Luisa Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 well im new to this so hi to all. well here is my story bare with me its sort of long. well im with this married man we met at my parents company he was working there... it all started there we started off just messing around like usaul affairs then things started going from there he eventually left the company (not because of us) and we kept seeing eachother he would tell me i reminded him of himself so much n i felt the same also he would tell me i remind him of his ex fiance that died in a car accident (he was the driver) he finally opened up his office he's self employed so i would go to his office and see him there and spend time with him there and when he was at home we would communicate by send text messages. well i went away for 2 weeks on vacation with my family and i would talk to him every day. one day while i was still on vacation he leaves me a message to call him back he needs to really talk to me. first thing that came to my head was "great he is ending things with me" total opposite he told me he was in love with me i felt the same!!!! i was so happy!! time passed everything remained the same but our love got stronger he is now struggling economically he is a sexologist by the way for those who are asking what he is doing fr a living n working on getting his psyhcology thing together anywho i feel he will leave his wfe he says he is not in love with her he married her because he was going crazy living a crazy life he lost the love of his life n he saw a family with her so he settled down and got married and had a child she is 7. so he tells me he cant leave his wife n his child without money without something stable he just got her a car so she can move around and now he is getting himself a car point is i really am in love with him i feel we are soulmates...he isalways telling me so and how much he loves me and that were so alike and he knows he will be happy with me i really do feel he is little by little getting things together to leave her just wanna know what you guys think?? [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][COLOR=#800080][/COLOR][/sIZE][/FONT]
whichwayisup Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 He isn't going to leave his wife, ever. Nor his child. The best thing you can do for yourself is, read the other stories by OW in this section and see what you're heading for. Please, be smart and end it now because he is promising you things he CANNOT give you. I'm sure he does have feelings for you, but he is married already. It's not fair of him to ask you to wait either. If you want to see what happens, tell him to end his marriage, get a divorce and THEN call you. Do not see or talk to him during that time either...UNTIL you see signed papers saying his marriage is over. That is when you ask him out again, or wait for him to ask you out. Don't be the OW in his life.
2sunny Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 I feel for you - as he is toying with your emotional side.... He won't leave his wife, he will comtinue to tell you things you want to hear to keep you around. You sound as though you may be young. You have more to offer a long term relationship than what he is proposing. Find a single man to build a relationship with. You will be happier in the long run... Good luck, and hugs to you!
Sami_D Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 ... he tells me he cant leave his wife n his child without money without something stable he just got her a car so she can move around and now he is getting himself a car point is i really am in love with him i feel we are soulmates...he isalways telling me so and how much he loves me and that were so alike and he knows he will be happy with me i really do feel he is little by little getting things together to leave her just wanna know what you guys think?? I think that he'll probably have a string of reasons why he can't leave 'at the moment'... and it could go on indefinitely, while you fall for him more and more, and believe in him. Has he given you a time limit on when he thinks he could leave? Ask him for one. Ask him for far more than 'i love you's'... You need a date, and a firm commitment from him that he will leave. Anything else is, as the others have said... just stringing you along. AND he's not being at all fair!
whichwayisup Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 The fact that he has told you that you remind him of his lost love due to a car accident is a red flag as well. He could be transferring feelings for her onto you. It's a possibility anyway... What he says in the heat of the moment is NOT real long term meaning either. He will say what he feels IN the moment because that he how he feels in that particular moment. When he goes home to his wife and child, they become first in his mind and also, I'm sure he IS still having sex with his wife too. When he tells ya he isn't...He's full of it! Why would he lie to her and not to you. Listen to Sami and the others. THey've been through this and have enough experience to see what you're in.
BUTAFLY Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 WWIS, your first line make me chuckle. I can just hear the monotone montra of... He isn't going to leave his wife, ever. Nor his child. anyway..... I will bet their is a script the all lying, cheating, MM read from. Its oh so familiar, you remind me of my ex, I don't know how many times I have read I don't really love my wife. and I can't leave my children. Lucia its all part of a seduction to lore you in, get you to trust him. He will lie your face and smile while doing it. Sure the will through in some truth now and again, just enough to get you to trust him, but it will never be the whole truth. I would not be suprised if he began asking you for money or suport in some way. He worked you for parents you say? and he is already complaining of finacial problems. and think how his going to promise you anything when he has nothing....he doesn't even have a car! Girl Run don't look back!
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