Guest Posted May 23, 2006 Posted May 23, 2006 I was married to my ex-wife for almost 5 years. i'm not saying i was a perfect husband but i loved my ex with all my heart, and told her everyday how much i loved her and how beautiful i thought she was. this woman was my world and i done everything i thought i could to please her. She cheated on me 6 months after we wed, and i stayed and worked it out with her. 2 years later she took off for the weekend at the last minute and spent the weekend with another man. I once again wanted to stay and work it out. A year and a half later she left me for another man, and filed for divorce. This is the time she came clean and told me about an 8 month affair she had just before she took off for the weekend, 2 years earlier. Shortly after I met someone on a trip, and we started dating. My ex started coming back around and wanting to work things out, I kept putting her off but she kept trying, saying that now that she got away from me awhile that she has realized that I'm what she wants. I still love my ex very much, but I have also fallen for the new woman I was dating, I say was cause I broke her heart by cheating with the ex, and then telling her it was over because I thought I wanted to be with my ex again. But now I don't know because of her track record and the fact that I have fallen for this other woman. What to do?
norajane Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 How many times do you need your heart broken before you realize that your ex is a serial cheater and she will continue to ruin your life for as long as you let her? Youv'e already let one good woman go and broken her heart by cheating on her with your ex. Now you want to go back for another round of deception, lies, and heartbreak with your ex? Stop being a doormat and move on with your life. Your ex will only lead you around by the nose and stomp on your heart for as long as you let her do so.
NTB Posted May 24, 2006 Posted May 24, 2006 dude get over the ex she treated you like crap and she will again. move on and get a new GF cause it seems you already messed up with the last
whichwayisup Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Leave the ex in the past. Be alone for a while, heal and deal with the loss of your marriage. Then, pick yourself up, and hope that the woman that you like now is still around...And if she is, then ask her out. The ex is only going to hurt you. She proved over and over and over again she should not have gotten married due to her cheating abilities...So, remember that pain and loss of trust when she calls you and keeps asking you back. Be strong, say NO and move on with your life. If you don't then you are going to be a lonely guy with no real love in your life. Your Ex is a serial cheater and she will never be faithful...TO anybody until SHE can get help and learn how to only BE with ONE person.
RecordProducer Posted May 25, 2006 Posted May 25, 2006 Hm... an angel for one woman, a devil for another? So you never cheated on your ex-wife? YOU have to make the decision and nobody else. If you want to be with your new woman, you can talk to her and see if she is willing to take you back. You slept with your ex then left your girlfriend, it's not like you cheated on her many times while lying and pretending, right? In any case, your wife has a lot of cheating history even after "working things out." It's happened more than once and for a long time, she even left you for another man, all that in 5 years. She really sounds like an unscrupulous serial cheater. Do you believe that she could stop cheating once forever? I can't even conceive the lack of guilt and disrespect that she has shown through the whole marriage. Have you been such a terrible husband? Did you beat her, yell at her every day, call her names, control every move she made? I n any case you don't sound right for each other. You rather sound to me like you have forgotten that there is anyone else in this world for you beside your wife. You're used to her infidelity and can't imagine your life differently. Remember, it doesn't have to be one woman or the other. It can be a third one that you can turn to. There are many women in this world.
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