I smell a liar..& what IS he hiding?

[SexGoddess]

Yesterday evening my boyfriend and I were talking on the phone. We were talking about our sex lives, I'll be honest about it..haha & he said when we are married in a few years that we should film our sex & watch it. I was like hmm..maybe it sounds kinda fun. I won't go into details..but anyway..I asked him if he's done that before with the girls in his past. ( he has had others before me). And this is what I don't like that he did..he got nervous and said no & said" he's a freak but not that much of a freak" or something..but I know when he's lying b/c his voice changes completly and he laughs the whole time with whatever he is saying.

 

Then, I said well what's so funny? I don't know anything about the girls in ur past, there have been like 5! ( and really maybe more b/c he won't tell me anything about them, & if they were serious or just 'screw buddies' or whatever.UGh..) And shouldn't he be able to tell me anything? I'm about to be his wife. I don't want the details of the sex..I just wanna know their names and if he was in a relationship with them first, It will help me know more about how he used to be & if that reflects who he is today. He is hiding something from me..what is it?

 

Then I said that it hurts me that I was a virgin when we got together & he had already had so many girls & I wonder if they're relationships were romantic or not. He made this cocky little laugh, & told me to get over it. He provided no sympathy at all. " His attitude was pretty much, yep I'm a pimp screwed alot of girls in my past and I can get away with it b/c I don't have to tell my fiance a thing about it & keep her guessing. But she can get over it."

 

 

Shouldn't the woman he's going to marry know a little more about his past relationships. ( not neccasarily the sex part) but just who his first kiss was, or his first date..or if i was his first love. He won't tell me anything.Isn't that kind of wrong? Most people feel very open about it. He knows everything about my past. It makes me wonder what all he is hiding.

[Craig]

If you are uncomfortable about being in a relationship with your BF maybe you should break up.

 

And this is what I don't like that he did..he got nervous and said no & said" he's a freak but not that much of a freak" or something..but I know when he's lying b/c his voice changes completely and he laughs the whole time with whatever he is saying.

 

I don't believe for a femto-second that you can always tell if your BF is lying. Perhaps the topic made him appear nervous, etc.

 

What good would come by hearing his version of his past relationships? You'd only get his side of the story and then probably have more questions or even worse start filling in the blanks yourself. I'm not saying that learning about your BF's previous relationships is a bad thing but you seem to have a good amount of concern about them. Is there a reason why?

 

Another way of looking at things is that your BF may not be secure enough in the relationship to fully open up to you. Why is that? Have you ever held something he said to you, in a moment of vulnerability, against him? Maybe he experienced that in a prior relationship.

 

Trust in a relationship is a wonderful thing but along with gaining the trust of someone goes the responsibility never to use it against them. Ever. Maybe your BF has had less than optimal experiences regarding trust and is recovering from that.

 

These are just thoughts, I don't know your situation so take what makes sense and throw the rest away.

 

Peace out

 

Craig

[brightskies]

If you tend to be an anxious person, and your post indicates that you might be, then I don't recommend trying to dredge up your partner's past, especially on sexual matters. If you need information on how he generally worked or reacted, i.e., his views on loyalty, etc., within a relationship context, that's cool. In my experience, however, digging into the nitty-gritty romantic and sexual details just stirs up trouble. The way he reacted could be because he's worried about your reaction.

[norajane]

Perhpas he exaggerated his past history with women to make himself appear more experienced and sophisticated and cool, and now can't tell you the truth without embarrassing himself. You know, those 5 women? Maybe there weren't really 5. Maybe he never actually had sex with more than 1 of them. Maybe he only had sex once with each of them.

 

There are all kinds of relationship lies people tell in the beginning that come back to bite them later.

[whichwayisup]

Leave the past IN the past. What he did or didn't do with his previous girlfriends shouldn't matter NOW.

 

You are opening a can of worms and that's why if you want to know details, if you ask about his past, BE prepared for the answers you "may" not wanna hear.

[Vertex]

I see nothing good that can come out of asking someone's past. I mean it's always interesting to hear if they are willing to dilvulge the information but it is not something worth pushing if they are hesitant to talk about it. Unless something from the past is popping up in the present, it is better to leave the past in the past. Just look forward to some hot videotaping and don't worry about what he's done before.

