movinon05 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Oh God, LadyJane is sending 1976 back here again!! that's all I have to say. not gonna touch this again!!
Jessie61 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Oh God, LadyJane is sending 1976 back here again!! that's all I have to say. not gonna touch this again!! Yes, I snuck over "on the other side" too and I saw it!!!! HELP!!!!!!
Chump64 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Jessie, the reason I was upset had to do with her MM’s kids. Not the fact that he left his wife. I agree, if things are unsalvageable at home and it creates nothing but turmoil for the kids, divorce is (IMO) a very real option. If you look at my comments on THIS forum, I did not touch the infidelity situation at all. I was bristling at the seemingly flippant attitude about him losing everything and not regretting it, and it appeared that she was including custody of his kids with that statement. And then she received shouts of encouragement. After seeing that thread, this seemed like the kind of place for ’76 to be posing his questions, but maybe I was wrong.
movinon05 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Chump!! Yes, you were wrong for sending him here! And you keep harping on things that are, as I said, "sound bites". No one was encouraging her regarding the difficulties with the kids. And you automatically interpret what Karis says as if she doesn't care about the kids or the MM doesn't care about the kids. She's also writing tidbits of information without explaining every single little thing, and you're interpreting it one way!! You can't keep interpreting written words without inflections from a spoken word and without discussing every little bit and say she has a seemingly flippant attitude!! Once you start attacking people, they will usually come back and flip! Give it a break!!
Iwanttohope Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 Chump, I went back and read some of your other threads and there is a commonality in them. Its bitterness. I'm sad for you because I can tell through some of your posts that you've been hurt badly through your own experience. I know even through my own experience I've had to battle bitterness and I refuse to let it grow in me. I have people in my life that hold me accountable to that because it can sneak up on you and grow. I can attest to the fact that the people participating on this site are for integrity, self respect and honesty...EVEN in light of what poor choices may have led them to be in the situation they're in. If that were not the underlying theme (in most, not all) posts, then I wouldn't be here. What I haven't sensed in the people that post most consistently is hopelessness or bitterness. Do we have bad days--yes--do we have to pick ourselves up and dust each other off--yes. The running theme in consistent posters on the OM/OW site is hope, encouragement to do the right thing and re-learning our self worth which has been so badly damaged. There are the occasional visitors who feel the need to spew poison occassionally but most don't. I wasn't going to respond to this thread but the people on the OM/OW forum have been so encouraging that it makes me want to defend what the forum has been about for me.
Jessie61 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Jessie, the reason I was upset had to do with her MM’s kids. Not the fact that he left his wife. I agree, if things are unsalvageable at home and it creates nothing but turmoil for the kids, divorce is (IMO) a very real option. If you look at my comments on THIS forum, I did not touch the infidelity situation at all. I was bristling at the seemingly flippant attitude about him losing everything and not regretting it, and it appeared that she was including custody of his kids with that statement. And then she received shouts of encouragement. After seeing that thread, this seemed like the kind of place for ’76 to be posing his questions, but maybe I was wrong. Chump, You think I misunderstood you. Fair enough, that is your opinion. But I am still going to suggest that we might agree to disagree. It is still a matter of interpretation; we read the same text, you look at it one way, and I look at it in a different way. That's all. Can we now leave it at that? Please? I am not in the habit of arguing with strangers on the internet and I am not going to make an exception for you.
zarathustra Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Yes, I posted in the Infidelity section, someone pointed me here. The forum topic is, "The Other Man / Woman The other side of the story: Support and discussion for those who find themselves involved with a committed partner." I came here to discuss the situation I am in, being involved with a committed partner. Exactly as the forum describes. I figured I would come here, and get an opinion from people who have been there, done that. You guys can sit here, poke fun, act wise, whatever, but your have been, or are in the same situation I am in, but if picking on me makes you feel better about yourself, by all means, bring it, I can handle it. 1976, if you are still following this thread, I want to say that your situation is not a laughing matter. There is A LOT at stake. I didn't poke fun at you and I didn't really get that feeling at all. We do a lot of laughing here, but mainly at ourselves and we do laugh a little about how we find ourselves in this predicament. Yeah, this is a forum for those who find themselves in a relationship with a committed partner, I think that the figurative phrase here is "find". It is not a forum on how to get yourself into a relationship with a committed partner. So I don't really give a rat's ass who sent you here, but this is not the forum for you if you want advice on how to become an OM or a MM with an OW. I hope you understand that. If you want a voice of reason, then we are here for you.
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