Erevan Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Hi everyone, I'm Sergei from Armenia. Forgive me if my English is a bit rusty I discovered this site recently,while drifting through wonders of Internet, and decided to log-in, hoping that someone would give me a solid advice. Anyway, here it comes...when I was in a high-school I had a crush on my head-teacher. Back then it seemed like an usual boyhood fantasy so I dismissed it about the same time I graduated. But, recently (2 years or so) I started to meet her on regular basis; school is in my neighbourhood and we occasionally stumble on each other, exchanging 4-5 sentences each time. And it all began to come back to me, since I have found I still do have a crush on her. It's hard to explain, but I get aroused every time we "meet"; perhaps what attracts me the most is the fact she was(and apparently still is, atleast according to her current students:)) a real bitch in the classroom : cold as ice, impenetrable, sometimes sadistic in forcing students to learn her subject (physics) or to drop-out. However, in a couple occassions she had shown herself to be human being after all; she told me, to my big surprise, certain things from her private life, something she had never spoken of in school. She's 52 (I'm 27), living with some 67 year old guy, who's also a teacher but at a university. Now, what interest me is whether I should pursue her. Ha, guess nobody saw that one coming My question is honest because it seems we're having sort of a weird raport, and I begin to feel sick and tired of bumping onto her and not knowing what to do. I have a lot of friends and acquaintances, who depict me as a fairly good-looking, smart, witty guy who should knock-out any girl coming within my range. Trouble is, I don't wanna those girls in this very moment, I want her. So I was hoping someone has a good advice which would help me to eventually resolve the situation, e.g providing me with the data like what women in that age expect from relationship/sex and is it possible to seduce her. Thanx in advance Sergei
brightskies Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Welcome to LS! What're you looking to get out of pursuing her? A fling? A long-term relationship? Fulfilling a long-standing fantasy? Fantasy doesn't always match up to reality. Have you had a lot of experience dating women closer to your age, or have you consistently had a pattern being attracted to older women? It's not unusual to be attracted to an authority figure, especially if they show you their "softer" side. The kicker: if she's living with someone and they're in a relationship, then she's taken and you ought to respect that. If they're just platonic roommates, no problem. But going after her while she's with someone else is NOT cool. Even if she ends up with you, how're you going to trust her after that?
riobikini Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Save yourself alot of drama, -stop the mental fantasies. That's all this is. I would also suggest that you end the pursuit of 'friendship' -mainly, because it will only promote and enhance your stream of thoughts regarding your fantasies about her. -Rio
Outcast Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 If you want to be a decent human being, leave people in relationships alone. Skanky people go after people in relationships. Don't be one.
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