Long story but..

[Kev]

Iv known and absolutley adored this girl for nearly 3 years now but we've never actually been together officially. We've been together and done stuff together but unfortunatley for me I met her when she was sort of with another guy. Luckily it didn't last too long and we were close but we were only 17 and 16 and things just didnt happen. And me at a vulnerable age said and did completely the wrong things. Before I went to uni last september we'd have drunken arguments when we'd see each other out, resulting in us not talking for weeks, even months. I also happen to be good mates with her friends, and this has been problem in the past. However they all think im a nice lad and just right for this girl, and better lookin than other lads she'd been with, but she is a very strongwilled person and refused to take it any further.

 

I went to uni and eventually by my 19th birthday in October 06' I was over her and admittingly playing around living the uni-lifestyle. And it was not until the easter break this year when i returned home that I saw her out. I felt nothing which I thort was class, and she saw me pulling and confidently talkin to other girls, where my confidence had been shattered before i went to uni.

 

Then late in the easter hols, we were talking on the dancefloor and one thing lead to another and we kissed. The rest of the easter hols I'd never felt so good as she came round my house twice and I just felt something different. I returned to uni with my head still firmly screwed on and knowing not to get carried away. She began to txt me and ring me because she knew It wasnt long b4 i came back for summer. We became so close even though we were apart. She told me she knows I'd never hurt her and that no lad has ever liked her like i have, and she cares for me loads, and couldnt wait to see me. We'd flirt over the phone and were real close, we started to call each other babe, which i thought was never possible. But we both knew nothin too serious could happen because i was back to uni in september 06'.

 

The day came when I was returning home, and I got a text sayin a lad turned up the other night at a party and bought some feelings back for her. I appreciated her honesty but I was obviously deeply gutted, but unlike when i was 17, i played it cool and just gave it space. Her mates told me he's nothing compared to me - looks/personality, and i got the usual "easier said than done" advice from my mates.

 

Were not talking basically because Im not chasing her like i used to. And its her best mates b-day tonight and im goin, and she'll be there. Im absolutley hurt inside considerin the last month but actin cool, reluctantly, because im dyin to speak to her. I absolutley care for her loads and its hard knowing another lad has just strolled along and got what i was mainly lookin forward to comin back to.

 

Is it right to go tonight?

 

NOT A CLUE WHAT TO DO!

 

Thanks xx

[Solachica]

You've had any contact with her since tht last txt message?

If you aren't sure abt the way things are progressing then make the first move becos you don't want to spend your life waiting and hoping and wondering.