STLguy Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 I know this is kind of a stupid complaint, but it is seriously annoying me. My girlfriend has started an internship and she is really busy. While we were down at school she would call everynight, but ever since summer started she hasn't called nearly as much. Now I probably talk to her once every couple nights. Just tonight I tried calling and it went into her voice mail. I do believe that she is busy with the internship, I just want to hear from her at least once a night just to see how things are going with her. How do I make this clear without coming across as a needy a**h***?
Tim'sAngel Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 I know this is kind of a stupid complaint, but it is seriously annoying me. My girlfriend has started an internship and she is really busy. While we were down at school she would call everynight, but ever since summer started she hasn't called nearly as much. Now I probably talk to her once every couple nights. Just tonight I tried calling and it went into her voice mail. I do believe that she is busy with the internship, I just want to hear from her at least once a night just to see how things are going with her. How do I make this clear without coming across as a needy a**h***? I take it you have a LDR? If she is busy, then your just gonna have to be patient. JMO. If you are suspicious she is cheating or making excuses not to call then maybe you should bring up your concerns. If not, then I would suggest just waiting it out and let her do her thing. I'm sure shes a little stressed. Maybe when you do talk to her say something like "I sure miss talking to you" or "It really kills me that I don't get to hear your sweet voice every night" If she has a chance then maybe she'll sneak in a phone call on nights shes really busy. If not, then she just might not have the time. Just don't make her feel pressured to call you even if she really doesn't have the time. I wouldn't bring this up every time you talk either. That will put even more of a strain on the relationship than her being busy w/a new job. JMO
Walk Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 You could maybe approach it from the angle of concerned for her welfare. Instead of saying I miss you calling every night. Express that it makes you feel better to hear from her because you worry about her and want her safe. Or just say that you understand she's busy, but you'd really like to keep that closeness and connection going, and since the two of you aren't close physically, then the only way to keep that is through communication. ie. phone, email, etc. If I were really busy and my bf suggested I call more often because he felt neglected I might take it badly. A negative emotion is likely to get a negative response from me. But if he stated a concern for me, or a valid reason (such as keeping the relationship healthy) then I'd be more apt to put the extra effort in. If its her welfare, her safety, her thoughts that you are concerned about, then you're apt to get a more positive response from it. Or when you leave a message, express concern for her mental/physical state. It sends more of a message that you're not calling about you, but to specifically see how she is. People are more apt to respond to someone when they feel the other is truly interested.
Author STLguy Posted May 25, 2006 Author Posted May 25, 2006 My concern isn't cheating at all, I know she's busy with her new job. I really just want to hear from her every night and don't know how to tell her this without seeming needy. Which is the same reason I don't call her more than once in a night. We decided last time we talked I'd go down and visit in a couple weekends, I guess I'll just have to deal with the phone thing until then and see how the weekend goes. That's a good idea too, we'll see how I can approach saying something like that next time I talk to her.
vi_pn_babe25 Posted May 26, 2006 Posted May 26, 2006 Well it's kinda harsh to say, but I would start giving her the silent treatment. Try to occupy yourself with something else besides waiting by your phone night and day, because it will just drive you nuts! But I'm kinda wondering about this girl, no one can be that busy to not call her bf at least for a couple minutes a day, or even every other day, I mean c'mon. Make her start calling you instead. You've showed her how important she is to you by calling her, now let her do the same thing and see what happens. Just keep yourself busy k.
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