 

On a side note, here is what I think happened (assuming that he did indeed lie): He brought up the taping because he wanted a fun/dirty secret for you two to share, but if he had done it before, he may have been hesitant to tell you this because then it may not seem like it is something only you two share. If I had taped all my past girlfriends then maybe a new one might not see it as something special but something I just "do with everyone." But mind you, he is marrying you for a reason and so I think it is better to just enjoy the sexual side of things and not be so concerned with the past. It's very plausible that he's telling the truth (if I were speaking to him in person I could tell you for sure though -- human lie detector ), but this could be a reason for a white lie in order to avoid making you feel like you are not unique somehow.

[Walk]

I think he's probably doing the right thing by not divulging ALL to you.

 

Why would it help you to know? Even if he was an ass to other women, maybe he slept around a lot, or treated some badly... how does that really reflect on your relationship. People change, grow, evolve into different people as time goes by. If you want to base who he is off of who he was, then you're asking him to give you the keys to condemn himself. And that's not right.

 

Also, there are some parts of his past that are not yours to have. There are things I will never tell my SO. Not that I don't love him or want him to know who I am... but they aren't relevant to "us". Who your bf may or may not have video taped in the past isn't relevant to the two of you.

 

Sometimes the act of discussing a portion of our past will cause us to experience some of the emotions that went along with it. If you're attempting to create closeness with your bf, asking him to talk about past women h's slept with is probably going to put him back in the past with them. Whether good or bad. So don't bring up these questions while the two of you are discussing "you" as the couple. (like video taping after marriage) It'd be like if he asked you every time he kissed you what your first kiss was like. Or what you're first love was like. You'd be reminded of the other guy, and the feelings that came from that. It takes you out of the "moment" you are having with the person you are with. Causes you to disconnect to a degree.

 

Just be careful when and how often you ask him about his past.

[brightskies]

There are some parts of his past that are not yours to have. There are things I will never tell my SO. Not that I don't love him or want him to know who I am ... but they aren't relevant to "us".

 

Sometimes the act of discussing a portion of our past will cause us to experience some of the emotions that went along with it. If you're attempting to create closeness with your bf, asking him to talk about past women he slept with is probably going to put him back in the past with them. Whether good or bad.

 

It takes you out of the "moment" you are having with the person you are with. Causes you to disconnect to a degree.

 

So true! My ex used to ask for all kinds of details and that's exactly what would happen. Made me crazy 'cause I didn't even want to go there. Then he would wonder why I was all weirdly distant after. It's emotionally draining.

[SexGoddess]

The Reason I am so insecure is probably b/c he cheated on me before & didn't tell me until 2 years later & I suspected it all along and turned out right. I don't know the full details of that either. He said they weren't serious, but said that she was " in love" with him, but he had no feelings for her or something. It doesn't make sense. He's also gone to cancun during spring break with his guy buddies & said he didn't do anything but one night his buddy[that had been drinking] that was with him during spring break asked if he still talks to that girl that he met at the beach. He said that it was his friend or something, not him and he was so drunk that night that his buddy must be confused. That's another thing that I don't know the right answer to. Spring break had happened right after we were engaged. I had to travel elsewhere so I couldn't go. But he was very drunk and there were millions of girls[litterally millions]

 

I think the reason I'm asking these questions is b/c I just want an honest answer for once about his past & i want to quit wondering. But it won't happen b/c he won't tell me anything about ANYTHING. He just puts it off or says don't think about the past it isn't the past anymore ( also some of u said that) But how can I move on towards the future, if there are questions about the past that I'm uncomfortable not knowing, that are unanswered.

 

Has he cheated on me more than the times he has confessed? How many women HAS he had sex with? Was he serious with these girls or is he lying to me about that too? And why can't he just be honest? He knows I need him to be honest. I don't care how much it may sting b/c I'd rather know the truth than just wonder about it for the rest of our married ( or unmarried) lives. But I'm almost his wife. This is reality. I can't just say it's okay if he was an a**h*** & screwed alot of women? Sex is a big deal. I'm supposed to pretend that the man I'm marrying could have done all of that & act like it's okay and marry him and move on? Hello.This may be 2006, & sometimes ppl just say put the past in the past, but that's really not the right thing to do. That's called denial.

 

Just had to get that out.

[whichwayisup]

Maybe it's time to head to couples therapy and sort this out BEFORE you two decide to get married.

 

The fact he cheated on you and hide it from you for 2 years is really s***ty. And, that's bulls*** - Him not having feelings for her yet he still had sex with her, knowing that she was inlove with him? That's very selfish of him and also VERY cruel if he DIDN'T have ANY feelings for her. Means, he just screwed someone for the sake of screwing them.

