joel Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 i asked ppl on this and other forums asking "can you date if you have no car", majority of the respnders have said YEs you can. they are dating you and not ur car,take transit if you live in a populated area- i live in vancouver,bc. i'm 25 my folks have one car and dad uses it all teh time. i was goin to school full time, with the costs of a car, insurance and yes yes gas prices who can afford a car unless folks pay for it. a reasonable price car without breaking down fast is like 7,000 second hand, insurance is 1,300/yr, and gas price now are like $$$$. till i find a real career and good paying job-it means no car. my folks are also very parnoid and over protective about drivng-accidents and getting hurt driving. i asked my folks and they said they won't buy me a car. i didn;t get my license till i was like 23-no point we only had one car in the family and my folks weren't willing to buy another one. so what do i do wait till i'm 35 and date.lol i knew some guy-classmates in college who didn't have cars and dated and had gfs. i guess every girl is different. anyways what do u learn in dating in HS-i can fake experince. anyways i was told by someone in another forum to lie about my age-so they have less expectations like no car, less money as if ur 25 they expect more from u, as if you say ur 22 or 21 its more acceptable and date younger girls. hey i'm asian why not use what u have-younger looks -lol . also i dress younger too -sporty and spiking my hair.
Mary3 Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 i asked ppl on this and other forums asking "can you date if you have no car", majority of the respnders have said YEs you can. they are dating you and not ur car,take transit if you live in a populated area- i live in vancouver,bc. i'm 25 my folks have one car and dad uses it all teh time. i was goin to school full time, with the costs of a car, insurance and yes yes gas prices who can afford a car unless folks pay for it. a reasonable price car without breaking down fast is like 7,000 second hand, insurance is 1,300/yr, and gas price now are like $$$$. till i find a real career and good paying job-it means no car. my folks are also very parnoid and over protective about drivng-accidents and getting hurt driving. i asked my folks and they said they won't buy me a car. i didn;t get my license till i was like 23-no point we only had one car in the family and my folks weren't willing to buy another one. so what do i do wait till i'm 35 and date.lol i knew some guy-classmates in college who didn't have cars and dated and had gfs. i guess every girl is different. anyways what do u learn in dating in HS-i can fake experince. anyways i was told by someone in another forum to lie about my age-so they have less expectations like no car, less money as if ur 25 they expect more from u, as if you say ur 22 or 21 its more acceptable and date younger girls. hey i'm asian why not use what u have-younger looks -lol . also i dress younger too -sporty and spiking my hair. To be honest with you Joel. If a guy has no car its a turnoff to me. He's going to take a bus to our date ? I live in a city where everyone has a car. No Car = No Date for me. Hope that doesn't sound mean but how can we progress if he has no car ? The rising gas prices and insurance make it tougher but maybe others have a different view on dating a guy without a car.??... I know in some cities people take taxis everywhere and few people have cars, I realize. Just my take on this. Don't shoot me please
SingleandHatingIt Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 No, don't lie about your age -- don't lie about anything for that matter. Be cool, honest, and act yourself. In this day and age, seems like the woman is taking over the man's role anyway. If you find the right girl, she'll take you out without any hesitation. I had a girlfriend like that in HS 11 years ago -- took me out and even paid for most stuff too. Don't be ashamed of anything like not having your own car, etc. Never let material things like that keep you from dating.
Author joel Posted May 26, 2006 Author Posted May 26, 2006 its already hard getting a date nevermind a gf-i mean why not lie a little to make urself sound better-if all ur looking is some experince -kiss and sex and gf experiences but nothing long term. girls these days are lookin for what a guy has and what not especailly if ur asian guy and asian girls are always-show me the money, cars, status and face less with white ppl -maybe i should start askin more WF out-but heck do they want us AM
PuppyDogEyes Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 its already hard getting a date nevermind a gf-i mean why not lie a little to make urself sound better Because then your entire relationship will have started based on lying. Is that the kind of start you want? - pde.
Fun2BMe Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 its already hard getting a date nevermind a gf-i mean why not lie a little to make urself sound better-if all ur looking is some experince -kiss and sex and gf experiences but nothing long term. Go ahead and lie. While you're at it, lie to her that you love her too. You might get more out of her. Use her and dump her. Wonderful. Great character.
