lostsmile Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 I want to be the OW! H & I have started counseling and things are going very good. He has done a complete 180 turn around and is trying very hard. I've decided to enjoy all he's giving me now. We both want to work things out. Problem is... I want to be the OW too. I know it's not right. I know it's selfish. I know I'm not giving myself enough credit. I want both worlds. Has anybody else every felt this way? Has anybody else every had this work?
whichwayisup Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 Continue with marriage counselling and maybe consider getting some one on one therapy for yourself. Yeah, it's selfish for you to have your cake and eat it too. You're not giving your marriage or your husband a chance if you still want to be the OW. I don't know what lies ahead for you in your future, but sooner or later if you don't decide WHO you want, and make a choice, your life will be filled with so much heartache and confusion.
BUTAFLY Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 It seems your still missing something from your husband. Keep with the counseling -if thats what you really want. Don't drag him to cousleing with the hopes of getting his marriage together when you really no longer what to be in the marriage. Stay focused, and look to what you are craving from the OM and ask that of your husband or try to recreated with H.
Jessie61 Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 I want to be the OW! H & I have started counseling and things are going very good. He has done a complete 180 turn around and is trying very hard. I've decided to enjoy all he's giving me now. We both want to work things out. Problem is... I want to be the OW too. I know it's not right. I know it's selfish. I know I'm not giving myself enough credit. I want both worlds. Has anybody else every felt this way? Has anybody else every had this work? Honestly? You can't have both. If you continue being the OW, the counselling and your M will go down the drain. Why pay that price when things are going so well with your H?
rossm Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 Unless you choose, someone's going to lose. Hey - I'm a poet!
movinon05 Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 Unless you choose, someone's going to lose. Hey - I'm a poet! Yet, profound in some way!!
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