What is he thinking? Broke up but still calling me and telling me he loves me

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Met this guy on a dating site in Feb. Love at first sight within a month we were talking about moving in together and getting married.....the problem he was still married but had filed for divorce.

I kept asking himif he was sure this was what he wanted so fast after filing for divorce and he kept telling me i know what i want and it's you.........i have never been this happy or loved someone like i love you.Told his kids i was moving in and going to be their step mom. Met his family and friends.The kids and i clicked right away.

He invited me back to his home (100 miles from me) for my birthday late march, i could tell there was something wrong.........he didn't look at me like he had before and seemed distant. I came home and 2 weeks later he breaks up with me in an Im and then calls me and says he doesn't know how to explain it to me and he wants me in his life but doesn't know "how" he wants me in his life.

I am heartbroken because i felt he was "the one". We argue for weeks about it, me begging him to explain why to me but he never did. The one night he says i was right he was confused and didn't know what he wanted. He also said he had never been as happy as he was with me and it scared him. I then found out he had some profiles up on some dating sites. But he kept saying it was just for friends, he was not dating anyone else.I spoke to his best friend last week and he didn't even know we had broken up, he was shocked because this guy had acted like we were still together.

So, we continue to talk on the phone and computer. In early May he invited me to his home again talking about how much he loved me and missed me that he had slept with my pillow ever since i had left, how i was his soulmate.But we still didn't get along for a week or so after i came home, fighting on the phone not talking for days at a time. But then the last couple weeks he and i were talking 2 or 3 times a day on the phone and online. Last thursday he called me at work and mentioned how good we were getting along and how much he loved me. He called me sunday and said he had something to do and would call me right back i didn't hear from him till wens when he called and said he wanted to call and say hi because it had been so long since he heard from me. He never lets more then 3 days go by without calling me if i don't call him.He told me last week he had met a girl online that was helping him with computer problems. I know he does chat with alot of girls online so it didn't surprise me when he told me he was chatting with her. I asked if he was dating her and he said no but now i haven't heard from him online in days and only spoke to him the one time on wens when he hung up, he said i will call you right back and didn't.

What should i do? I feel like I am just his fall back girl or his go to girl when he needs someone to tell his problems to or something. I love him and want him back and i truly believe he loves me in someway but i don't deserve to be treated this way. Should i give up or just not talk to him for awhile to let him know what he is missing? I hate to let him go because i love him so much and he has been there for me alot during hard times.But it just seems like i am wasting my time

Thanks, Kimberly