 

Yeah, this stuff has to be sorted out before a ring goes on your finger.

[brightskies]

The Reason I am so insecure is probably b/c he cheated on me before & didn't tell me until 2 years later & I suspected it all along and turned out right. I don't know the full details of that either. He said they weren't serious, but said that she was "in love" with him, but he had no feelings for her or something.

 

I'm asking these questions is b/c I just want an honest answer for once about his past & i want to quit wondering. But it won't happen b/c he won't tell me anything about ANYTHING. He just puts it off or says don't think about the past it isn't the past anymore (also some of u said that) But how can I move on towards the future, if there are questions about the past that I'm uncomfortable not knowing, that are unanswered.

 

 

Oh boy. You should've said so in the first place! That changes things quite a bit. If he cheated on you, then I understand your questions. If he's still clamming up even though he SAYS that he's sorry, then I see more trouble ahead. He's not owning up. HUGE warning.

 

So, he cheated on you. How he felt about her at the time or vice-versa is irrelevant. The fact remains that he CHEATED on you. How did you find out and why in god's name did you take him back? Are you still in college? How old is he? How long ago was the cheating, and how long ago was spring break? Methinks that your guy is still too immature for serious commitment. Never mind marriage.

 

Also, that thing about it being "his friend" meeting the girl at spring break? That's bullsh*t. WWIU's suggestion on couple's therapy is a good idea. Whatever you do, do NOT get married until this is all cleared up.

 

Were you engaged already when he cheated? If he could cheat on you now (engaged or not), just imagine what it'll be like when you're married and living together and there's more stress down the road. Think hard before you do this.

[Walk]

Then you aren't talking about his past seperate from yours, but the past 2 years the two of you have shared together. (how long have you been with him?)

 

It could be that nothing happened during spring break... but his explanation sounds really cheesy to me. You seem to have some hesitations on buying it too, and the friend didn't buy it either.

 

You do have a right to honest answers from him concerning anything that could put your life at risk. Having sex out side of the relationship puts you at high risk. No matter when that occured during the course of your relationship. Even if it was "in the past", it is in the past you two have shared together. Not solely his past. Which means you have a right to know.

 

I'm a little confused though. So your finance's idea of celebrating your new engagement was to go to cancun, in which millions of drunk college kids get together to f*** like rabits. Why didn't he go with you, where ever you were going?

 

I strongly suggest a marriage counselor. If he's going to cheat on you every two years and lie to you about it, how can you hope to have a solid marriage together. His actions while with you, will determine what it'll be like in the future with him. And unless you're comfortable living with someone that you can't trust, then postpone the marriage until the two of you can find a way to resolve this. My vote is with a marriage counselor to help guide the two of you to a healthier relationship.

 

I really thought you were just talking about his past long before meeting you. Not the past the two of you have shared together. You have every right to honest communication on that.

[brucevangeorge]

Yesterday evening my boyfriend and I were talking on the phone. We were talking about our sex lives, I'll be honest about it..haha & he said when we are married in a few years that we should film our sex & watch it. I was like hmm..maybe it sounds kinda fun. I won't go into details..but anyway..I asked him if he's done that before with the girls in his past. ( he has had others before me). And this is what I don't like that he did..he got nervous and said no & said" he's a freak but not that much of a freak" or something..but I know when he's lying b/c his voice changes completly and he laughs the whole time with whatever he is saying.

 

Then, I said well what's so funny? I don't know anything about the girls in ur past, there have been like 5! ( and really maybe more b/c he won't tell me anything about them, & if they were serious or just 'screw buddies' or whatever.UGh..) And shouldn't he be able to tell me anything? I'm about to be his wife. I don't want the details of the sex..I just wanna know their names and if he was in a relationship with them first, It will help me know more about how he used to be & if that reflects who he is today. He is hiding something from me..what is it?

 

Then I said that it hurts me that I was a virgin when we got together & he had already had so many girls & I wonder if they're relationships were romantic or not. He made this cocky little laugh, & told me to get over it. He provided no sympathy at all. " His attitude was pretty much, yep I'm a pimp screwed alot of girls in my past and I can get away with it b/c I don't have to tell my fiance a thing about it & keep her guessing. But she can get over it."

 

 

Shouldn't the woman he's going to marry know a little more about his past relationships. ( not neccasarily the sex part) but just who his first kiss was, or his first date..or if i was his first love. He won't tell me anything.Isn't that kind of wrong? Most people feel very open about it. He knows everything about my past. It makes me wonder what all he is hiding.

