radiation7740 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 By the age of 25 a man should be finished with college ( roughly ) and in his own place or rooming with friends. I know some say its okay to still be at home but I would be looking for someone at that age to be showing me he was becoming independant of his parents. Yes rents are very high. I live alone and pay alot. Thinking about sharing a house with someone to ease the burden of astronomical prices. But still , as I say , he should be making movements to get on his own in some way. Other cultures have the kids stay there until they are 30-40s but mostly in America 18 you are considered an adult and make plans to get your own place, not withstanding college students who stay with their parents until they graduate. All I can say is different strokes for different folks.
Mary3 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 All I can say is different strokes for different folks. Agreed .......
Sand&Water Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 One thing I can say, joel. Get off your a$$, and do something. At your rate, I wouldn't be surprised if you're 35, and at the same place in your life. Stop whinning, and start planning. While you're at it, score some confidence. [i don't mean to be so harsh, but someone gotta say to you]
norajane Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 By the age of 25 a man should be finished with college ( roughly ) and in his own place or rooming with friends. I know some say its okay to still be at home but I would be looking for someone at that age to be showing me he was becoming independant of his parents. Yes rents are very high. I live alone and pay alot. Thinking about sharing a house with someone to ease the burden of astronomical prices. But still , as I say , he should be making movements to get on his own in some way. Other cultures have the kids stay there until they are 30-40s but mostly in America 18 you are considered an adult and make plans to get your own place, not withstanding college students who stay with their parents until they graduate. I agree with this. I worked my way through college, and got my own place right after graduation. Worked some more and put myself through grad school. At the time, I was in love with someone who didn't have a direction and lived his parents, and I broke up with him after 4 years because he had no direction and never appeared that he would. He still doesn't. These days, I would never date someone who doesn't see the need to have his act together. We just wouldn't have enough in common, and could never be happy together.
ronnieromance Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 i asked ppl on this and other forums asking "can you date if you have no car", majority of the respnders have said YEs you can. they are dating you and not ur car,take transit if you live in a populated area- i live in vancouver,bc. i'm 25 my folks have one car and dad uses it all teh time. i was goin to school full time, with the costs of a car, insurance and yes yes gas prices who can afford a car unless folks pay for it. a reasonable price car without breaking down fast is like 7,000 second hand, insurance is 1,300/yr, and gas price now are like $$$$. till i find a real career and good paying job-it means no car. my folks are also very parnoid and over protective about drivng-accidents and getting hurt driving. i asked my folks and they said they won't buy me a car. i didn;t get my license till i was like 23-no point we only had one car in the family and my folks weren't willing to buy another one. so what do i do wait till i'm 35 and date.lol i knew some guy-classmates in college who didn't have cars and dated and had gfs. i guess every girl is different. anyways what do u learn in dating in HS-i can fake experince. anyways i was told by someone in another forum to lie about my age-so they have less expectations like no car, less money as if ur 25 they expect more from u, as if you say ur 22 or 21 its more acceptable and date younger girls. hey i'm asian why not use what u have-younger looks -lol . also i dress younger too -sporty and spiking my hair. Ehh, it sounds like you're having your quarter life crisis. We all go through a different issue. As you can see ther is a fair amount of gold diggery among women. I do have to say it depends on where you live. In a place like NY or in South Beach, a car is a luxury that is sometimes more of a burden. In a suburb, it's more liek a necessity. Why don't you join a dating site like WebDate and use it to weed out the oil barronesses? -R-
radiation7740 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 I agree with this. I worked my way through college, and got my own place right after graduation. Worked some more and put myself through grad school. At the time, I was in love with someone who didn't have a direction and lived his parents, and I broke up with him after 4 years because he had no direction and never appeared that he would. He still doesn't. These days, I would never date someone who doesn't see the need to have his act together. We just wouldn't have enough in common, and could never be happy together. If that is the case then I don't think you loved him in the 1st place. You might have been infatuated and that's only temporary. Real love & infatuation feel the same in the beginning. Real love endures forever.
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 If that is the case then I don't think you loved him in the 1st place. You might have been infatuated and that's only temporary. Real love & infatuation feel the same in the beginning. Real love endures forever. I loved him. But I fell out of love with him. I lost respect for him when I finally realized he was never going to get a job and work toward a solid future and life together. Once I lost respect for him because he wasn't even trying, I couldn't stay in love with him anymore.
radiation7740 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 He may just look at the break up as your loss. He can always find someone else who isn't as demanding as you are.
norajane Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 He may just look at the break up as your loss. He can always find someone else who isn't as demanding as you are. He's welcome to do so.
kitkat826 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 He may just look at the break up as your loss. He can always find someone else who isn't as demanding as you are. I hardly call expecting someone to have a job "demanding".
radiation7740 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 I hardly call expecting someone to have a job "demanding". It really depends on your personal goals in life. If you are ambitious about life then naturally you want someone else who is. But not everyone is as ambitious about life as you are. My point is that he can always find a woman who is not goal oriented either. My ex gf was not goal oriented. I'm the type who is interested in doing only what it takes to get by. There's other stories about guys with no jobs getting dates. The story I told on this thread is not an exception. I didn't say that her expecting him to have a job is demanding. He has to get a job whether he's dating someone or not. He needs to get a job if he is interested in survival. That is really the primary reason anybody looks for a job. I work not because I hope to score brownie points with girls. I work because I'm interested in eating again. If I didn't enjoy eating then I would probably never work. Bottom line is that not being able to get a date should be the least of his worries if he's unemployed. He needs to worry about surviving first and foremost because his parents will die one day. And then what? How is he going to survive if he doesn't have a job? With or without a gf is not the issue here.
Mary3 Posted May 29, 2006 Posted May 29, 2006 Ehh, it sounds like you're having your quarter life crisis. We all go through a different issue. As you can see ther is a fair amount of gold diggery among women. I do have to say it depends on where you live. In a place like NY or in South Beach, a car is a luxury that is sometimes more of a burden. In a suburb, it's more liek a necessity. Why don't you join a dating site like WebDate and use it to weed out the oil barronesses? -R- I am absolutely not a Gold Digger. As many years as I have been on this earth I have never sought out a man for his money or what he could buy me. I am on my own , single and dating. I don't want a sugar daddy. I like a man for his HEART and sense of HUMOR , his CARING and INTELLIGENCE. That is all
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