scooby408 Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 I'm in a relationship with a man who is 24 and I’m 22. I'm about to graduate college and I still not sure what he plans to do with his life. We've been in this relationship for a little under 5 years now and when I ask him what he plans to do, he tells me he's going to go back to school, but there is never any action on that. He does have a job, but not sure if that's going anywhere. I know, relationships and love is not all about money, but I want to know how he's going to suport a family, if we have one. I want to know is this a good reason to break up with someone? I don't want to seem as I'm better than him in anyway, but I want to be okay in life. I didn't go to college to be poor or struggle. I do love him with all my heart, but I’m not sure what I should do. Please help!! Should I stay with him or not? I do feel he's going to be something out of life, but not sure.
a4a Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Love does not pay the mortgage or the grocery bills. Unless you are willing and able to take care of the financial responsibilities (all of them) in your future with this man. Do so without being resentful of him, it will end up not working out. He is 24 yrs old and should have some direction in his life. If you are able to pay the way for both of you and for a future family, if you think he would be a good house husband, then he might be just fine for you. You certainly should not feel guilty for leaving him as he does not have the same goals or drive as you. Your choice. Your expectations of him are not being met? If so, throw that fish back in the sea.
jerbear Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 a4a beat me to the line: Love does not pay the bills. There are those who are 40 and still do not know where they are going but at least they have a general clue. My question to OP (Orig Poster); do you feel he has a clue? If he does not have direction after 5 years and you want to have a family; he might fit the house husband role. After 5 years and both of you being somewhat young careerwise; it starts to become about shared goals and potential final destinations in life. Where are you both going and how will you two get there. Worry about the journey not the destination. If both of you have wide directions in the journey of life, best both of you part ways at this juncture in life for you. Have you talked to him? Does he have drive, determination, motivation, entrepreneurship, etc...
RealBroken Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 I can really say; Its so much better having love in your life than money. With just money, it sucks. Everyone needs love. Its more important. You need to communicate these issues u have with him some how but while letting him know your are serious ie relationship or no relationship. Some ppl dnt know where their life is going til later on. I went to university, finished and still felt I didnt know what the hell i was doing. My direction changed, I went back to ui and did something else. Has been two years since then and only now have I discovered what I want. And it took a lady to show me this. She dumped me, I've now been helpin myself instead of revolving all my goals around her. I wish I could have see this coming before the break up. Do something for him. Communicate and let him know that he HAS to make some goals for himself, for you..... and for YOU BOTH.
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