 

What is in his past is his business and if he chooses to share it with you then that's a PRIVILIGE. You ARE NOT ENTITLED TO IT.

 

You gave up your secrets, that's your problem.

 

 

If he's smart enough to wisen up, he will break up with you.

 

Until then... poor guy. I can imagine all the crap he has to put up with from you.

[Solachica]

Don't ask questions tht you really aren't willing to hear the answers to.

[brightskies]

What is in his past is his business and if he chooses to share it with you then that's a PRIVILEGE. You ARE NOT ENTITLED TO IT. You gave up your secrets, that's your problem. If he's smart enough to wisen up, he will break up with you. Until then... poor guy. I can imagine all the crap he has to put up with from you.

 

Bruce,

I think you missed the part about her bf cheating on her. This was not in his past prior to his relationship with the OP. She does deserve closure and open communication regarding this issue. Her bf is being evasive and unsupportive. This isn't something she can or should just forget about.

[brucevangeorge]

Bruce,

I think you missed the part about her bf cheating on her. This was not in his past prior to his relationship with the OP. She does deserve closure and open communication regarding this issue. Her bf is being evasive and unsupportive. This isn't something she can or should just forget about.

 

AHAHAHAHAHA.

 

Well, this changes EVERYTHING.

 

Now I guess the problem is: why is she still with him?

[SuperMonk]

Change your name to something besides SexGoddess. If you can't live up to your nickname, you are worthless. I live up to my nickname: I am Super and a Monk.

[SexGoddess]

Change your name to something besides SexGoddess. If you can't live up to your nickname, you are worthless. I live up to my nickname: I am Super and a Monk.

 

I am..with my boyfriend. You can be a sex goddess with one person. Well let me say that I was. Since these things have been running through my mind lately I might put things on hold. But yes, before a couple of nights ago, I was happily a sex goddess with my boyfriend.

[SexGoddess]

Oh boy. You should've said so in the first place! That changes things quite a bit. If he cheated on you, then I understand your questions. If he's still clamming up even though he SAYS that he's sorry, then I see more trouble ahead. He's not owning up. HUGE warning.

 

So, he cheated on you. How he felt about her at the time or vice-versa is irrelevant. The fact remains that he CHEATED on you. How did you find out and why in god's name did you take him back? Are you still in college? How old is he? How long ago was the cheating, and how long ago was spring break? Methinks that your guy is still too immature for serious commitment. Never mind marriage.

 

Also, that thing about it being "his friend" meeting the girl at spring break? That's bullsh*t. WWIU's suggestion on couple's therapy is a good idea. Whatever you do, do NOT get married until this is all cleared up.

 

Were you engaged already when he cheated? If he could cheat on you now (engaged or not), just imagine what it'll be like when you're married and living together and there's more stress down the road. Think hard before you do this.

 

Yea, it's quite a big deal..I found out because we were talking about that girl and I asked what happened to her b/c I never hear about their friendship anymore. He said " I don't know..nothing really..blah blah blah blah, etc." and we got off of the phone, & then he called back and admitted what happened with her that he couldn't stand the guilt anymore, & the reason that he hasn't told me, is b/c the last thing he would want to do is hurt me..b/c he's not an immature ass like he used to be..and how sorry he is.

The reason i took him back is b/c I love him more than anything, he loves me, it happened a long time ago & I thought eventually I'd get over it & I didn't know he'd still hide stuff from me afterwards. He's not open about anything..he just says " let's move on, I'm tired of talking about it." He won't tell me how long it lasted, or what the whole deal was. He said somewhere around a month & a half before we were engaged.

Yes I am still finishing college,& he is currently going to law school..

Yes, as much as I want to believe him, I think he cheated on me at spring break too. It was March 2005, but I didn't find out about that until recently either. I was traveling with my family in Europe & my parents just wanted it to be a family trip..it was all last minute..his friends had an extra ticket b/c someone bailed & he took the place. He said he would just "relax on the beach & drink a little alcohol" and he "wouldn't go to any nightclubs" Well, guess what? He ended up going to nightclubs..every single night he was there, only the crowded ones, & only the ones that were "hot spots" that everyone partied hard at. That ended up being the only thing they did, unless they were drinking at the beach surrounded by girls in bikinis, that were ready to drop their bottoms to screw any hot guy they see at the drop of a hat..and my boyfriend & his friends are very gorgeous muscular guys.. I just thought he'd do as he said..and him lying like he did just on that, makes me realize something could have easily happend. Especially considering who he was with, how many girls are there, the parties going on, & with all of the alcohol..it's just too weird.

