catherine Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 I myself have been in a long distance relationship now for two years. I must say it has been one of the hardest things that I have yet to endure. I am very much in love with my partner. I have been for quite some time. However, it has been a trial as of late. Relative to cyber sex, we have cams (all the bells and whistles). We use to use the web cam frequently, not just as a sexual outlet but just as a tool to be able to see one another when we talked. It is the closet thing to being in the same room with one another when the pc is all that you have. Lately however, well a bit longer than lately the cams never go on anymore. Not even just to see one another when we talk. With my partner there is always some reason as to why waht use to be a daily thing is now something that is non existent in our relationship. The reasons I get are general ones as to why this has stopped. It is MSN or the new roommate. It is always something. So basically I have gone from seeing him every day for hours at a time to not seeing him at all. Relative to the sexual side of things that has become non existent as well. Again an array of reasons. My intuition nags me that there is more than meets the eye here, even though he repeatedly claims that he loves me and misses me like crazy. I can only ask if this is the case then why have we gone from one extreme to another?
inhighwater Posted May 30, 2006 Posted May 30, 2006 Have the two of you ever met in person? Do you talk on the phone? Or do you text message each other’s cell phones? Did this like happen overnight? Are the conversations shorter? I don’t think that someone that is married could pull this off for two years. On the other hand, if someone had a girlfriend and then now she moved in, I could see them getting away with it for awhile till she moved in. Then I could also see someone sincerely starting a relationship with you and they end up meeting someone else and thinking that your relationship was going no where except through a PC. Then they start seeing the person they met and put you on the back burner just in case their new relationship does not work out. Be careful! If I was you I would slowly without saying anything just slowly back away from the relationship. Like they say if the one you love is met to be they will come running after you!
Sadly Posted June 1, 2006 Posted June 1, 2006 Catherine......... We are on the same boat. My LDboyfriend and I were really close for 2 years. After, that we slowly got apart. After, 5 years of knowing him, I still love him. He has been more than just a LD partner, he has been my best friend, motivator, and (moral, not financial) supporter. But, we are not as close as we used to be, and I extremely miss that. No more emails, short/quick chats, less calls. I have considered in high water's idea, that if he was married he couldnt have pulled it off. But the past year, he changed all his #'s...... which im thinking is to weird. Before, I had all his info. From address, work, house & cell #. First, he changed his cell phone carrier, never gave me his new number (shows private), then he had problems with his house # and changed it, never gave it to me, either. I never asked him for his number because from the start I told him that I didnt like calling my bfs, I rather have them call me. And he was cool, but he still gave me all his info. Not now, and im kind of mad at the fact that it seems normal to him that I dont have any #s to contact him. Is he hiding something? If he was, why would he use his brother's cell, to call me and its not private, I have access to that. I could always call and ask his bro. And I cant seem to be able to ask him straight up, whats really going on. I feel embarrassed to ask him, I dont want him to think I dont trust him or want to track him down 24/7. Whats wrong with him now? I dont keep my self away from the fact that there could be some one else. I tell him if there is someone else, to tell me up front. Not to feel sorry if he doesnt like me anymore, its better to know than to believe all lies. Keep me posted. I could learn alot from you. This is my first LDRS. Sad one
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