just got dumped by g-friend of 7 yrs., she blamed everything on me, of course!

[akashalestat]

Title says it all, this is the fifth time in last 2 years, I keep crawling back, except I want to tell her how I have always felt, because prior i ate the karma over and over again, just to get back with her, you know how women can be, never wrong, we as men, eat the ocean floor of the relationship to perpetuate it.

 

My dilemma is, do I bother to let how I feel, it has generally fell on deaf ears, because the woman is always right, right women? Or, do I tell how I feel and how illogical she is, and has for the most part, been wrong in her reasoning? I could let 30 days go by, and get back with her, as in the past, because, all has temporarily been forgotten.

 

Additionally, she is super-hot and the sex is off the scale, even after 7 yrs.--you know, us men, unfortunately, this is our base existence. Sex, food, and praise--this keeps us alive...

 

Looking for advice from female and male, alike, i know most dudes will say dump her and find a new bitch to f***, but I love her and want to make this work.

 

What should I do?

[JustWantToBeHappy]

because the woman is always right, right women?

 

The answer would be, YES............I say that because....

 

Additionally, she is super-hot and the sex is off the scale, even after 7 yrs.--you know, us men, unfortunately, this is our base existence. Sex, food, and praise--this keeps us alive...

 

If you want to stop crawling back every time you break up, start paying attention to what makes her happy.

 

It sounds to me like she's giving you the things that make you happy. No?

[patwheel]

Ouch, I feel you brother. I was in your place 8 months ago.

 

I put my ex on a pedestal and was practically begging her to stay with me. Did the whole thing, showered her with flowers, chocolates, trips, dinners. Loved her, always be part of me, but same as you, she blamed everything on me.

 

But once women made up their mind, it's tough to change them, and more importantly, is not up to you. Its only up to her, and maybe her friends that have oh so important and life-giving advice for her(yes, women are influencable).

 

Grow some cojones back my friend. Ignore her for a little while, but if you do want to make it work, yes dont f.ck others. And if she's worth the pain, why not, it wont kill you to try. But one thing for sure, if the same issue comes up over and over again, maybe it's time to move on, even though it's the perfect trophy wife

[Spank'n'Rationality]

i know most dudes will say dump her and find a new bitch to f***.

 

First off, let me just say that I am a female, and I say "find a new bitch to f***" .

 

you know how women can be, never wrong

 

No, no we're not.

 

woman is always right, right women?

 

Yes, yes we are.

 

do I tell how I feel and how illogical she is, and has for the most part, been wrong in her reasoning? I could let 30 days go by, and get back with her, as in the past, because, all has temporarily been forgotten.

 

I suggest you try counceling; I mean, if she does indeed love you, she will do what needs to be done to work things out (what I'm saying is, if the person is a professional counselor or not, you might need a 3rd party too keep an objective outlook on things). Now, when you say that "all has been temporarily forgotten," do you mean that it is forgotten until another argument breaks out, and all of your "mistakes" that have been seemingly forgotten are then thrown back in your face? Hahaha, (most) women are so funny. Seriously, if I were a guy, I would be gay. I don't know how my straight guy and lesbian friends deal with it .

 

Additionally, she is super-hot and the sex is off the scale, even after 7 yrs.--you know, us men, unfortunately, this is our base existence. Sex, food, and praise--this keeps us alive...

 

Life is too short to deal with this s***; don't waste another 7 years with someone because she is "hot" and "the sex is good." Haha, for such a seemingly rational man, that doesn't sound like you're thinking with your head (your rational one anyway ). Seriously, I am sure you can find a woman who isn't going to put you through this s*** every five months, and who is hot and good in bed too.

[thisgirlistoonice]

It's funny, everyone says men and women are different, but we all have the same things to say when a relationship ends. I can't tell you how many times I have talked about how I "ate" it to keep a relationship going. I think you need to be honest and blunt with each other and see where it goes. Maybe you're only compatible in bed, and that really doesn't make for a good relationship. Sure, she's super hot and sex is off the scale, but is that the only thing you're looking for? If it is, then you can certainly find another bitch to f***. However, if you're willing to think with your big head and figure out what you really want out of the relationship, you need to tell her, see if your needs are a match, then go from there.

[akashalestat]

[quote=Spank'n'Rationality]First off, let me just say that I am a female, and I say "find a new bitch to f***" .

 

It's been awhile since my last post and only have now read these, thanks, this made me laugh, and think how true at the same time.

 

No, no we're not.

 

 

 

Yes, yes we are.

 

 

 

I suggest you try counceling; I mean, if she does indeed love you, she will do what needs to be done to work things out (what I'm saying is, if the person is a professional counselor or not, you might need a 3rd party too keep an objective outlook on things). Now, when you say that "all has been temporarily forgotten," do you mean that it is forgotten until another argument breaks out, and all of your "mistakes" that have been seemingly forgotten are then thrown back in your face? Hahaha, (most) women are so funny. Seriously, if I were a guy, I would be gay. I don't know how my straight guy and lesbian friends deal with it .

 

I like your ironic sense of humor...I suggested counseling in the past and should have take the ball and initiated it, but didn't, If I had, the counselor would have discovered the inbalance in the relationship, and, in her, I think she has bi-polar tendencies, and it probably would have ended anyway. Or, she might have come to terms with her PD, and addressed it, she has always known she has something going on with her, but was afraid or not willing to change.

 

Life is too short to deal with this s***; don't waste another 7 years with someone because she is "hot" and "the sex is good." Haha, for such a seemingly rational man, that doesn't sound like you're thinking with your head (your rational one anyway ). Seriously, I am sure you can find a woman who isn't going to put you through this s*** every five months, and who is hot and good in bed too.

 

Again, funny, with partial truths... The sex for us was a special spiritual religious experience (clarifying: not in any organized religious way, but in a personal religious way, for both of us). The sex raised our consciousness out through our top chakras, there was no or very little baseness to it. And, we had so much fun together and agreed on so many levels, except she claimed those levels as hers, and had such a grandeous view of herself--her view levels were something I already possessed as truths that I didn't need to voice and sometimes I told her so, which she took as pompous, whicch I can understand. Contrary to that, I used to encourage her views telling her, "Honey, you have great insight into things." (you know I praised so much, she though she was a goddess, but, hey, I'm no chicken liver, btw,lol.)

 

Anyway, I'm going to take some more time away, look around causually, or actually not look around, because thats when the "positve wave hits

you, instead of just a particle" (What the bleep do I know-the film). I know shes looking around somewhat desparately in all the wrong places, i.e. younger guys onMySpace, who won't put up with her diva crap.

 

Strangely, I have never felt the way I do about her with any other woman, and I've known my share and had a few other LTRs which I was the dumper, so I guess, thats why I felt little or no residual pain only guilt in those relationships.

 

Even more strange, I know we are destined to have atleast one more round in us. I'll be back on here in about a month or less, telling about it, looking for support.

 

to thisgirltoonice, I really need to figure out what I want from her and in a relationship in general; You now, I consider myself somewhat intelligent, but honestly, I've never really asked myself what I really want, pretty stupid, huh?

 

For me its always been, "the heart wants what the heart wants..."

[akashalestat]

Looking back, this is f-ing hilarious, and true, but funny as it is we're still in the tangle of "us," and what we think we are...