I'm Overwhelmingly lonely

[Victoria68]

Hi folks; I'm new here...I've read the majority of threads and can say I'm at the right place. My husband is upstairs sleeping? and I'm sleeping on the couch again for the 6th night in a row. I'm overwhelmingly lonely, contemplating divorce, but suicide seems simpler(and have done so for the last 7 years now)..there are so many different issues, I'm unable to just jump and run or I would have long ago. I guess I'm looking for advise I haven't heard yet. If only I could meet prince charming... I need to vent to someone who has been through this. Is anyone out there?

[suegail]

I want to tell you how very sorry I am that you're going through this, and please don't ever think of suicide. Please don't ever harm yourself. There has to be some kind of answer. I just don't know what to say because you've offered very little information. Maybe if you give a bit more background someone might have some good advice...someone who has been through the same kind of thing.

[Ladyjane14]

If you're in imminent danger of harming yourself, you should go to the emergency room of your local hospital or call the suicide prevention hotline in your area.

 

Otherwise, see your doctor for a depression screening. Depression can compound your problems because it will seem too difficult for you to muddle through and find solutions if your outlook is colored by negativity. If that's the case, your feelings of lonliness could be out of proportion to your situation, thus making the problems eem insurmountable.

[Mz. Pixie]

Yes, I'm sorry you're going through this. But honey, you have to be your own hero here in this situation. The prince or white knight in reality doesn't exist. Sure, you can have a great life and a great relationship if you work at it, but the prince just doesn't exist. That's a fairy tale fed to us by society that just isn't true.

 

Nothing is ever worth harming yourself for- NOTHING. Think of how your family or friends or even children would feel without you. If you're truly thinking of taking your own life, please get to the nearest hospital or call 911.

 

We'd be glad to help you sort through things if you'd like to post more of your story, because without that, we can't know what to say.

 

I hope you are well.

[dgiirl]

Hi Victoria,

 

Please dont think suicide is simpler. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This past year, I've contemplated suicide on many many occassions because of the pain and loneliness, but just a year later and I'm so glad I held on. Life can and will be better if you just hold on a little bit longer. No way what I went through was fun, but if I can get through it, trust me, anyone can. You are strong enough to get through it. I hope you will post more. I'd like to help if I can.

[SoleMate]

Please don't kill yourself. I could give you the list of reasons, but most importantly, you can and will feel better soon if you do the following:

 

* Buy a copy of

The Feeling Good Handbook

by David Burns. Read it and follow his specific advice

 

* Get a depression screening

 

* Every day, get dressed and spend at least 20 minutes in physical activity - even walking around the block

 

Please believe me when I say you can do a lot to lessen the pain. (BTW, I am afraid that even Prince Charming, as delightful a distraction as he might be, would not actually solve your core problems, and they would definitely return, possibly even worse.)

[Neville107]

Hi Victoria,

 

I hope things are better and looking up. You stated that you wanted to vent - If you tell us what's going on, we all would love to help. What specifically is wrong? What are the issues? You'll need to elaborate.