[Love Hurts]

Some people feel it's in the past let it go..... live in the now.

 

This is a new relationship... it is what he does now that counts.

 

Yet like you...........I was married to my husband when he refused to tell me names............... and certain things..... yet I was more open with him.

 

If you break up with this guy .... and meet another.... do yourself a favor... keep your past just that ... your past.... too many men want to know all about you and do not share their past.

 

My husband would continuously take the information I gave and twist to make it ugly.... In short he made my past life a joke........ that I even lived it... When in reality....... I never lived that life he has conjured up.

 

Hind site is 20/20. As for your fiance being the silent type........... it could be good..... and then like you........... I wonder what he has to hide...... this is a mixed emotional web.

 

If he can keep so secretive now before you get married.... Just wait ,,,, there will be many more secrets after you are. At least you know he can keep a secret and protect a few chicks he may have directly in your company and you will never know if he was with her sexually or not.

 

It's kind of like the little black book is still entact if you two slip apart...

I am certain he shant be lonely...

 

This one to me is cause for alarm............. he should be more open with you.................... unless he was into beastism then you don't want to go there let it alone.

 

Good Luck

[brightskies]

The reason i took him back is b/c I love him more than anything, he loves me, it happened a long time ago & I thought eventually I'd get over it & I didn't know he'd still hide stuff from me afterwards. He's not open about anything..he just says " let's move on, I'm tired of talking about it." He won't tell me how long it lasted, or what the whole deal was. He said somewhere around a month & a half before we were engaged.

 

Yes I am still finishing college, & he is currently going to law school.

Yes, as much as I want to believe him, I think he cheated on me at spring break too. It was March 2005, but I didn't find out about that until recently either.

 

I was traveling with my family in Europe & my parents just wanted it to be a family trip..it was all last minute..his friends had an extra ticket b/c someone bailed & he took the place. He said he would just "relax on the beach & drink a little alcohol" and he "wouldn't go to any nightclubs" Well, guess what? He ended up going to nightclubs..every single night he was there, only the crowded ones, & only the ones that were "hot spots" that everyone partied hard at. That ended up being the only thing they did, unless they were drinking at the beach surrounded by girls in bikinis, that were ready to drop their bottoms to screw any hot guy they see at the drop of a hat..and my boyfriend & his friends are very gorgeous muscular guys..

 

I just thought he'd do as he said..and him lying like he did just on that, makes me realize something could have easily happened. Especially considering who he was with, how many girls are there, the parties going on, & with all of the alcohol..it's just too weird.

 

You're not going to like hearing this, but I hope that at least some of it makes you think twice: you're both still in school, and really quite young. Your early 20s are still a time of exploration and development. It sounds like he's not ready to make a monogamous commitment EVEN IF he asked you to marry him.

 

Proof: He has repeatedly broken your trust, and while you may both care about each other, he obviously doesn't care enough to keep his promises to you. Also, taking him back after he cheated on you has probably lost you some of his respect.

 

I've been where you are, trying to make a relationship work where trust and respect were constantly a struggle to maintain. But love isn't enough, especially if only one person is making most of the effort; if you're being lied to and disrespected by the very person who should be most open with and closest to you, all that bad behavior will eventually erode your love.

 

I strongly recommend that you take a step back and take an unblinking look at your fiance and the possible future. He's obviously disrespecting you NOW, with his cheating and lying. Past and current behavior (not words!) are your best predictor for the future. He did it before and he'll keep doing it. Why? Because he hasn't lost anything. He still has you, despite what he has done. If you're expecting him to change for you, then you're wasting your time. People do not change until they're ready, and usually only until they've learned their lessons the hard way. He won't stop cheating and lying because you keep taking him back.

 

Don't be afraid of holding your ground. Don't be afraid of respecting yourself. You deserve greater happiness with a man whose actions match his words, whose commitment to you and love for you is genuine. Your current bf may be sweet and loving now and again, but that isn't enough to offset the fact that he still lies and cheats on you. Don't settle for less! You CAN do better.

[brightskies]

The reason i took him back is b/c I love him more than anything, he loves me, it happened a long time ago & I thought eventually I'd get over it & I didn't know he'd still hide stuff from me afterwards. He's not open about anything..he just says " let's move on, I'm tired of talking about it." He won't tell me how long it lasted, or what the whole deal was. He said somewhere around a month & a half before we were engaged.

