnson will soon follow. Not to worry, as long as you know where to find Trojan Man. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Come Friday night your fingers will be doing most of the talking, and Mr. Johnson will soon follow. Not to worry, as long as you know where to find Trojan Man. Ah come on west, is that really the best advice for a 16 yr old? I hardly think 15 is the age to start using Mr. Johnson. If he doesn't learn self control now he never will Link to post Share on other sites
Author MichaelIsTaken90 Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 ahhh come on guys i know in my heart that im physically ready to have sex but not emotionally ready yet. U gotta understand i really love this girl. Im not in it for sexual stuff. But everytime i make out with my gf at her house or im just close to her my little buddy down there gets very excited. Then after i touch her in certain places and we both get horny i feel like i cant have a good time with her for the rest of the night no more because after that all im wanting to do is touch her and pleasure her everywhere. This really screws up my night all the time.The only thing im asking for is having a fun night talking and making out and kissing and cuddling and talk about our futures together. But noooooooooooo i barely get that chance cuz i keep getting horny and it ruins ALL OF IT! Link to post Share on other sites
Solachica Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 So who's in the room when you two get under the covers?...Parents? Since you know wht happens when you two get under the covers why not practice some restraint and not go under the covers? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Ah come on west' date=' is that really the best advice for a 16 yr old? I hardly think 15 is the age to start using Mr. Johnson. If he doesn't learn self control now he never will[/quote'] If he's making out and touching her, it's only a matter of time... Age has nothing to do with hormones, and it's time he faces the music, before he faces a pregnant girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 If he's making out and touching her, it's only a matter of time... Age has nothing to do with hormones, and it's time he faces the music, before he faces a pregnant girlfriend. Age has nothing to do with hormones, but it is unhealthy if started to early in life. I knew of a girl who got a form of cancer from having sex too young Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I knew of a girl who got a form of cancer from having sex too young That's not a common side effect. The usual aftershock is a bun in the oven. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 That's not a common side effect. The big aftershock is usually a bun in the oven. Yes I'm very well aware of the bun situation. And no, its not common, but possible. You dont' want to encourage losing ones virginity at such a young age. They are not physicaly or emotionally ready to engage in intamacy. PLus, for women at least, its very important a women knows about her self worth. It can be detrimental (sp) if she hasn't realized the how to respect her body. I should know this. Link to post Share on other sites
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Michael, When you have the urge to touch her inappropriately, think of something mundane, like baseball. Don't think about her and her private parts if you truly love her. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Yes I'm very well aware of the bun situation. And no' date=' its not common, but possible. You dont' want to encourage losing ones virginity at such a young age. They are not physicaly or emotionally ready to engage in intamacy. PLus, for women at least, its very important a women knows about her self worth. It can be detrimental (sp) if she hasn't realized the how to respect her body. I should know this.[/quote'] I agree with you, but the path he's taking is very dangerous if he wishes to remain virtuous. No way a young man can stave off the urge to merge when he puts himself in compromising situations. Any guy who thinks he can ride it out and have the best of both worlds will find out the hard way. Pun intended. Any guy who thinks he's stonger than his biological impulses has got another thing coming. Pun intended. It's either/or, and nothing in between, except her sweet spot. Maybe he should get a hobby, or play sports, or go to the library. Anything to take up some of his time. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim'sAngel Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I agree with you, but the path he's taking is very dangerous if he wishes to remain virtuous. No way a young man can stave off the urge to merge when he puts himself in compromising situations. I thought I was the only one that used this phrase! Any guy who thinks he can ride it out and have the best of both worlds will find out the hard way. Pun intended. Any guy who thinks he's stonger than his biological impulses has got another thing coming. Pun intended. It's either/or, and nothing in between, except her sweet spot. I agree, once the urge hits young raw hormones, there usually is not turning back, but I refuse to say "oh its normal, just go with it, be safe, have fun!!" I started messing around with my bf at 15, the innocent touching and fooling around. