lilguestboy.. Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 so, ill get straight to the point by saying theres this girl i like, weve been friends for quite a while, i was planning to step it up a notch, but i had to move to another country. Thing is i still like her alot, but i never got the chance to tell her. Its been about a month now and i havent done anything. sure we chat sometimes, but thats not the same as being with her.. and i dont really like the idea of "confessions over internet chatting"- i find it stupid really.. ive been thinking of writing a letter maybe, i dont know.. im really confused, and depressed, im not even sure if she likes me back, sure, she tells me that she loves me, and i tell her i love her back, but then thats just it, just words, im not even sure whether she means it or not.,. im seriously at a loss, desperate enough to seek advice here.. lol, anything would help. thx alot.
Keen Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Hi, Its been about a month now and i havent done anything. sure we chat sometimes, but thats not the same as being with her.. and i dont really like the idea of "confessions over internet chatting" You're a smart one and you're right, it's not the same when you're with someone. The best thing you can do, if you're serious about bringing this further, is to visit her and see her in person. Talk to her, observe her, don't let emotions get over your head though. Who knows, she may be completely different from what she shows online, and vice versa. Also, you mentioned that it's been about a month that you're talking to each other. A month may seem long, but that's pretty short in terms of really getting to know someone. What do you mean by "stepping up a notch"? If you mean that you want to date her for real, then you'll have to work this out with her. Depending on what you two agree on, if you're both committed to each other, you can either (a) set up a plan to meet online every week x-number of times at x-time per day, so you can catch up with her and keep in contact, or (b) move out and be nearer to her, or she move out and be nearer to you. Hope this helps, I don't have all the details so I can't really give you more advice.
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 You had to move to another country? Are you moving back? If not, why bother telling her about your feelings now? Even if she likes you too, what kind of relationship do you see yourself having if you're in separate countries?
feelingsforbf Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 I have to say you must tell her because I myself have totally fallen in love with my bestfriend who is now in the navy. He told me two days before he left that he liked me. I was like why now, but so happy he did so I could be honest and tell him how I felt. I was able to see him this weekend and it had been almost 4 months but we talk just about everyday and honestly I wouldnt care if he was in timbucktoo Id still love him and wait for him. Eventually we will be able to be in the same area. I had planned on actually talking with my friend last night but things didnt work out so as much as I hated too I sent him a really sweet email and expressed everything. Sometimes email, and the phone are the only lines of communication we have and I totally know what you mean about it not being the same as in person. But do the best with what you got. Everything in life is about taking chances so if you dont tell her you will never know. Its better to get an answer then live with the "what if's" for the rest of your life. Plus if she means that much to you, then you really need to tell her. I know I would want to know. Good luck
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