 

Yes I am still finishing college, & he is currently going to law school. Yes, as much as I want to believe him, I think he cheated on me at spring break too. It was March 2005, but I didn't find out about that until recently either.

 

He said he would just "relax on the beach & drink a little alcohol" and he "wouldn't go to any nightclubs" Well, guess what? He ended up going to nightclubs..every single night he was there, only the crowded ones, & only the ones that were "hot spots" that everyone partied hard at. That ended up being the only thing they did, unless they were drinking at the beach surrounded by girls in bikinis, that were ready to drop their bottoms to screw any hot guy they see at the drop of a hat..and my boyfriend & his friends are very gorgeous muscular guys.

 

I just thought he'd do as he said..and him lying like he did just on that, makes me realize something could have easily happened. Especially considering who he was with, how many girls are there, the parties going on, & with all of the alcohol..it's just too weird.

 

You're not going to like hearing this, but I hope that at least some of it makes you think twice: you're both still in school, and really quite young. Your early 20s are still a time of exploration and development. It sounds like he's not ready to make a monogamous commitment EVEN IF he asked you to marry him.

 

Proof: He has repeatedly broken your trust, and while you may both care about each other, he obviously doesn't care enough to keep his promises to you. Also, taking him back after he cheated on you has probably lost you some of his respect.

 

I've been where you are, trying to make a relationship work where trust and respect were constantly a struggle to maintain. But love isn't enough, especially if only one person is making most of the effort. If you're being lied to and disrespected by the very person who should be most open with and closest to you, all that bad behavior will eventually erode your love.

 

I strongly recommend that you take a step back and take an unblinking look at your fiance and the possible future. He's obviously disrespecting you NOW, with his cheating and lying. Past and current behavior (not words!) are your litmus test for the future.

 

He did it before and he'll keep doing it. Why? Because he hasn't lost anything. He still has you, despite what he has done. If you're expecting him to change for you, then you're wasting your time. People do not change until they're ready, and usually only until they've learned their lessons the hard way. He won't stop cheating and lying because you keep taking him back.

 

Don't be afraid of holding your ground. Don't be afraid of respecting yourself. You deserve greater happiness with a man whose actions match his words, whose commitment to you and love for you is genuine. Your current bf may be sweet and loving now and again, but that isn't enough to offset the fact that he still lies and cheats on you. Don't settle for less! You CAN do better.

[SexGoddess]

We talked it out..and it wasn't like i really even had to bring it up. We were just talking about something I don't know how it turned to that honestly..and then I casually said.."babe..that sex thing is kinda buggin me." then he said well what do you wanna know? I said," about your past because you never talk to me about it and it sounds fishy like you're hiding something bad b/c you won't tell me."

and he said that the girls weren't a big deal and not to worry about it b/c he doesn't like talking about it..

 

then he called back the next morning and said he felt guilty he's been lying to me the entire time & said he felt stupid about the whole thing & that he made those girls up in the beginning to sound macho when he met me b/c he didn't want to sound like a loser. A part of me kinda thought this was cute, but I took it seriously b/c he lied. He apologized & now we're both on good terms. He's very very sorry. the only girls he has slept with is me and the girl that he already told me about .He lost his virginity to the girl he cheated on me with. And yes, that stings a little bit..but I know that he loves me more than anything now & that's all that matters. And I said " anything else you'd like to get out while you're getting stuff out, babe?" and then he said he hasn't ever lied to me about anything else that was serious..and I asked him about the spring break thing again and he said he said he PROMISES nothing happened, that he was just there to have a little summer fun and he didn't even dance or get another girls number. He said his friend didn't know what he was talking about..he has no idea. But he said that his friend was really drunk that night & that was probably why he thought it was him not their other friend.

 

So now we're on good terms again. I really know he's the one for me..and he feels the same way. We're perfect for eachother. He apoligized saying he was a bad boyfriend in the past b/c of all of his lies, he's sorry for the crap he's put me through ( all of his lies were told in the past)...and he's going to be a wonderful husband & can't wait to marry me. I'm so glad he got that out of his system, so now we can move on!..

[SexGoddess]

Oh yea..now I remember how that got brought up..I asked him if the sex we have is the best out of all the girls in his past..He said, yes of course baby." that's a silly question".

Then it turned into the "girls" in his past...

[SexGoddess]

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