SingleandHatingIt Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 its already hard getting a date nevermind a gf-i mean why not lie a little to make urself sound better-if all ur looking is some experince -kiss and sex and gf experiences but nothing long term. girls these days are lookin for what a guy has and what not Man, with this kind of attitude, you're at the wrong forum. You should be looking at the sex personals instead, lol. You want physical contact, but what's the point when there's no love behind it? You might as well be a male stripper or something... YOU think it's important to have all these material things like status, money, cars, whatever; but I wouldn't make a generalization that women are like that. I think you are just caught up in the illusion of a big city. By lieing about something as meaningless as your age, you're really just showing that you don't have any confidence in yourself, and NO girl is going to like that, car or no car.
l2hvn Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 Sorry, but I will never go out with a guy who has no car. It's not about material things. I worked very hard to get my first car. A guy should do the same thing. No excuses. And aren't you the same guy who kept posting about this same old problem with girls? Dude, do something about it! Be proactive. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Girls hate that!
Solachica Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 So why is it tht at this age you can't afford a car? You never had a Job?
SuperMonk Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 Joel, have you read a single post I made or any other posts. You're like a broken record, you must be one of those geeky guys that hang around the computer lab jerking off to porn and thinking you're hot stuff then you go back home making posts how awful it is to be yourself. YOU should STFU and fix yourself first before you ever start dating and posting on here. Your mother is looking hot tonight.
enoughisenough Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 No offense, but you are getting too old to pull that off. High school and college is one thing and even then most of the time women go for men who have something going for them. Having no car and still living with your parents at that age is kind of a turn off. Women like strong men.. someone who they think can take care of them. When I was 16 I was dating a 22 year old with a new car and good job. And that was actually just a coincidence. I never started dating him because of those things. Stop making excuses for yourself and get active! Only chance you got is if you happen to find someone and you fall in love with eachother and all that other stuff wont matter, but chances are at your age and with little social interactions, its not going to happen. I guess you might have to just date younger women. Like 18 or so and even then they might expect to be driven to their date. Only exception is if you lived in a really big city like new york where most people dont have cars. Everyone takes the metro etc. So either move to new york city, or start working on things pronto! You have a lot of things against you. #1. Still live with parents #2. Dont even have a car MY GOD! Shes going to think you cant do anything for yourself! You are 25... if you both happen to want to sleep with eachother.. what are you going to say??? "Come on over with me to my parents place"???? LOL I'm sorry, but you will have to find someone just as dependent and has a lot of problems of her own, to deal with all that.
enoughisenough Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 "my folks are also very parnoid and over protective about drivng-accidents and getting hurt driving." OMFG. No wonder you are so far behind from everyone else. YOUR PARENTS HAVE BEEN BABYING YOU YOUR WHOLE LIFE AND IT'S OBVIOUS!!! i asked my folks and they said they won't buy me a car." You are 25 years old and out of college. WTF are you doing still asking your parents for things? GROW UP! It's time to grow up and start taking care of yourself. You will grow confidence and end up attracting women. I'd start off by finding a decent job while continuing college and get a studio apartment. You are going to get nowhere relying on everyone else for everything.
radiation7740 Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 I'm going to pretend like I don't have a car for the next girl I date. This will be the test to weed out the sincere from the users.
enoughisenough Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 And we will see how sincere your hypocrite butt is when you start dating UGLY women and go by personality alone! When THAT happens, THEN you will have a point. Otherwise, it's an even trade. There are more MEN OUT THERE using women for their looks than there are women using men for their money! In fact, now that men are becoming more and more feminized, it's more likely you'll see a woman taking care of HIS lazy BUM ARSE! TOO FUNNY! GET A JOB AND GROW UP BUMS! THATS ALL I CAN SAY! THE ONLY USERS ARE YOU! You use your parents for CARS AND A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD??? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? When you are 25 and still asking your parents to buy you a car, you've got a problem. NO WOMEN like USERS, which is exactly why she will be more likely attracted to an INDEPENDENT MAN~!