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17 almost 18, still young, but my point is, it can be done. You can control yourself but unfortunately, it is usually up to the female to slow things down. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 You can control yourself but unfortunately' date=' it is usually up to the female to slow things down.[/quote'] I can definitely attest to this. For some guys, this can be a painful experience, unless they say screw it and look for someone easier. It happens, unless you really like the girl. I've had enough first date experiences to know how this works... not planning on anything except a casual evening, she invites me in to watch a movie, we shut off the television, then... *smirk* Not sure if I could call those dates. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MichaelIsTaken90 Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 So who's in the room when you two get under the covers?...Parents? Since you know wht happens when you two get under the covers why not practice some restraint and not go under the covers? Well her 2 little sisters are in there with us when we are under the covers on the couch but their always to busy watching tv or using the computer to pay attention to me and my gf. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Well her 2 little sisters are in there with us when we are under the covers on the couch but their always to busy watching tv or using the computer to pay attention to me and my gf. Ever heard of going out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MichaelIsTaken90 Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 well that is true i should go out cuz i havnt been to like the mall with her in ages. I was just thinking about that earlier. but sometimes i feel like i need to get away from the busy and noisy world outside since i do live in nyc and just need to stay home and have a plain good old time with my gf if u know wat i mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest001 Posted May 31, 2006 Share Posted May 31, 2006 Wow I remember that age, matter of fact I lost my virginity at 15. The fact is your not going to be able to change how you feel in that way. There are some very good posts here that give you some options on what you can do to try and stave it off, but at your age its an animal instinct. Its good to hear someone your age worrying about it and just not going for it. That to me shows that you really care for this girl and have a good head on your shoulders. Wish I was like that at your age. 8P You could do what was said in a previous post and ........ pleasure yourself before going over to her house. If you do this though dont get into a cycle of doing it ALL the time. Later in life it can mess you up , try to keep it under 3xs a week. Age wise Id be worried about you watching this movie but if you can, watch something about marry. That describes alot in that funny litte 20 min bit. If.... No WHEN it happens again stop yourself and look at her to let her know your sorry and your doing what you agreed on. In her eyes it should show yourself as wanting too soooo bad but your not going to do it because you care about her more than what the animal in you wants to do. In that respect she should be happy and your proving to her that you indeed love/care about her and her feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Hyacinth123 Posted May 31, 2006 Share Posted May 31, 2006 ahhh come on guys i know in my heart that im physically ready to have sex but not emotionally ready yet. U gotta understand i really love this girl. Im not in it for sexual stuff. If you aren't emotionally ready then.... you shouldn't act out physically. Sex, touching, etc. should be a result of maturity. Maturity of both the guy & girl, and maturity in the relationship. If you can't set proper boundaries, you should cut off everything, until you can again. You obviously care about this girl, but if you continue down this path of playing with fire, you will end up going all the way, when an opportunity arises, which it will! Communicate how you feel about this with her, and ask her to aid you in being strong, and not going too far (gropeing, etc.) If it's really bothering you, you should tell one of your parents, (not details of what your doing) but tell them to watch you more cautiously. The word 'chaperon' doesn't imply merely having someone in the room, but someone who is aware of the situation, and works to enforce it. Definition: "one delegated to ensure proper behavior." Though this may feel weird at first, it'll work. You are a kid, you shouldn't be dealing with this at all. Your relationship shouldn't have progressed this far ' physically speaking', your only solution is to stop now, and take steps to prevent it leading to something more. The cake may smell great when it's in the oven, but it's not ready. Taking it out too early and eating the edges may taste wonderful. Because it's a taste of what you'll enjoy 'when your ready' years from now. But if you keep eating down to the undercooked batter....... it'll only lead to..(literally- sickness).. but in your situation it may lead to .. a child, or you could unintentionaly lose some respect for the girl you love, or vice versa, she could lose respect for herself. P.S. It's great that you recognize the need to slow down!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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