radiation7740 Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 One of my ex girlfriend's guy friends has no car and no license. His license was suspended. He has no job either. He lived with his grandma. But he still managed to get a date. He's like 24. He's married now despite all of this. She has a car and a job and they got their own place together. So you can't generalize by saying that no woman will date a man who has no car. It's just a matter of finding the right girl and being confident in yourself. The guy friend I'm talking about had very little going for him except his confidence. He held on to that. He didn't even finish high school. He dropped out. I think it was his confidence and finding the right girl that got him married today. If he can do it without even a high school education, I know you can do it because at least you finished college.
radiation7740 Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 Also I want to say that you can be a millionare and have a brand new shiny car & live in a mansion & have good looks, intelligence, top notch careeer but none of these alone will be enough to get you a date if you don't have confidence. Lack of confidence will turn more women off than not having a car or living with your parents regardless if you have all the other qualities I listed above. I don't care how many other things you have going for you. Confidence is most important.
onegoal Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 I was watching Dr. Phil bout a year ago when he did a show on "smoochers" About guys in their late 20s who live at home off their parents. One guy like 28 decent looking, college degree lived at home, drove parents car, didnt have no job or anything. Dr. Phil asked him if he has a gf and he said no. Dr. Phil then asked if a girl would want to come to his parents house and eat Mac and Cheese. They did another one where guy went to school just one day a week, sleeped and played video games all day.
maxima888 Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 guys your so harsh on the dude... Having a car is a big plus but its do-able without. Yes, it would be easier if you were younger say HS age? And whats up with the bashing about getting your own place? A lot of people this day and age still live with their parents because of high expense in housing. Studies show a lot of late 20's and early 30's move back with their parents because its too expensive to live by themselves. I live with my parents and I'm 21 going onto 22 and no job... Just going to college right now...*going to start looking for another 1 soon tho I live in a big city and its extremely expensive to rent. Maybe the OT is from a big city as well. First I would sugguest you get a job. Because how are you going to pay for your dates movie/dinner? And deff save up for the car. Get a 93 honda civic those things are reliable and its something, correct? And after that if you can try to move out...your 25..you got to start thinking about these things.
PuppyDogEyes Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 guys your so harsh on the dude... I'm not being harsh on him because he has no car or no job, blah blah. I'm 34 years old and I just recently managed to move out on my own - I've been living with roommates for the last 15 years. It is expensive to live on your own, especially in a large city. I don't have a car myself - but I don't need one - I live in a major city in a downtown area, so I rely on my feet or public transportation. Seriously, let's get off of this "you need a car" crap - a bicycle works just as well and it's a hell of a lot cheaper to get around, not to mention a little less hard on the resources we've got left to us. (As far as I'm concerned, bring on the gas prices - I don't drive, so I don't care how many G's it's gonna take for John Q. Public to fill up his gas-guzzling Ford Explorer. That's John Q. Public's problem - perhaps J.Q. would do better by buying a Toyota Celica instead of trying to keep up with his neighbors. But I digress.) The reason I'm being harsh on him is because he thinks he's going to get somewhere in his relationships by telling "little white lies". Little lies lead to big lies. And it's no way to start any kind of a relationship, whether it's with a friend or a lover. - pde.
radiation7740 Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 I'm not being harsh on him either. I encourage him to be honest. I've already stated before about somebody who managed to get a date despite the fact that he had no job, no driver's license, no car & he lives out in the country. There's no shame in living with your parents regardless of how old you are. In some countries like ethiopia it's common for people in their 30s & 40s to live with their parents. Who's to say that the american way is the right way? The right woman will not judge you on where you live or whether or not you have your own car. The issue is confidence and treating her with respect will be a by-product of that confidence.
radiation7740 Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 I'd say you might be better off dating a foreigner in this country who does not conform to the american society's norms of children moving out of their parent's house at 18. Foreign women do not set their standards for boyfriends as high as caucasion females do. Date an ethiopian.
Mary3 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 By the age of 25 a man should be finished with college ( roughly ) and in his own place or rooming with friends. I know some say its okay to still be at home but I would be looking for someone at that age to be showing me he was becoming independant of his parents. Yes rents are very high. I live alone and pay alot. Thinking about sharing a house with someone to ease the burden of astronomical prices. But still , as I say , he should be making movements to get on his own in some way. Other cultures have the kids stay there until they are 30-40s but mostly in America 18 you are considered an adult and make plans to get your own place, not withstanding college students who stay with their parents until they graduate.
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